MidwestUSA Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 The guy isn't afraid of asking Marta out on a 2nd date. He kissed her on their date and has Whatsapped her since --- for a week. They went on a date LAST NIGHT. All that's required of Marta is a text thanking him for a lovely time, and if she wants, a hint that she'd like to see him again. Maybe he has other things going on today (my goodness, he could even be employed!). Maybe he's hungover. Who knows? If she wants to be bold, she can ask him out, this is 2015. Marta, just sit tight and don't overthink it. Good luck! 2
gaius Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Since you're older than him he might be thinking the ball is more in your court, especially with the comment about how he's good at taking orders, but that's the wrong way to play it. And you're absolutely right in denying him a second date as a consequence. 1
Author martaldn Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 thanks all for the inputs. I was out last night i couldnt keep replying sorry! i have news He teeeeexted! this morning quite early actually he said: "Martaaaaa good morning. I cant believe you didnt text me all day yesterday you playa! how is it going?" i played it cool. as I was going to the gym i have replied just now saying. " Heyyy good morning chiquito im good how are you? I have just finished the gym. someone has to be the fit one in the couple " he replied straight away " hahaha I am good too. Im going to the gym later today and I will text you bragging about it . were you hangover yesterday? :D" my last message was" lol I was a bit but manageable... Iam young and wild you know. were you?" he didnt reply but he hasnt read the message yet. i think we are cool right? 3
angel.eyes Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Yes. Great exchange (minus the lack of direct discussion by him about organizing the next date:p). Continue with the light banter and see if he asks you out. In the meanwhile, speak with and date others and just enjoy your fabulous self. 2
Author martaldn Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 Yes. Great exchange (minus the lack of direct discussion by him about organizing the next date:p). Continue with the light banter and see if he asks you out. In the meanwhile, speak with and date others and just enjoy your fabulous self. haha! thanks! I know!!! but the original plan was to meet up next week end ( not this one coming the next one ) so I want to keep things light and easy without mention it... yet.... we still have over a week of time to plan it
Author martaldn Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 Yes. Great exchange (minus the lack of direct discussion by him about organizing the next date:p). Continue with the light banter and see if he asks you out. In the meanwhile, speak with and date others and just enjoy your fabulous self. I have a date tonight with another guy... lets see how it goes. 3
jen1447 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 He teeeeexted! this morning quite early actually he said: "Martaaaaa good morning. I cant believe you didnt text me all day yesterday you playa! how is it going?" Haha - so he really was waiting for you to go first and felt that bc you didn't you were 'playin' him. Figures. Anyway good luck, glad it's straightened out more or less. 1
Lansing Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 As a guy, I do appreciate a "thanks for dinner last night" or "thanks for the drinks" or whatever the next day... Regardless, I had a feeling the guy would contact you again. Glad to hear you heard from him. Don't be worried so much... Curious, how much younger is he? 1
Author martaldn Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 Haha - so he really was waiting for you to go first and felt that bc you didn't you were 'playin' him. Figures. Anyway good luck, glad it's straightened out more or less. exactly! I had the same impression but i decided not to go further and ignore that bit. he called me player while he was playing the same game the little sod! 1
Author martaldn Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 As a guy, I do appreciate a "thanks for dinner last night" or "thanks for the drinks" or whatever the next day... Regardless, I had a feeling the guy would contact you again. Glad to hear you heard from him. Don't be worried so much... Curious, how much younger is he? when we left the place I told him i had a good time and i wanted to do it again. for me this is a sort of "thank you for the night" isnt it? he is 7 years younger i know its a big gap...
MidwestUSA Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 when we left the place I told him i had a good time and i wanted to do it again. for me this is a sort of "thank you for the night" isnt it? he is 7 years younger i know its a big gap... If he texted to make sure you got home okay, I would have reiterated my thank you at that time. And of course the 'lets do it again!'. But, it sounds like the exchange went well - cute. You go cougar! 1
Author martaldn Posted July 11, 2015 Author Posted July 11, 2015 If he texted to make sure you got home okay, I would have reiterated my thank you at that time. And of course the 'lets do it again!'. But, it sounds like the exchange went well - cute. You go cougar! He called me cougar too lol Yesterday he told me he is going to be the wingman to his friend.. But he doesn't want to do it - He said it's weird an asked his friend if he could bring another guy along We joked a bit around this and I told him not kiss and touch at the first date as mum (me) tough him Do you think he told me the wingman thing to see if I would get "jelouse"? The date with the other guy went ok. He was a nice guy but zero physical attraction so I don't think I will see him again 1
fitnessfan365 Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 The date with the other guy went ok. He was a nice guy but zero physical attraction so I don't think I will see him again Haha... Ever notice how when a woman calls a guy "nice", it's always accompanied by the word "but". BTW - Marta don't stress over the first guy being 7 years younger. Just focus on the chemistry and the fact that you like him. The insight I have to offer is from the other side. I've dated a lot of older women, and a huge turn off for me was always insecurity over the age difference. They'd get hung up on it and need constant re-assurance. So don't be that woman constantly worrying about it. He wouldn't be going out with you if he wasn't attracted. 1
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