Author yxalitis Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 Lighten up Aussies. *redneck on front porch, chewing a straw, aiming along a rifle Hey ma! I gots me another one of dem dere introoders Yee haw, slaps thigh 1
jen1447 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 That's offensive! Seriously was that an illustration of sth or did it just go over my head?
Author yxalitis Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 That's offensive! Seriously was that an illustration of sth or did it just go over my head? Poorly understand national cliches 1
Author yxalitis Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 Stop dating. YOU stop dating! Oh, sorry, knee jerk reaction. Mmm, I'm gonna keep dating, just try and avoid the crazy from now on... 2
writergal Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 ??? Ten characters I'd found a website online that listed Aussie slang. Clearly it's out of date. Yeah, I know! Still, she tried... Exactly! *redneck on front porch, chewing a straw, aiming along a rifle Hey ma! I gots me another one of dem dere introoders Yee haw, slaps thigh Ha-ha! Nice impression of an American southerner. You get an A for effort! Poorly understand national cliches Poorly understood is right if you've ever visited the south here. Hard to understand people because of their thick southern accent.
Brigit_1 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 YOU stop dating! Oh, sorry, knee jerk reaction. Mmm, I'm gonna keep dating, just try and avoid the crazy from now on... Sorry you're going thru a bad time.
Author yxalitis Posted July 11, 2015 Author Posted July 11, 2015 Sorry you're going thru a bad time. You sound nice...want to go out sometime?
TouchedByViolet Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 You put up with too much BS. Very common behavior, unfortunately.
Author yxalitis Posted July 11, 2015 Author Posted July 11, 2015 ONE DOWN. Saw FB #2 last night told her I wanted a normal life, no more casual games. She asked if I wanted to marry her. I politely refused on the grounds that she only wanted PR, and that I'm only marrying for love. She accepted this graciously. I dropped her back home this morning...I hope she's OK, nice kid, bit mixed up. (I can talk!) Today it's #1's turn... Hmmm, this will be interesting, as she is 100% batcrap crazy (in a good way) News at 9:00.
candie13 Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 mate, not sure you're going to understand my advice... but there is a reason why you have attracted these chicks. Is maybe because you needed sex and drama and people around you, for a while. Of course, it's always best to start fresh, no fwb or dead bodies in your closet... but it's hard. You may feel lonely. It is hard to be all alone. Basically, I am not telling you to not break up with any of your gfs or casual sex partners. What I am telling you is to be kind to yourself and to be sensitive to your needs.Sometimes they may be as simple as just.. companionship. You are going through a tough time. No one expects you to be perfect. Do your best to make it through in one piece and ideally, without damaging too many people on the way. that's all I've been meaning to say. cheers, mate!
Snakechammah Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 Yxalitis, you are super adorable!!! Love your responses in this thread 1
jen1447 Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 You sound nice...want to go out sometime? Better stay away from my GF unless you want a beatdown. :cool:
Author yxalitis Posted July 12, 2015 Author Posted July 12, 2015 Weeeell, I saw the other girl, let's call her Cat, in order to let her go. Conversation started along the lines of "I want to find the one true love, the one that's right for me, forever. I can't keep having casual sex..." She didn't take that well... We talked And talked Sooo now I (we) have decided that until Cat returns to Malaysia when her Visa expires in October, we will see each other as bf gf... That way I keep seeing this fun, crazy,wild girl, and not worry about dating anyone...and see what happens.
guest569 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 I cant help but wonder if some of this is self inflicted..
Author yxalitis Posted July 12, 2015 Author Posted July 12, 2015 I cant help but wonder if some of this is self inflicted.. Well duh! of course it is...I'm not blaming karma or the Gods... I don't think of things like the "wrong" type of girl, or the "right" type. I don't believe in type casting like that, everyone can be good and do bad things, and vice versa... Everyone deserves a chance to be normal, happy, content. Cat confessed to me that she has never had a proper boyfriend...just hook up after hook up, but that she always thought that I could be the one...that's why she kept in touch for so long...maybe she sees that normality in me screaming to get out No one is beyond redemption.
elaine567 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Seems there is a huge lack of communication here. YOU think of them as FWB, and they are looking at you as relationship material. That is not right, you are leading those girls on to think they are more special in your life than they really are. YOU are just using them for sex and for cooking you meals by the sound of things. I suspect that this is partly due to the fact they are Asian and the language may be a barrier, but come on... play the game fairly. Ugh!!! 1
jen1447 Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 Weeeell, I saw the other girl, let's call her Cat, in order to let her go. Conversation started along the lines of "I want to find the one true love, the one that's right for me, forever. I can't keep having casual sex..." She didn't take that well... We talked And talked Sooo now I (we) have decided that until Cat returns to Malaysia when her Visa expires in October, we will see each other as bf gf... That way I keep seeing this fun, crazy,wild girl, and not worry about dating anyone...and see what happens. Unclear ....you're BF/GF with the Christian girl again for the time being? If so, cool.
Author yxalitis Posted July 12, 2015 Author Posted July 12, 2015 (edited) Seems there is a huge lack of communication here. YOU think of them as FWB, and they are looking at you as relationship material. That is not right, you are leading those girls on to think they are more special in your life than they really are. YOU are just using them for sex and for cooking you meals by the sound of things. I suspect that this is partly due to the fact they are Asian and the language may be a barrier, but come on... play the game fairly. Ugh!!! For your and Jen's clarity... First girlfriend after my marriage was a Chinese girl, let's call her Fay, I was with her about 5 months, but she was seeing her ex bf still, and couldn't break up with him when I confronted her...so i left. A few months later she calls, invites me to China, she broke up with him, can we try again...blah blah...so I do, fast forward a few months and I find out she started seeing him again! I truly loved this girl, and was heart broken... I leave, I move into a place with a new flatmate and her 8 year old daughter, we'll call her Karen. Karen likes me from the get go, and basically seduces me, on day two we end up in bed together. For more complex reasons explained in my posts here we break up. I wasn't just heart broken, I am devastated...this break up really hurt me. I went back dating too soon ( I admit), and met "Clara", who was independently wealthy, but kept telling me she "didn't feel the romance" only wanted a friendship (But we were having sex...so FWB)...etc. However, I don't feel anything and despite her talk, I get the feeling she wants more...I tell her outright that I'm not feeling anything, can we just be friends, she assures me this is OK, but a little later she wants to go exclusive...so I umm, and aah a bit, and finally tell her that I'm not ready. Turns out she was in love already (6 weeks) and I broke her heart... In this time I also met two casual girls, Jenny, who started talking about "Sending money home" so I cut her loose, and Cat, who was 100% FB (This is her term she used to describe us), but when I tried to let her go too, she revealed she really likes me, and can't we try to have a better relationship. I tell her openly, all about my inability to feel anything for the girls I'm dating, including her (And being an FB, she's knows all about the other girls, no secrets). She still wants to try...so I agree, after all, she's going back to Malaysia in October, so we both know that whatever happens it's only what it is... Since the break up with Karen I find I can't feel much for my partners, whether just dating, or more. I can't let go, fall in love, feel anything, I'm numb. This is why I've decided to not try again, I'm not dating until Cat goes back to Malaysia, as she knows my story, and I do like her, even if she is socially awkward. She's had a tough life, alcoholic father who didn't look after her, no money in her family...so I feel something for her, even if it's not love. So, there, everything in a nutshell... Oh, Christian lady was 2 dates, and a peck on the cheek...I just enjoyed out ability to talk for hours, we were getting close, closer than any of the others, but, well, yeah... Edited July 12, 2015 by yxalitis
writergal Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 (edited) For your and Jen's clarity... First girlfriend after my marriage was a Chinese girl, let's call her Fay, I was with her about 5 months, but she was seeing her ex bf still, and couldn't break up with him when I confronted her...so i left. A few months later she calls, invites me to China, she broke up with him, can we try again...blah blah...so I do, fast forward a few months and I find out she started seeing him again! I truly loved this girl, and was heart broken... I leave, I move into a place with a new flatmate and her 8 year old daughter, we'll call her Karen. Karen likes me from the get go, and basically seduces me, on day two we end up in bed together. For more complex reasons explained in my posts here we break up. I wasn't just heart broken, I am devastated...this break up really hurt me. I went back dating too soon ( I admit), and met "Clara", who was independently wealthy, but kept telling me she "didn't feel the romance" only wanted a friendship (But we were having sex...so FWB)...etc. However, I don't feel anything and despite her talk, I get the feeling she wants more...I tell her outright that I'm not feeling anything, can we just be friends, she assures me this is OK, but a little later she wants to go exclusive...so I umm, and aah a bit, and finally tell her that I'm not ready. Turns out she was in love already (6 weeks) and I broke her heart... In this time I also met two casual girls, Jenny, who started talking about "Sending money home" so I cut her loose, and Cat, who was 100% FB (This is her term she used to describe us), but when I tried to let her go too, she revealed she really likes me, and can't we try to have a better relationship. I tell her openly, all about my inability to feel anything for the girls I'm dating, including her (And being an FB, she's knows all about the other girls, no secrets). She still wants to try...so I agree, after all, she's going back to Malaysia in October, so we both know that whatever happens it's only what it is... Since the break up with Karen I find I can't feel much for my partners, whether just dating, or more. I can't let go, fall in love, feel anything, I'm numb. This is why I've decided to not try again, I'm not dating until Cat goes back to Malaysia, as she knows my story, and I do like her, even if she is socially awkward. She's had a tough life, alcoholic father who didn't look after her, no money in her family...so I feel something for her, even if it's not love. So, there, everything in a nutshell... Oh, Christian lady was 2 dates, and a peck on the cheek...I just enjoyed out ability to talk for hours, we were getting close, closer than any of the others, but, well, yeah... Dude, your love life is like the plot of that Tom Cruise movie, Lines from that movie that fit here: Sophia: Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around. David: The little things. There's nothing bigger, is there? Julie: Don't you know when you sleep with someone, your body makes a promise whether you do or not. David: I want to live a real life. I don't want to dream any longer. Sophia: (in Spanish) Open your eyes. Open your eyes. Open your eyes. Open your eyes. Open your eyes.... Edited July 12, 2015 by writergal
Author yxalitis Posted July 12, 2015 Author Posted July 12, 2015 Dude, your love life is like the plot of that Tom Cruise movie, Lines from that movie that fit here: "Fit here" when hammered into place with a large sledgehammer...
writergal Posted July 12, 2015 Posted July 12, 2015 "Fit here" when hammered into place with a large sledgehammer... ha-ha-ha! Take off your mask David. You don't need it anymore.
Author yxalitis Posted July 13, 2015 Author Posted July 13, 2015 ha-ha-ha! Take off your mask David. You don't need it anymore. I just can't picture Tom Cruise in a romantic role...I'd half expect to pull out a rocket launcher and take out the some druglord's car...or something...
writergal Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 I just can't picture Tom Cruise in a romantic role...I'd half expect to pull out a rocket launcher and take out the some druglord's car...or something... I know he's an action star, but I think his movies Vanilla Sky, Cocktail, Far and Away, and Jerry Maguire show his romantic side as an actor. Now, back to our movie, The Women of Yxalitis. So, after all those dalliances are you going to take a break from romance now? What's your plan?
Grumpybutfun Posted July 13, 2015 Posted July 13, 2015 Dude, are you only dating Asian women who think of you as a dollar sign? Sending money home, sex, drama, keeping you hooked with emotional manipulation when you start to move on? I haven't read all of your threads, but that is all I can surmise from this one. Seriously, no judgement, just wondering if you aren't being played? Confused, Grumps 1
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