OK_computer Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 I came to some realizations, the hard way. I feel that's the only way we actually learn a lesson that sticks for life, the hard way. I've learned to...NEVER...LOOK...BACK. The decisions that were made during the break up, they may be based on temporary emotions, but they are permanent. We can't take back what was said, we can never look at them as we once used to. Time is a straight line, a one way street, and there's no way to rewind/fast forward. And there is no going back, there is no looking back. By looking back i mean, that NC is permanent, it is absolute. I've tried so hard to find a redeeming quality, a reason to contact my ex, anything at all, but there is nothing. There are a 1000 reasons to never again contact her, and because I can never have her, not in this life, death before contact, there is no looking back. What a horrible enemy we can be to ourselves by trying to make amends with which hurts us, crushes us. We'd like to be the exception to the rule, but we are only the example. I'm feeling a little low to day, but I wanted to give a shout out to all those who are teetering, careening, and fighting to break NC. Please don't break NC, there is no looking back. I know for a fact that if there were a billion parrellel universes, the outcome of my RS would have been better in any of them than the one I live in today. In any other time or life, things would not have ended the way they had. But, there is no looking back. I'm so emotionally broken, but I can never go back to her, to what hurts me. Good luck to all those in NC. How awkward would be to eat from a glass that has been shattered 10 times and glued back together 10 times. would it not? 5
Ariess10 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Great post, it will always be a mystery to me how you can date someone than in a blink of a eye they are out of your life .. I mean think about it say you dated somebody for 3 years than one day, just one is all it takes to have them vanish .. Puzzling if you ask me .. Keep your head up tho your not alone by any means 6
Nicola1 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Great post, it will always be a mystery to me how you can date someone than in a blink of a eye they are out of your life .. I mean think about it say you dated somebody for 3 years than one day, just one is all it takes to have them vanish .. Puzzling if you ask me .. Keep your head up tho your not alone by any means I dont get either. My ex was going to propose one minute...the next hes gone 1
Marco Valerio Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Yeap, that's one of the mysteries I will never understand. 2
mightycpa Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 One day, when you fall completely out of love with somebody, you WILL understand. All at once, you'll understand it. I promise. 1
Nicola1 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 One day, when you fall completely out of love with somebody, you WILL understand. All at once, you'll understand it. I promise. No. If you truly love someone you dont fall out of love. He never truly loved me. Clearly. 3
Jemay Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 That's why break-ups and NC are so incredibly hard, you lose someone like in death. It sucks I'm so sad today too 2
Satu Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 If you feel bad and look at the past, the past looks bad. If you feel good and look at the past, the past looks ok. If you feel bad and imagine the future, the future looks bad. If you feel good and imagine the future, the future looks ok. Life is about how you feel now. 1
mightycpa Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 No. If you truly love someone you dont fall out of love. He never truly loved me. Clearly.Maybe... but you can be in love with someone, but not really love them, even though you think you do. It's that "illusion" stage of getting to know someone, and it can last from months to a couple of years. How can you truly love someone that you barely know? Yet, people fall in love all the time after just a little bit of getting to know each other. I think this is a distinction that too many people don't make.
Gus Grimly Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 There are a 1000 reasons to never again contact her, and because I can never have her, not in this life, death before contact, there is no looking back. What a horrible enemy we can be to ourselves by trying to make amends with which hurts us, crushes us. That's such a sad commentary. But it's so true. I'm my own worst enemy right now. My psyche has been at constant odds with my heart. I keep looking back, and it only brings me sadness. "We'd like to be the exception to the rule, but we are only the example." Ouch. That stings. Reality check, I'm not the star of some romantic comedy. There is no happy ending before the credits roll. There's only the truth that my ex has moved on without me. I played a major role in her life, but now I'm being recast. Exit stage right. 2
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