Jilly10340 Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile now and things are pretty serious between us. He's my bestfriend and we spend all our time together. I love spending all my time with him, and he feels the same way. I don't feel like I'm missing out on other stuff, and I think he thinks the same. I was just wondering if this is unhealthy or if there's such a thing as spending too much time together?
Barby Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Congrads on your new relationship....I've been wondering how things were going for you..haven't seen you post in awhile! Anyway IMHO...........I don't think that spending a lot of time together is unhealthy as long as BOTH parties are happy about it. If both of you are all about spending every spare moment together then I wouldn't worry too much about what other people think!
alphamale Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Originally posted by Jilly10340 I was just wondering if this is unhealthy or if there's such a thing as spending too much time together? it is very unhealthy to spend too much time togheter.
Author Jilly10340 Posted May 3, 2005 Author Posted May 3, 2005 Thanks! Haven't been on in awhile because with this one there doesn't seem to be anything to complain about He's definately a keeper
alphamale Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Originally posted by Jilly10340 Haven't been on in awhile because with this one there doesn't seem to be anything to complain about He's definately a keeper we'll see if u feel the same in 2 or 3 months.
st8toftheheart Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 At the start of every relationship there is always a period where you only want to be with each other. However, a true relationship is two people with two individual lives that come together as one. If you give up your life outside of him for too long, you two will be totally dependant on one another to the point where you may start to become a burden with each other. Now this is not to say that this will happen, but just remember, there is still you in the relationship apart from the us. Happy Hunting
Skeered Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I totally agree with st8oftheheart...I think in a relationship that you need seperate time...but I think that the amount of seperate time is dependent on the couple. Some people may not need as much time apart as others...but I think that personal time to just be away is never bad. Usually each person in the relationship have different things they like to do like hobbies and so forth. Just make sure you have a solid line of communication so that if at anytime either of you feels you need alone time you can talk about it and the other person doesn't become defensive about it. Just my .02
Marshbear Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I think you can spend to much time together. It is good to have seperate lives so you don't run out of things to talk about. I'm glad you really like each other and right now you love hanging out but it will pass. Trust Me...
whichwayisup Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I was just wondering if this is unhealthy or if there's such a thing as spending too much time together? IF it works with you both, then stick to it..But don't forget that each of you had friends and things you liked to do on your own. Just because one is married/in a relationship doesn't mean you stop doing that. Spending all your time together just isn't healthy in my books. Alone time is important and so is doing things on your own. Somehow you guys will just fall into a balance. I don't want to spend every waking moment with my husband and I know he doesn't wanna spend it with me either! We enjoy eachothers company, but neither of us are there to "entertain" the other person.
WhereSpiritsRoam Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 It is has been my observation that spending too much time with someone after the honeymoon phase is one of the leading causes of relationship disintegration. Inevitably one person (or both) gives up so much of their own lives that they become so reliant on the other person for their happiness. This places an undue burden on at least one of the individuals, which generally breeds resentment and a very unstable relationship. I have heard of couples having a "spending too much time together" talk and I always think it's a good idea to be aware just how much you are giving up by frequently being with the other person.
Author Jilly10340 Posted May 3, 2005 Author Posted May 3, 2005 Me and my boyfriend communicate very well together and we talk and talk and talk about everything: what we want, our feelings, etc. I actually talked to him today and we had a conversation about if he feels that we are "spending too much time together." We both agreed that if we ever want time to ourselves or feel that we're not getting the things we need to get done, done, then we'll let the other person know. I feel pretty good about the amount of time we spend together and he says that he's comfortable with it and we don't feel as if we're missing out on anything that we used to do before our relationship. So I guess if it's okay with both of us then it isn't unhealthy and it works for us! Thanks everyone for your replies!
Merin Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Damn... Maybe thats My problem in My working relationship... I've been spending waaaaayyyy to much time at work and I'm sick of looking at My boss Congrats Jilly on finding someone you're crazy about! If things are working well.. then don't fix what ain't broke:)
Pocky Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I spend all my time away from work and school with my husband. Some relationships work well under those circumstances. Our friendship is unique and neither one of us finds any reason why we shouldn't enjoy each others company as much as possible.
NiCoLe20 Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 imo if you spend every single day together - thats a little too much. you will eventually bash heads and get into a big fight over something stupid.... this usually happens. me n my b/f spend a lot of time together but on fridays i have my girls night out, and i dont see him on mondays... so we have a little break from each other ya know... but i wouldnt do it everyday b/c things could get boring and set into a routine
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