Gloria25 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 I don't get it... I just responded to a thread and heard a call on my fav podcaster about guys who go online and cyber with women and don't see any issue with it because they have not had any in-person/one-on-one physical contact with these women. I don't know, I still think it's toeing a line cuz you're still doing something with another woman that you should be doing/sharing with your SO... Also, how can a guy do this? How can he cyber, phone sex, and/or do video chats w/o wanting to get physical with the chick he's cybering/phoning/videoing with? Does he just go to his SO/gf and have a release (like have sex thinking of the cyber/phone/video chick)? Does he masturbate? I don't know, I couldn't do that forever. I'd have to get physical with the person at some point...
Palmeiras Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 (edited) Yeah... This is would be cheating for me. Back in the pre-internet days, I'm pretty sure that looking at and/or watching porn was considered a type of cheating in most conventional relationships. And I'm a conventional relationship kind of guy. Maybe that makes me a stick in the mud. The internet has opened a whole Pandora's Box of new relationship "possibilities" and issues in its short existence. Before, I think the lines between different types of relationship groups were more clearly demarcated, and people had to find their circles through more personal interactions. Now, all sorts of epic novel and naughty relationship alternatives are just a click away for everyone. Discussing cheating and what constitutes it is much more challenging and complex than before. I think this underscores the need to discuss these things before exclusivity properly commences nowadays. As for me, I just don't understand most of this stuff. When I'm into a woman, I'm into her and her alone. And I just don't have any interest in these new alternative relationship formats anyway, regardless of my "regular" relationship status at any given time. They have no substance or value to me. And if I want to talk to and cultivate camaraderie with people of either sex, I have... y'know, real flesh-and-blood friends. I can hang out with these people without being concerned about scandalous intentions and unwelcome innuendo. It's fun and whatnot. More people should give it a try. Edited July 9, 2015 by Palmeiras 2
baco Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 The line that separates cheating from not cheating in my view offcourse, is if there is interaction (physical or not) between the parts, for example, I don't consider watching porn cheating because it's a passive experience, having cyber sex with someone is cheating, specially if it is a "real person", not someone whose job is to get a guy off, like in phone sex, this last one is where the line is a bit more blurry (phone sex, webcams) you can talk to the other person and interact with them, but there is no physical contact and the other person couldn't care less about you, it's just her/his job and a persona that she/he creates not the real person, still I would not like a partner to engage in those type of activities. 1
candie13 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 you lost me after the second paragraph of your post. The moment men seek gratification - sexual or emotional - outside the RS - with other women - they're out. I don't have time or disposition for complicated RS. I'm all about the full package. Complicated answers usually have extremely easy answers. He's screwed up. F*cking take a hint and leave. 4
jen1447 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Also, how can a guy do this? How can he cyber, phone sex, and/or do video chats w/o wanting to get physical with the chick he's cybering/phoning/videoing with? Mutual masturbation. 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Cheating is anything you would do behind your SO's back and you wouldn't want them to know, not automatically with other ppl so yeah, that's cheating. As for cyber sex, it's all in the mind. Can be v. exciting, actually (with the BF, of course). 2
Author Gloria25 Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Mutual masturbation. Lol.... I 1/2 likey... I still think there's a big difference. In person touching, smelling, tasting them is different than watching them get off.
jen1447 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 It is very different, but it's still very very enjoyable. Just a diff form of sex really - I don't even consider it masturbation as that's sth you do completely on your own. You should try it Glo.
Author Gloria25 Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 It is very different, but it's still very very enjoyable. Just a diff form of sex really - I don't even consider it masturbation as that's sth you do completely on your own. You should try it Glo. Well see, my fav podcaster was talking about how the "virtual" stuff is taking us away from "real" stuff and yes, I've done phone/text sex - and yes, you can get off, but still, I at some point want the real person. Let's say cyber/phone/text/virtual sex is "hamburger" and sex in person is "steak"...hamburger can only satisfy you to a point.
jen1447 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 But would you never have hamburger if you couldn't always have steak? To me all sex is good sex and better than not sex. 1
Author Gloria25 Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 But would you never have hamburger if you couldn't always have steak? To me all sex is good sex and better than not sex. I'm having "chips" for a year now and it sucks eggs... I was thinking to evolve it into "hamburger" by sending out some naughty pics...but, want steak....want steak now!!! And, while I sent out the naughty pics, kinda scared to take it into "hamburger" territory cuz then I know I'm really gonna want steak!!!:eek:
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