ConfusedInOC Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 The ex used to say she thought of this song when she thought of me. Now all it does is kill me to listen to it.
ForsakenSoul Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Ugh. I hear that. I've got a bunch of songs I can't listen to anymore, because it just tears me up inside. I'm lucky that her music was different than what I usually listen to, and only a few of "my songs" are "tainted" Keep strong, brother. -FS
Three of Swords Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Who is that song by? Yeah - songs are totally powerful at bringing back emotions. It sometimes isn't even the actual words to a song. There was a song I was constantly listening to once at a time I was totally infatuated with a guy and although it wasn't 'our' song nor does it have any other meaning - but it reminds me of the feelings I had at the time. (Patient Mental by Mudvayne - in case your curious). I heard it a while after things didn't work out and it nearly brought me to my knees. But when I hear it now, it just brings a poignant reminder of other times. Guess I got over THAT one anyway.
Author ConfusedInOC Posted May 3, 2005 Author Posted May 3, 2005 Originally posted by Three of Swords Who is that song by? Josh Groban. If you want a song to bring you to your knees, this is the one. When someone tells you that you make them feel this way, what a powerful rash of emotions it brings upon you! Yeah - songs are totally powerful at bringing back emotions. It sometimes isn't even the actual words to a song. There was a song I was constantly listening to once at a time I was totally infatuated with a guy and although it wasn't 'our' song nor does it have any other meaning - but it reminds me of the feelings I had at the time. (Patient Mental by Mudvayne - in case your curious). I heard it a while after things didn't work out and it nearly brought me to my knees. But when I hear it now, it just brings a poignant reminder of other times. Guess I got over THAT one anyway. For me and the ex, it's Hoobastank: The Reason.
Three of Swords Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 The Reason ... that could do it. I have it downloaded (not illegal in Canada - yet BTW). So listened to it just now. The summarization of my feelings for ex-husband is found in Numb by Linkin Park
Nicholas Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I'll never love anyone enough to let them affect my relationship with music.
BrotherAaron Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I did my ex a huge favor when she dumped me and burned an entire CD of all of the songs that reminded me of us... and it really didn't get more personal, either. The intro track was one from a CD I had made her about a year ago where I had voiced over a sweet message at the beginning. Well, according to her roommate (we still talk, she hates my ex ) , when I decided I was pissed and wasn't going to take her back, she listened to it a hundred times over while looking at pictures of me in my designer prom suit, and others of me from snowboarding competitions, and it killed her. Poor child realized what an intelligent, dynamic, interesting, and dead sexy man she lost... meanwhile, the assault of "I can't believe she did that to you... here, give me a call if you need somebody to talk to about it" from the ladies made me realize just how available I could be, and I no longer wanted to have anythting to do with her. At least when im in my right freaking mind (and I don't talk to her either way, so she doens't know the difference). Meanwhile, I only listen to music that makes me feel better - not worse. Most the time it isn't really breakup music. Avoid Dashboard Confessional, and other self-hating depressed music (hoobastank, saliva, etc). I like to go for off-topic music really, like Rage Against the Machine, or System of a Down. Avoid those tear-jerkers.
SinceIvebeenlovingU Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Question for the moderators? If you list the artist responsible for the lyrics isn't it ok to post them considering your giving credit to the source?
Paul Posted May 3, 2005 Board of Directors Posted May 3, 2005 Hi SinceIvebeenlovingU, Originally posted by SinceIvebeenlovingU Question for the moderators? If you list the artist responsible for the lyrics isn't it ok to post them considering your giving credit to the source? We only permit the posting of original content you've written on the site unless the source is given a full citation per our Community Guidelines and Terms of Use: You may not post or transmit any message, data, image or program that would violate the property rights of others, including unauthorized copyrighted text, images or programs, trade secrets or other confidential proprietary information, and trademarks or service marks used in an infringing fashion. Song lyrics, in general, are not permissible. The preferred method of mentioning a song would be to list the artist and the title only. Best wishes, Paul
SinceIvebeenlovingU Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Thanks for clearing that up for the future!!
Author ConfusedInOC Posted May 3, 2005 Author Posted May 3, 2005 Ok, the song posted originally was "You Raise Me Up." Sorry about that, moderators.
ThumbingMyWay Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Pearl Jam's: "Love Boat Captain" has helped me cope and focus.....
NTB Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 right about now every song sucks because it seems today would be the day they play all break up songs that remind me of her needless to say to screwed my weekend over but that is another thread
Fallen_Angel Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I listen to music when I fall asleep at night - it's become something of a habit. But I can no longer listen to the love song station for fear I'll start crying and thinking too much; instead I listen to a station that plays more trance/ambient type music. Mostly instrumentals, I think...don't need to hear any gooey lyrics right now!! Unfortunately I am a music junkie. I listen to the radio all day at work and my satellite radio helps me deal with my ratrace of a commute. All too often I find myself having a visceral reaction whenever a Led Zeppelin or Tom Petty or Dire Straits song or any of HIS favorite bands/artists come on the radio. It sucks because I like a lot of these songs too, but I can't listen to them right now. However I'm reclaiming bands I LOVE and totally ADORE that he despises: Coldplay, Dave Matthews, anything 80's...it's part of my therapy.
whitewhale Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 there was a time once, about a three yrs ago when i went through a traumatic relationship (the now ex-relationship is not as traumatic, thank heaven, even if hard as well) and then I couldn't listen to the whole radio station, and I'm not kidding. he worked in that radio station. so anything related to it was for a while like giving me phobic reaction. I felt panicky when i heard it, I thought i was suffocating nearly. i think it's only now i can really safely listen to it, when I'm mourning another relationship. and of course when i was in it, too. but on the whole, seems not much like a consolation...
eastern_mystique Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 It's been exactly 2 months today since the ex broke up with me It feels so much longer than that. I've found that when it comes to 'songs that remind you of the ex' they can be divided into 3 categories. The first is any song you hear a lot on the radio just before you get together, or while you're together, or just after you've broken up. They're not necessarily anything to do with the relationships at all, you just hear them so much while you're dating this person that they become the soundtrack to your relationship. For me it's songs like Green Day "Holiday", Chemical Brothers "Galvanize" and U2 "Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own" (and my ex really loves U2 as well). Then there are songs that are special to you while you're going out with them. For me there are three of these: The Calling "For You" (the song we had our first kiss to), Hoobastank "Disappear" (the lyrics just perfectly describe how I feel about him) and Athlete "Wires". After we broke up, I told him that I found it really hard to listen to "Wires" as I consider it to be 'our song', and he said "You know what? I was listening to it today and I thought the same thing too". Aaaarrrggghhh, how can two people be so perfect for each other, even to the extent that their thoughts are synchronised and not be together......*cries* Then there are the songs that are all about breaking up or lost loves etc which tear you apart when you hear them, for me Michelle Branch "Til I Get Over You", Hoobastank "What Happened To Us?" and "The Reason" and Christina Aguilera "Walk Away". I hate how music gets ruined and tainted in this way.....it just triggers the pain and memories all over again. The only solution is to listen to music you really, really hate whilst you're in a relationship so if it all ends you won't care anyway that those songs are ruined........or just don't listen to any music at all. Not much of a solution, but better than having to hear a whole bunch of songs that make you feel like you want to die inside.
EC Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Yeah i hear this song ..but I dont know who sings it??? It comes on the radio and hes singing... Let me go hooooooooooooomeee..I want to go hoooomeeeeeeeee! lol anybody know it?
Fallen_Angel Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Is it Marc Broussard's song "Home"? It sounds like that... "Take me hooooooooome..." etc. He's got a pretty deep voice too.
EC Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Nope i looked up the lyrics thats not it... but whenever I hear that song I cant help crying. i wish I knew who sang it?
KissMyTiara Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I'll never love anyone enough to let them affect my relationship with music. I soooo wish I could say the same. I had a long-term, horrible (in retrospect) relationship end in the winter of 2000/2001... All I listened to during that time was Dido (when I was sad) and Nelly Furtado (to cheer me up). To this day, if I hear either artist, even their new stuff, I want to vomit.
crazyyetsane Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 I know a great song that really helped me through my first breakup, and just thought I'd share it with you. "As cool as I am" by Dar Williams. It's got an upbeat tune and great sensical lyrics. I'm not sure how effective it will be for the guys because it's a girl's song, but you should check it out anyway.
mixwell Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 the worst song for me is johnny cash "i still miss someone" , and for some reason now I hate snoop dawgs drop it like its hot. my ex lame bf listens to that and being the sheep that she is, she started listening to that music now.. I dont know any love songs get to me a little still.. expecial oldies !! haa
Nicholas Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by EC Yeah i hear this song ..but I dont know who sings it??? It comes on the radio and hes singing... Let me go hooooooooooooomeee..I want to go hoooomeeeeeeeee! lol anybody know it? Sloop John B ?
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