MoreAmore Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 How many times have you proposed or been proposed to? How old are you? How long do you want to know someone before the proposal? If someone said no would you end the relationship immediately, or be willing to continue in the relationship? I'm 30. I have... An extensive history of being proposed to, strangely. It's certainly nothing I have consciously pushed in any relationship. Nothing ever survived long after a no. Then, most yeses didn't survive the engagement. I've only actually been married once. I have acquired evidence a new proposal is coming. (Same relationship in which I have expressed doubts.) I've hinted to defer it a while. Your experiences are appreciated. I am more asking for those than advice on my particular situation. I will draw from them.
Tribble Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 I've never been proposed to. And never come close haha. But nos don't always have to spell the end, although granted, they often do. It depends on a lot of things and probably why they said no. The first time my Dad proposed, my Mum said no. He knew she was 'the one' but they'd been going out for 8 weeks! My Mum was 20 or 21 at the time and she just thought it was too soon. They did end up getting married (she said yes the second time) and they'll be celebrating their 30th wedding anniversary in February.
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 I was proposed to once shortly before my 41st birthday by the man who is now my husband. I think my MIL once told me that my SIL has been proposed to by about 7 different men. She finally accepted the proposal from her now husband.
MissBee Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 I've never been proposed to. However, I also don't believe in surprise proposals, in the sense that, you and your SO have NEVER seriously discussed marriage and more or less agreed to it, before the actual proposal. Marriage is a big deal and in my relationships we've discussed whether or not that is something we want or see for ourselves so if they proposed it wouldn't have been some huge surprise that they wanted to get married. I believe that a proposal is only the formal and ceremonial act of asking someone who you already know wants to marry you because as a couple you've had the talk about marriage before and everything is headed in that direction. If you've never seriously discussed it and the person just pops up and asks, while some may think it is romantic, I think it's a bit silly. If you've had multiple proposals from people you don't want to marry, they may be very impulsive and not very aware. The guys I've been with tended to be more practical and not as impulsive, but if for some reason I really was feeling a man and the relationship was new and he just up and proposed with ZERO discussions beforehand, I'd perhaps tell him it wasn't a no, but that we needed some time.
GoldieLox Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Only once, by my husband. It wasn't a surprise. It was something we discussed extensively, and we picked out the ring together. I do wish we had waited a bit longer, sometimes I feel we rushed into it, and I wish I had sorted some issues out with myself before getting married... but hindsight is everything. I don't regret marrying him.
autumnnight Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 3 times...one was a joke lol I said yes both times but only married once
acrosstheuniverse Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Never... I'm 27. Have had a few serious relationships, am in probably my third serious relationship now. It just never really crossed my mind... in the first relationship I was 18-22 and way too young, the second only lasted two years which would have been too soon for me, and this one we've been together a year and a half. I know girls my age who've been engaged two or three times already... you have to ask how serious someone is taking the concept of marriage if they've already agreed multiple times to be someone's wife! Maybe that sounds a little judgmental, but I'd like to think I'd only say yes to someone I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. Sure, things happen. But it's the kind of thing I really can only imagine doing once. I've never really brought up and definitely never pushed for marriage which is probably why I'm happily unmarried right now.
Toodaloo Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Serious ones around 3 or 4 with one of those being one I would have accepted had we sorted out a few on going problems first. Jokingly tons... Two proposals just yesterday. None today but working on it! 1
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