HD93 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 (edited) So I met this girl on University placement last September. We got on well, and we both became good friends pretty quickly. We had a few night outs there in clubs with a few friends, and it did look as if she was being quite flirty with me but nothing happened. I had just come out of a relationship and didn't fancy making any moves. Any who, we got on so well that we ended up doing another placement with each other. Was very nice. But she met this guy back in October, and they have been on/off since. He sounds like a pleb, constantly ending it and then pleads for her to take him back. To be fair, he's a decently good looking guy buy he doesn't live in the same city as us (2-3 hours away so they have to travel to see each other and what not). The girl occasionally brings him up in conversation and tells me how stupid he is again by causing an argument again or something. Then a few months back she says "I enjoy talking to you more than him" or something along those lines. We decided to do our elective together next February as part of our University course (which is an 8 week work placement anywhere in the world - which sounds fantastic ) Now we do text reasonably often. Not every day, but definitely every week. We've texted more recently due to planning the elective and exams and just joking about stuff. She randomly invited me to watch the cricket live with her and her brother this week (I've never given her any sign I'm a cricket fan, while she is). Not met her brother before, so that was nice and stuff. She also gave me a belated birthday card yesterday which read: "I am so happy that I met you this year. You are such a good friend and are always there to make me laugh! I can't wait for our Pacific adventures! Lots of love ********** xxx (ps - (inside joke that we have))." (She didn't bold the friend bit that was me ). Now a good friend of mine says she definitely likes me. I think she's a league above me which I think puts the doubt in my mind. Plus she's always on/off with this pleb of a guy, but I think they're off again at the moment because he's going travelling for a year. I just see signs that she might be interested, but how could she be interested in me when she's been on/off with this other guy? Admittedly I've made no moves. Obviously you guys wouldn't be able to give me a solid answer as you guys don't see how we are around each other, but what vibes are you guys getting from that story? I'd greatly appreciate the comments/further questions about it. THANKS. Edited July 10, 2015 by HD93
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 The whole thing is too equivocal for me. I'd need the context of body language & tone of voice to give you an answer. I will tell you that the longer you wait, the less likely you will have success because you will have put yourself in the friendzone & it will be too hard for her to think of you romantically. I don't believe in leagues. That said, if she has spent all this time with you, texts you & has inside jokes with you, she thinks you two are in the same league.
Author HD93 Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 The whole thing is too equivocal for me. I'd need the context of body language & tone of voice to give you an answer. I will tell you that the longer you wait, the less likely you will have success because you will have put yourself in the friendzone & it will be too hard for her to think of you romantically. I don't believe in leagues. That said, if she has spent all this time with you, texts you & has inside jokes with you, she thinks you two are in the same league. Yeah I understand. It's just tough. I want to make a move but I don't know how over she is over the other guy and mainly, I don't want to make things awkward for our 8 week elective thing. I just really don't know how to make that first move. Or how would I give her the subtle sign that I like her?
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 The next time she uses the word friend, ask if she has ever given any thought to being more then friends. Based on her reaction, never bring the subject up again or ask her out.
Author HD93 Posted July 11, 2015 Author Posted July 11, 2015 So I sent her a message today saying going along the lines of "Thanks so much again for Thursday. Really enjoyed it I'll have to make it up to you somehow! You looked really lovely by the way, don't think I emphasized that enough on the day". To which she replied with "Aw thanks (name) you cutie! It was such a good wasn't it? I love that I might have got to you into cricket! I reeeaaaally wanted to be there yesterday too :(", and then we started talking a bit more about our elective planning. I won't start doing a running commentary of what I'm doing from now on, but I was just wondering (and maybe I'm looking into it way too much) but what do you guys think on how she replied to my compliment? Positive sign or not? Thanks.
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