blue_jay_bird Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 How special do you feel when the very next girl is the "one". Not only is she the one. But after you spend years with them, the next girl doesn't even have to wait. They have been together a few years, and you nursed them through almost a decade of happy memories. This is common, so common, really. I feel so used. Such a idiot. I try reading up on it. The only thing that really stands out is the statement; Guys always know if a girl is not the one. If that is true. Why did I this ass stay with me so long. WHY? And why didn't I know/ trust of see this in him. What does she have that I don't? What is so f u c king magical about the next girl that marriage is so easy for them?
Ariess10 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Why ask why? The last few days I have become to see , there is no great answer to why people do what they do .. I mean why did my ex go on a dating site after 3 months? You know what who cares why , it's her life and I'm not in it anymore .. Same with your ex why did he marry her? Who cares not gonna change anything .. Keep your head up
Author blue_jay_bird Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 Understanding will help me not make the same mistake. Understanding will help me avoid assclowns like this. Understanding will help me to know the difference between the ground and the sky. 1
Seeker12 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Although i can tell the difference between a girl i want to be with and a girl i necessarily dont want to be with, (this is past just general attraction). Why your ex decided to move on and just marry first of all isnt your problem (harsh but has to be said), and second of all doesnt reflect on you at all. Neither does it say anything about how "perfect" the other girl is, remember they are probably still in the honeymoon phase of their relationship, he is out of a break up with you, security is what he will be looking for and something to massage the ego now thats taken a knock. Alot of emotions are probably flying around without proper control or recovery, and because of that he is probably jumping two feet into something he may end up regretting later. To him right now marriage may seem the most amazing option, but it could lead to a lot of heartache later.
darkmoon Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 i suspect that girls who get married set certain boundaries, act a certain way, ultimately, they prolly do everything that feminists deplore if ppl give/s this a like, then we will have cracked the code, mmm
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 It was something I feared greatly when I ended a 12 year relationship because he wouldn't marry me. 12 years later I'm happily married but not to the next guy I dated & he's still single. 2
mightycpa Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Understanding will help me not make the same mistake. Understanding will help me avoid assclowns like this. Understanding will help me to know the difference between the ground and the sky. No it won't. I married the next girl, and the one before her was my GF for 3.5 years. She was great, and really, there was nothing wrong with her. I can say more bad things about my wife than I can about the last ex, but of course, I know the wife a lot better now, and the ex, not so much. I was seriously considering marrying the ex because I figured I'd never do any better; she was truly an extraordinary person, and had a lot of great qualities, and we fit together very well. I had no complaints, and I felt lucky to be with her. But the thing is, I wasn't deeply in love with her.. I was shallowly in love with her, and so I didn't feel an urgency to move ahead with her. Then one day, by chance, I met her replacement. I wasn't looking for anything, and it wasn't love at first sight. But after a 45 minute conversation, I just knew. No other way to explain it, I knew I'd marry that girl I'd just met. She had no similar thoughts about me, and in fact, it was more than difficult to get a date. She had a BF at the time. From the day I met her to the day I told my ex was less than 30 days. It would have been sooner, but there were big milestones in her life, and I didn't want to be the reason she messed them up. So I held back and waited. My wife and I had one date, and we've been together ever since. I'm no assclown. I didn't string the ex along for that long only to dump her, and I'd bet that your ex didn't either. So while you may feel like a thoroughly used and discarded second banana, I'm pretty sure that's just bitter self-pity talking. The truth is that he wasn't for you, and you weren't for him, and you never really know what will become of a relationship until after you are in it for a while. 2
lil hoodlum Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Why ask why? The last few days I have become to see , there is no great answer to why people do what they do .. I mean why did my ex go on a dating site after 3 months? You know what who cares why , it's her life and I'm not in it anymore .. Same with your ex why did he marry her? Who cares not gonna change anything .. Keep your head up I've come to learn recently that sh*tty people do sh*tty things. 2
casey.lives Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 it's a lot of things. i wouldn't thinking about it.
No Limit Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Thing is that if a guy is serious about you, he won't waste much time because he'd fear to lose you. Once you notice that a relationship goes nowhere you should move on, even if your partner hasn't done anything wrong per se. 1
lana-banana Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Think of it this way: almost all of us will be on one if not both sides of this situation. There's a very good chance you will be married someday too. In that case, your most recent ex will be in the same position. Everyone who gets married inevitably has someone else thinking "ugh, s/he married the next one!" She's not magical and you're not deficient; it's just about finding the right person at the right time. I don't think it's possible to know you've found the one until they come hurtling into your life. On the other hand, if someone won't commit to you in the way you desire, don't hang around waiting. Your time is too precious. 2
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