Vintage79 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Online dating = garbage only for garbage people. I've met a bunch of awesome women online, and my general response rate was about one in 2 messages, or 2 out of 3 messages. Yes, my response rate was higher than most, but truthfully, I would only write to about 3-4 women per week (if that) - it was never hard to get 1-2 first dates lined up each weak if that was the goal. Yeah - probably a whole lot easier for me than most, and a few people think I'm pretty attractive, but by no means the big meaty, super sexy movie star type. If you're not getting responses, why blame the women? They respond to some people - the commonality is you and consequently it's hard to argue that the problem is anything but you - you need to do something different, adapt as someone said, use different text, more words, fewer words (whatever your style was), more personal, less personal, more humorous/witty, etc. - something different. My view is if you're writing to more than a couple of people in a day, you're likely not selecting the people you write to very well and you're likely not targeting the message to them very well. Now you're bitter, think that the women online owe you something, and the result is that you've become effectively an undatable, bitter, sour person - cheer-up, change something, and you'll likely do a lot better. 1
joseb Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 (edited) A lot of it is in your attitude. What kind of messages are you sending? Now that said, I have tried ok Cupid for a few months now. They email me a list of matches daily. I think I have seen 2 in total that I would consider dating. Not sure if it's that ok Cupid sucks, or it's just cause of demographics (im a bit older but young and heart so prefer girls a bit younger than me). At least on tinder I do see a few attractive people, I'm actually meeting one tonight, first one. For me though, real life is the way to go. Edited July 9, 2015 by joseb
phineas Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Are you kidding? The men are absolute pigs!!! What do the women typically say in their profiles? The men seem to all be using the same script. It's astonishing how many of them hike, windsurf, kayak, etc. The rivers and hiking trails should be packed! And, let's not forget, they wake up each and every day wondering how they can touch the lives of others. Makes me want to gag. You know they're no where near as romantic, exciting, and golden-hearted as they claim or their wives would have kept them. Can't people just be honest? "Attentive, at least until I can get you to blow me, after which you can make me a sandwich. {fart}" And every woman rides 4 wheelers, mt bikes, fishes, plus 100 other things no person could actually do on a regular basis all the while "my children are my life" ing. lol. its why i treat online like real life. I say "hi" or ask "how's it going?" they either respond because they like my pics or their vagina's collect cobwebs because they expect a man compose a love epic to them in their initial message. OP online should not be your only source of women for dating if it is then thats your biggest problem. You need to go out & meet women in person.
Phoe Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 I'm sure my ex that I met on OLD would tell you that OLD isn't all that bad. He got in a relationship from it. And had 2 dates before me. I replied to every single message except for the sexual ones (I only got 2 total ). I wasn't concerned about looks or money or whatever "impressive" thing was supposed to be listed in their profile, I barely looked at the profiles. I wanted to interact with these men. The only way I would EVER know if I would be compatible with a single on of those men, was to talk to them. So that's what I did. In total, I got about 16 or 17 messages during my stint on OLD. Not thousands lol. It was a totally manageable number that allowed me the chance to respond to every message! Not every man responded back though. Out of the 16-17 who messaged me, I responded to about 14 or 15 (ignored the 2 sexual ones). A little less than half responded back, about 6 of them. By the end, only 3 were messaging me, and the first one to ask me on a date, got the date, and then I left OLD.
alphamale Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 ive just spent all day messaging. not a single dammed reply. you women seriously have nothing to complain about. if youre a man and youre not channing tatum youre worthless in OLD world. theres like a million lonely men on there and a few women who only reply to players. dating period is all a big joke. yea, OLD heavily favours women
alphamale Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 , but I sure wasn't looking to date Uncle Fester, either. whats wrong with uncle fester? at least he was employed
Toodaloo Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Well the guy I met last night has been having fun with OLD - far more than I have!
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