fifipheebs Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 why would he try and make me jealous if he doesn't like me? been friends with him for a while. he used to call me all the time and do whatever i told him to. but he never admitted to liking me. he would at the time occasionally tell me who he thought was hot. recently it feels like he's stepped it up with trying to make me jealous by mentioning who's hot (people in real life or celebrities). Is he trying to rattle me?, is he fishing around for me feelings for him? or is he trying to politely say he's not interested without ruining our friendship? is he doing it out of ego?
Tayla Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 hmmm... guess a bit of history would help to understand the dynamics of your relationship. I have guy friends who enjoy sharing their adorations of the female side. Doesn't bring envy or jealousy, in fact, I appreciate them being open about their likes and such. Once secure , it makes no difference who they are eyeing up. In what way does it rattle you? Is his tone comparative or demeaning ? Please share so it can be understood?
wizer Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Maybe he's horny and he's just making conversation. People tend to talk about what's on their mind, as strange as that may seem.
Author fifipheebs Posted July 11, 2015 Author Posted July 11, 2015 hmmm... guess a bit of history would help to understand the dynamics of your relationship. I have guy friends who enjoy sharing their adorations of the female side. Doesn't bring envy or jealousy, in fact, I appreciate them being open about their likes and such. Once secure , it makes no difference who they are eyeing up. In what way does it rattle you? Is his tone comparative or demeaning ? Please share so it can be understood? i have other guy friends who are respectful and do not go on telling me who they find attractive. this particular friend (the way i am comprehending it feels to me he is demeaning. this may or may not be the case and I have my fair share of insecuties) however, the constancy of bringing up females and their physical attributes makes one wonder what he is trying to get at? Hence my questions. Is it a matter of making me jealous or pushing me away to not fancy him -if he reckons that i do. If the latter, i have not ever given indication that I fancy him and i treat him as i would any other male friend.
GooseChaser Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 I could see him doing some of that to try to make you jealous. He wants you to know he's noticing other women as attractive, for whatever reason. Maybe at this point he likes you but doesn't think you'd reciprocate so it's his way of letting out frustration about it and "getting back at you"? Just speculating right now.
Tayla Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 i have other guy friends who are respectful and do not go on telling me who they find attractive. this particular friend (the way i am comprehending it feels to me he is demeaning. this may or may not be the case and I have my fair share of insecuties) however, the constancy of bringing up females and their physical attributes makes one wonder what he is trying to get at? Hence my questions. Is it a matter of making me jealous or pushing me away to not fancy him -if he reckons that i do. If the latter, i have not ever given indication that I fancy him and i treat him as i would any other male friend. Thank you for clarifying. Usually a direct approach would work. Can you state to him your concerns? He would best be able to state his side. I would probably suggest that if he maintains a demeaning or cocky attitude.., then step back and leave him be. There will be your answer. Sorry that he comes off that way... its disrespectful towards you as a lady...
preraph Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 There are plenty of men and women out there who don't want you bad enough to make an effort but would rather no one else have you, because they're just competitive and selfish. Don't pay attention and get your hopes up. Guys like their egos stroked, and some girls too. That's all it is.
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