jen1447 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 What the HELL HAPPENED TO MY LIFE! Life happened, big fella.
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 That is Back of Bourke from the U.S., eh? Stop dating those bodgy women. Go have a chokkie and a butcher after work. Or some plonk from the milk bar. You're a right dunnie rat. A real larrikin! Love - give it a burl when you're ready. Right, she'll be! Oh dear, you really need help with Aussie slang, that was terible. You just say Back of Bourke, meaning a long way from anywhere, you never use it as a distance like you did. "Yeah mate he lives Back of Bourke" Chockie and Butcher haven't been used since the second world war, and mean nothing these days. Plonk is cheap wine, and you can't get that from a milk bar, which isn't a licensed premise. The rest just hurt me ears... 2
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Life happened, big fella. "big fella"? Why Jen, are you flirting?
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 You're so fkn cool, Writergal! . No Aussie would agree...
jen1447 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 "big fella"? Why Jen, are you flirting? Actually it's more like mussing your hair while helping you with a gut check but if it makes you feel better, sure. 2
Popsicle Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 For twenty years I was mr. normal guy, married, kids, full time office job...just an average Joe. Then for reasons relating to my Childrens' mental well being, I left her. those who are interested can simply search my threads to get detials on all the following... I then rebounded into a relationship with someone obsessed with her ex. After giving her two chances to stop seeing him, I gave up, and moved out, into a shared flat where I immediately started a new relationship with a sexy single mom, but after 9 months, I left her as she couldn't love me the way I needed to be loved..that break up cut me deeply. I rebounded into another relationship with a woman who assured me she only wanted a FWB relationship (She didn't use that term, but that's what it is in a nutshell) She then proceeded to fall head over heals in love with me, and I left her because "I wasn't feeling it" I picked up a couple of casual girls around this time, BOTH are very keen to see me, all the time, they are both very young (28, 30) and despite CLEARLY being FB's, are acting jealous if I cancel a date. I then started dating a Christian woman, happy that at least I had a chance to return to normality... The in ONE DAY this happened. First, the Christian lady just cut all ties to me, blocked all avenues of communication, for reasons I can only hazard a guess (I think she googled my we chat username, yxalitis, same as this forum...oops). I had made amends (so I thought) with the other lady I was dating so I rang her, just to talk to someone as I'm feeling a bit down, and my best friend didn't answer the phone. She is drunk, and bursts into tears because I broke her heart! She is sobbing inconsolably about love, life, and how she never wanted to fall in love again...so now I'm feeling like a number 1 jackass bastard. I tell her I'll come over after work the next day to talk....what else can I do? Then I shower and get ready for bed, when the younger FB rings, distraught. "Can you pick me up, I need to stay with you" Her, umm, friend/lover/partner/flatmate is a dom, she's the sub, in a "lesbian but they aren't lesbians" weirdo relationship I've never been able to fathom. Anyway, this girl had enough of abuse, and wanted to get out. So she is in my bed now, while I'm typing this at work (Yeah, I know, but I can hardly concentrate with all this going on in my head!) In retrospect, I think that was my fear with the other lady, who I didn't feel right with, she is independently wealthy, just lives on investments, and would have offered me a wild lifestyle jetting around the world. WTF, am I crazy to pass that up... No, because...I guess I seek normality. Jesus..how do I get back to normal? I'd say you don't want to be normal, just because you even got into those situations one after another. It would probably be too boring for you anyway and you'd find a reason to break up with her. 1
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Actually it's more like mussing your hair while helping you with a gut check but if it makes you feel better, sure. "gut check" 183cm 75kg Oh, wait you're a yank... 6ft, umm 165lb check away!
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 I'd say you don't want to be normal, just because you even got into those situations one after another. It would probably be too boring for you anyway and you'd find a reason to break up with her. You know you're probably right...
Radu Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Prefer this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqlsVZ1zxMk Probably my favourite Pink Floyd song, love the way it transitions through stages. I hate the typical (beetles include) song format: Verse Verse Chorus Verse Verse Bridge Solo Chorus Chorus chorus...fade out ..stuff that get regurgitated endlessly Oh, then you will love this : Lyrics start at 2:40 . and to give you hope : because it all sounds like : 1
Radu Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 "gut check" 183cm 75kg Oh, wait you're a yank... 6ft, umm 165lb check away! Not much gut, it sounds rather skinny. OP, have you thought that maybe you enjoy the agony of having choice/choices ? 1
S_A Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Wow! And: First, the Christian lady just cut all ties to me, blocked all avenues of communication, for reasons I can only hazard a guess (I think she googled my we chat username, yxalitis, same as this forum...oops). That sucks royally man. Sorry about all the craziness you're going through. Maybe stop trying to mingle with the opposite sex for a bit?
elaine567 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Keep away from Asian women who see you as a meal ticket, or a trophy and who you obviously do not understand, due to the language and cultural differences. I suggest you stop acting like a sex crazed teenager too and the "madness" will stop. 1
candie13 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 hum, let's see: the first year after a long RS - marriage or not - you're really screwed up. Seriously. The bad part is that you don't even know it. You're vulnerable and attract all those crazy people who end up hurting you or messing you up even more than the actual break up. It gets better with time. Thing is, if you have those women in your life, it's because you chose them. You've attracted them. So now you have to deal with them: clean up after them. Here's what I've learnt: I first need to know what the hell I'm looking for and only go for that: - If you just want to date aimlessly, don't get involved with Christian ladies who want RS - If you want sex, have sex friends - a few of them, and do NOT treat them as if they're your gf. - If the sex friend falls for you, break up with her. - if you want a RS, do not sleep around with multiple people and do not agree to sex friends. Basically, be really clear in your head with what you seek - emotionally and sexually. Otherwise it just won't happen. So my advice to you is the following: if you want peace and quiet in your life, you have to be on top of your interaction with women. You need to be in control. Give clear signals to the women in your life and they will be giving clear signals back to you. And if that's not what you get in return, leave them. I'm a firm believer in "peace of mind over a piece of arse". Makes life a whole lot easier. 7
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 hum, let's see: the first year after a long RS - marriage or not - you're really screwed up. Seriously. The bad part is that you don't even know it. You're vulnerable and attract all those crazy people who end up hurting you or messing you up even more than the actual break up. It gets better with time. Thing is, if you have those women in your life, it's because you chose them. You've attracted them. So now you have to deal with them: clean up after them. Here's what I've learnt: I first need to know what the hell I'm looking for and only go for that: - If you just want to date aimlessly, don't get involved with Christian ladies who want RS - If you want sex, have sex friends - a few of them, and do NOT treat them as if they're your gf. - If the sex friend falls for you, break up with her. - if you want a RS, do not sleep around with multiple people and do not agree to sex friends. Basically, be really clear in your head with what you seek - emotionally and sexually. Otherwise it just won't happen. So my advice to you is the following: if you want peace and quiet in your life, you have to be on top of your interaction with women. You need to be in control. Give clear signals to the women in your life and they will be giving clear signals back to you. And if that's not what you get in return, leave them. I'm a firm believer in "peace of mind over a piece of arse". Makes life a whole lot easier. Actually, this is good advice. But...what Youtube music video do you think best sums this up? 1
candie13 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 is you is or ain't my baby :D just pullin' ur leg, mate 1
jen1447 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Prefer this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqlsVZ1zxMk Probably my favourite Pink Floyd song, love the way it transitions through stages. I hate the typical (beetles include) song format: Verse Verse Chorus Verse Verse Bridge Solo Chorus Chorus chorus...fade out ..stuff that get regurgitated endlessly OT for those interested ....there are actually sth like 14 basic types of songs in modern music theory, and pretty much all modern popular music is one of them. That's at the same time strangely limiting in that we really just listen to 14 songs over and over, but also strangely liberating to think the aren't all the Beatles 2/1/2/1/2 formula. Actually most modern pop songs only have one verse to open or maybe an extended verse, and the second verse after the first chorus is short. (Yay for radio edits.) They're also more likely to incorporate climbs. The end. 2
autumnnight Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 OT for those interested ....there are actually sth like 14 basic types of songs in modern music theory, and pretty much all modern popular music is one of them. That's at the same time strangely limiting in that we really just listen to 14 songs over and over, but also strangely liberating to think the aren't all the Beatles 2/1/2/1/2 formula. Actually most modern pop songs only have one verse to open or maybe an extended verse, and the second verse after the first chorus is short. (Yay for radio edits.) They're also more likely to incorporate climbs. The end. Cut that list down to 4 and you have most music on the radio. It's sad really..... Then there's always this.... 1
Auspecial Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Cut that list down to 4 and you have most music on the radio. It's sad really..... Then there's always this.... Oh My! lol.. I agree about the radio. I don't like it much, and in particular don't like talk radio. I want to hear either music or NPR.
LoveRefreshed Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 She may have googled your name, or she may have had the same question about possible religious conflicts and may decided jesus was the more important man in her life. Sorry man. I'd take a break from dating for a bit if you "want a normal" life again, and it's the women you date who make it unusual.
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Actually, I have decided to change... I'm cutting the causal relationships out, I'll stop seeing the FB's (they BETTER not turn out to be bunny boilers!). I'll stop seeing anyone who I find starts to lean that way... I'll avoid the overly religious. It's time to put my life back in order. 1
lino Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 That is Back of Bourke from the U.S., eh? Stop dating those bodgy women. Go have a chokkie and a butcher after work. Or some plonk from the milk bar. You're a right dunnie rat. A real larrikin! Love - give it a burl when you're ready. Right, she'll be! ??? Ten characters
Author yxalitis Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 ??? Ten characters Yeah, I know! Still, she tried...
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