donezo Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 So I finally initiated contact wit ex after 1.5 weeks after she ended a 4 month thing between us and we talked for about 2 hours. Conversation was pretty fun and flirtatious and she said she forgave me for what happen, but still hinted towards only friendship. I agreed so I'm going to take it slow this time and hope for the best. Any ideas on what step to take next?
Chi townD Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 If she hinted to only friendship, then do nothing. She'll have you in the friend zone in no time. Apparently, it sounds like you screwed up. She's not forgetting that.
frigginlost Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 So I finally initiated contact wit ex after 1.5 weeks after she ended a 4 month thing between us and we talked for about 2 hours. Conversation was pretty fun and flirtatious and she said she forgave me for what happen, but still hinted towards only friendship. I agreed so I'm going to take it slow this time and hope for the best. Any ideas on what step to take next? Get to know what type of shoes she likes to shop for, and how you will give her the best relationship advice on the new guy she is going to end up with. Welcome to the friendzone. I read your other threads, and you really needed to back away for a while... 1
mightycpa Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 What's next is that sometime over the next week or so, you'll overstep your bounds, she'll slap you down, and you'll be back on the boards with a new thread about what you should do. What you should do is to learn how to live without her presence or input.
ravfour4 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Just be calm, cool and somewhat cocky. Joke around with her and try to be a bit flirty, but watch the way she reacts so that you don't overstep your bounds. After this meet up, leave it up to her to reach out if she wants to see you again. It will either explode, you'll end up friend zoned or you can slowly regain her trust and attraction, but those are listed in order of most to least likely.
mightycpa Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 I will vouch for Ravfour4... he's tried every kind of "get back into the game" move in the book. Gotta give him props for dogged persistence in the face of overwhelming defeat. He's Davy Crockett in the Alamo of love. 1
ravfour4 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Lol! Made me laugh out loud mighty. I'm feeling much better lately, she still contacts me every now and then, but the obsession is over. My mind is finally calm, clear and most importantly - confident.
Author donezo Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Lol. I'm pretty sure I'll get to meet up with her in the coming weeks because she wanted to meet late at night yesterday but for now I'm taking it easy and I said no. Like I said the conversation went good. Breaking NC was better for me. She said she wasn't contacting me to look out for me and thinks I don't know how to be friends but that is total BS. So now I'm going to be just friends, but wait for her to initiate contact this time.
drade Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 I remember you posting recently here. Take my advice, vanish from this girls life. Seriously? Dude, I gplayed the friend card for 32 days! I was hanging from her string, putting her on a pedestal, pouring myself out, buying her things, ended up smothering her and becoming emotionally unstable. What you are doing, I did, but in a way shorter time frame. The difference between you and me? I haven't talked to my ex in 13 days, and I intend to make it 365+. In just 13 days, i've realized there is way more to life than chasing someone who doesn't want you. I got friend zoned, and she toyed with my emotions. I can still call her up and demand sex, and she would be down. Will I? Hell no, I've already let her strip my self respect and dignity away. I'm better off with someone else, who actually deserves my persistence, love, appreciation and time. Literally, walk away, vanish, stay no contact. You are falling into a trap, once again, and this time it will be very hard to move on. Give it a lot of time and space !!!!!!
Author donezo Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 You make a lot of sense and I think your advice is solid....but I feel with this situation I can't just disappear because if anything I do want to be friends wit her I'm not begging and pleading for anything. If things happen further down the line then so be it. I'm already moving on and accepted everything.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 You make a lot of sense and I think your advice is solid....but I feel with this situation I can't just disappear because if anything I do want to be friends wit her I'm not begging and pleading for anything. If things happen further down the line then so be it. I'm already moving on and accepted everything. There is no way you believe what you just typed. 3
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 I love it when people ask for advice; they get it; Then it's all - "Yes, but, yes but, yes but...." In other words: "I asked all of you for advice, but I'm only going to go with the stuff I read which echoes my own foolish, blinkered way of seeing things which basically means I'm going to ignore all GOOD advice and shoot myself in the foot. Watch this space...." 2
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