BrokenDragon Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 I'm a little over a year out from a divorce. Spent the past year healing/working on myself, got a promotion at work, did some travelling out of country, but have yet to date again (I had a few opportunities, but was no where near ready at the time). Now I think it's time! Little background, I'm an architect, not bad looking, been told I'm intelligent, and have a sense of humor. On paper, I'd say I'm a decent catch, aside from being a little short. However, being a professional often requires long hours in the office. At the same time, most people in my field (including myself) lean naturally toward introversion. Personally, I'd say a have a few real close friends, some good work buddies, but I'm not a social butterfly by any means. So generally speaking, what's the right amount of sociability to attract a date? (I'm most interested in the female persuasion, but the question can apply to both sexes). Obviously, being more social will increase chance encounters which could lead to more dates; but I'm more interested in what amount is attractive, i.e. keeping a date/partner. I guess it's the classic struggle between going out and staying home. What's the right balance?
jen1447 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Guess I'm not following you ....you're asking what amount of staying home will a woman find attractive? Isn't that a bit counter-intuitive and putting the cart before the horse?
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 The right balance for you might not be the perfect balance for someone else. When I was single I pushed myself to be more social, which can be hard. I made a point to go to at least 1 social thing a week with the point of meeting new people. This did not count outings out with friends or things I had always done. I was a member of a number of clubs & organizations. However, there are so many hours in a day & you do have to work to support yourself so some weeks I'd "cheat" & go to a business networking thing like a Chamber of Commerce breakfast or in your case an AIA happy hour but count that as my social networking thing too. If you are not a member of AIA consider joining for the social benefits as well as the professional ones.
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