walkingonair Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 He texted me a few days ago asking to hangout.The problem is he's planning to move next month and I still have feelings for him.I broke up with him because of this and other reasons due to his intimacy and commitment issues.We didn't see eachother for two months but he texted me throughout the two months and just now asked to see me.idk what to do:(I wanna see him so bad because I miss him and still love him but I'm worried I'll just get more hurt after we hangout.I know this isn't a booty call because when we did date he didnt wanna have Sex most of the time because of his intimacy issues.what should I do guys?
Mm1111 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Follow your heart. Imagine how you would feel if you didn't see him before he went and how would feel if you did see him and your instinct will tell you. I personally would because you have nothing to loose at this stage and you know it's not going to get back to a relationship but just remember that
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 He texted me a few days ago asking to hangout.The problem is he's planning to move next month and I still have feelings for him. Then seeing him is going to merely rip off the bandage and hurt you more, right back to square one. I broke up with him because of this and other reasons due to his intimacy and commitment issues. Why would you be chasing the impossible? Because that's what you're doing. You're eager to see him wishfully. And it's not going to happen... We didn't see eachother for two months but he texted me throughout the two months and just now asked to see me.idk what to do:( I take it you persisted in responding? So in fact, you haven't had any form of 'No Contact' at all, have you? How can you get over someone if you don't separate fully? I wanna see him so bad because I miss him and still love him but I'm worried I'll just get more hurt after we hangout. You're completely right and justified in worrying. That's EXACTLY what will happen... I know this isn't a booty call because when we did date he didnt wanna have Sex most of the time because of his intimacy issues.what should I do guys? What you know you should have done right from the beginning. Go NO CONTACT and separate yourself from any possibility of getting more hurt.
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Follow your heart. Imagine how you would feel if you didn't see him before he went and how would feel if you did see him and your instinct will tell you. I personally would because you have nothing to loose at this stage and you know it's not going to get back to a relationship but just remember that No. Following your heart is the absolutely worst thing you could possibly do. Decisions based on the heart are inevitably, consistently habitually wrong. Sadly, you need to make decisions like this with the head. There is much to lose right now. Her dignity, her stability and her emotions will be put through the wringer. This would be an entirely futile, fruitless and masochistic move. There are times when "What have you go to lose?" actually has a heavy answer. And not in a good way.
roxanne101 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 He texted me a few days ago asking to hangout.The problem is he's planning to move next month and I still have feelings for him.I broke up with him because of this and other reasons due to his intimacy and commitment issues.We didn't see eachother for two months but he texted me throughout the two months and just now asked to see me.idk what to do:(I wanna see him so bad because I miss him and still love him but I'm worried I'll just get more hurt after we hangout.I know this isn't a booty call because when we did date he didnt wanna have Sex most of the time because of his intimacy issues.what should I do guys? I wouldn't waste my time. Been there, done that. If you still have feelings for him just let him go. Don't allow him to play with your emotions.
Recommended Posts