LindaRose Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Ex and I are broken up for over 2 month and even though we've run into each other before we'd never talk or anything until this Monday. Even ran into each other 3 times and each time he make it a mission to engage me in a conversation, first time he literally was waiting for me outside my car as we both came to the same location at exact time, asked how I was etc till we parted, second time he was just being funny and made a joke as we just passed each other. Third which was today....same thing, same location same time*school* I purposely started to walk away so we wouldn't have to engage in convo but this dude decides to call me to hold up for him and we as usual just go into being funny and poking fun at each other. Here's the thing, this guy broke up with me via message and wouldn't take my call to discuss the matter(called him 2 immediately after message) he messaged me twice and I only responded to the 2 message and now all this. My problem is should I bring up the fact that Iam really bothered by how he ended the relationship cause it was ****ed up and disrespectful or should I just leave it alone and just let it go.
ravfour4 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 You should jokingly ask if he's following you and gauge his reaction. It sounds like he may be interested again, in which case you could and should open up about your concerns.
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 I would throw it in his face but I'm a pretty strong person. If somebody broke up with me respectfully in person, no unnecessary yelling or drama I'm all about civility when I see them again. This guy I'd be like look you weren't man enough to talk to me when it mattered, I have nothing to say you now. Go away & leave me alone.
Author LindaRose Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Lol d0nnivain you sound like my BFF and yes she's a strong like that I on the other hand am a complete opposite, always worried about hurting someone's feeling, coming across rude, etc You think it would still be okay to say that even though we've been civil and even joking and stuff in our recent encounters....don't want to come off as crazy.
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Yes, just change the tone of your voice & perhaps leave out the man enough part. You can soften it to You hurt me deeply when you didn't talk to or have enough courtesy to break up with me in person & instead sent the text message. I don't know what you are trying to do now, but since you couldn't be bothered to talk to me then, I really don't want to walk to you now. Please respect that & leave me alone.
erklat Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 (edited) You should jokingly ask if he's following you and gauge his reaction. It sounds like he may be interested again, in which case you could and should open up about your concerns. Dude, again ? Just last week you potentially set off another heartbroken soul to a world of pain. No. Really. More experience and more accountability for the advice you give to emotionally unstable people here. @op - you don't approach because there is nothing to approach about. I don't think you wish to show him you care. Until dumper faces the responsibility for pain and distrust they built without you telling them. Edited July 10, 2015 by erklat
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