yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 For twenty years I was mr. normal guy, married, kids, full time office job...just an average Joe. Then for reasons relating to my Childrens' mental well being, I left her. those who are interested can simply search my threads to get detials on all the following... I then rebounded into a relationship with someone obsessed with her ex. After giving her two chances to stop seeing him, I gave up, and moved out, into a shared flat where I immediately started a new relationship with a sexy single mom, but after 9 months, I left her as she couldn't love me the way I needed to be loved..that break up cut me deeply. I rebounded into another relationship with a woman who assured me she only wanted a FWB relationship (She didn't use that term, but that's what it is in a nutshell) She then proceeded to fall head over heals in love with me, and I left her because "I wasn't feeling it" I picked up a couple of casual girls around this time, BOTH are very keen to see me, all the time, they are both very young (28, 30) and despite CLEARLY being FB's, are acting jealous if I cancel a date. I then started dating a Christian woman, happy that at least I had a chance to return to normality... The in ONE DAY this happened. First, the Christian lady just cut all ties to me, blocked all avenues of communication, for reasons I can only hazard a guess (I think she googled my we chat username, yxalitis, same as this forum...oops). I had made amends (so I thought) with the other lady I was dating so I rang her, just to talk to someone as I'm feeling a bit down, and my best friend didn't answer the phone. She is drunk, and bursts into tears because I broke her heart! She is sobbing inconsolably about love, life, and how she never wanted to fall in love again...so now I'm feeling like a number 1 jackass bastard. I tell her I'll come over after work the next day to talk....what else can I do? Then I shower and get ready for bed, when the younger FB rings, distraught. "Can you pick me up, I need to stay with you" Her, umm, friend/lover/partner/flatmate is a dom, she's the sub, in a "lesbian but they aren't lesbians" weirdo relationship I've never been able to fathom. Anyway, this girl had enough of abuse, and wanted to get out. So she is in my bed now, while I'm typing this at work (Yeah, I know, but I can hardly concentrate with all this going on in my head!) In retrospect, I think that was my fear with the other lady, who I didn't feel right with, she is independently wealthy, just lives on investments, and would have offered me a wild lifestyle jetting around the world. WTF, am I crazy to pass that up... No, because...I guess I seek normality. Jesus..how do I get back to normal?
writergal Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 For twenty years I was mr. normal guy, married, kids, full time office job...just an average Joe. Then for reasons relating to my Childrens' mental well being, I left her. those who are interested can simply search my threads to get detials on all the following... I then rebounded into a relationship with someone obsessed with her ex. After giving her two chances to stop seeing him, I gave up, and moved out, into a shared flat where I immediately started a new relationship with a sexy single mom, but after 9 months, I left her as she couldn't love me the way I needed to be loved..that break up cut me deeply. I rebounded into another relationship with a woman who assured me she only wanted a FWB relationship (She didn't use that term, but that's what it is in a nutshell) She then proceeded to fall head over heals in love with me, and I left her because "I wasn't feeling it" I picked up a couple of casual girls around this time, BOTH are very keen to see me, all the time, they are both very young (28, 30) and despite CLEARLY being FB's, are acting jealous if I cancel a date. I then started dating a Christian woman, happy that at least I had a chance to return to normality... The in ONE DAY this happened. First, the Christian lady just cut all ties to me, blocked all avenues of communication, for reasons I can only hazard a guess (I think she googled my we chat username, yxalitis, same as this forum...oops). I had made amends (so I thought) with the other lady I was dating so I rang her, just to talk to someone as I'm feeling a bit down, and my best friend didn't answer the phone. She is drunk, and bursts into tears because I broke her heart! She is sobbing inconsolably about love, life, and how she never wanted to fall in love again...so now I'm feeling like a number 1 jackass bastard. I tell her I'll come over after work the next day to talk....what else can I do? Then I shower and get ready for bed, when the younger FB rings, distraught. "Can you pick me up, I need to stay with you" Her, umm, friend/lover/partner/flatmate is a dom, she's the sub, in a "lesbian but they aren't lesbians" weirdo relationship I've never been able to fathom. Anyway, this girl had enough of abuse, and wanted to get out. So she is in my bed now, while I'm typing this at work (Yeah, I know, but I can hardly concentrate with all this going on in my head!) In retrospect, I think that was my fear with the other lady, who I didn't feel right with, she is independently wealthy, just lives on investments, and would have offered me a wild lifestyle jetting around the world. WTF, am I crazy to pass that up... No, because...I guess I seek normality. Jesus..how do I get back to normal? Whoa, so you just left this gal in your bed/home alone while you're at work? Do you trust her not to rob you? Sorry, first thing that came into my head. How exactly will helping her help you? She sounds like she has a lot of issues that aren't your job to fix. Yes, misery loves company but she's probably not the best person for you to lean on for support right now. Sorry to hear the Christian woman dumped you and blocked you on social media. Time to change your member names, maybe? The way back to normal is to figure out what type of woman fits your own definition of normal, then try to meet these normal women. Do you have hobbies? Belong to any social groups? Stay away from those crazies you described early in your post here. They won't help you find your way back to normal women. Try to calm down. Have any guy friends you can decompress with over a beer or two or go shoot hoops or do something sporty?
Raena Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 How about you try being single for a bit? And then stop dating multiple women and having multiple fb's? Just a thought. Kind of bringing the crazy on yourself. 8
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Whoa, so you just left this gal in your bed/home alone while you're at work? Do you trust her not to rob you? Sorry, first thing that came into my head. How exactly will helping her help you? She sounds like she has a lot of issues that aren't your job to fix. Yes, misery loves company but she's probably not the best person for you to lean on for support right now. Sorry to hear the Christian woman dumped you and blocked you on social media. Time to change your member names, maybe? The way back to normal is to figure out what type of woman fits your own definition of normal, then try to meet these normal women. Do you have hobbies? Belong to any social groups? Stay away from those crazies you described early in your post here. They won't help you find your way back to normal women. Try to calm down. Have any guy friends you can decompress with over a beer or two or go shoot hoops or do something sporty? Flatmate's home watching TV on the couch
DaisyBug Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 It sounds like you don't have a hard time at all getting women, so I'm not too worried about you, my friend! Though, I must say, it sounds like the ones you really want don't stick, and the ones you're "meh" about are the ones that want you. :/ Where do you normally meet women, may I ask? 1
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 It sounds like you don't have a hard time at all getting women, so I'm not too worried about you, my friend! Though, I must say, it sounds like the ones you really want don't stick, and the ones you're "meh" about are the ones that want you. :/ Where do you normally meet women, may I ask? OLD, and some Asian-centric clubs And, yeah, I know, right?
DaisyBug Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Oh, like MeetUp.com? I've joined some singles clubs from there but have yet to find something I want/am able to attend. If that's what you mean, is it a meat market atmosphere like OLD, or more laid back, I hope??
loveweary11 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 (edited) Par for the course post divorce. Standard dating stories in this modern world. ::laugh: Things are nuts out there for us divorced guys. Sounds very similar to all of my experience post divorce. I just roll with it. It's the new normal. Something good will shake out of it eventually. For twenty years I was mr. normal guy, married, kids, full time office job...just an average Joe. Then for reasons relating to my Childrens' mental well being, I left her. those who are interested can simply search my threads to get detials on all the following... I then rebounded into a relationship with someone obsessed with her ex. After giving her two chances to stop seeing him, I gave up, and moved out, into a shared flat where I immediately started a new relationship with a sexy single mom, but after 9 months, I left her as she couldn't love me the way I needed to be loved..that break up cut me deeply. I rebounded into another relationship with a woman who assured me she only wanted a FWB relationship (She didn't use that term, but that's what it is in a nutshell) She then proceeded to fall head over heals in love with me, and I left her because "I wasn't feeling it" I picked up a couple of casual girls around this time, BOTH are very keen to see me, all the time, they are both very young (28, 30) and despite CLEARLY being FB's, are acting jealous if I cancel a date. I then started dating a Christian woman, happy that at least I had a chance to return to normality... The in ONE DAY this happened. First, the Christian lady just cut all ties to me, blocked all avenues of communication, for reasons I can only hazard a guess (I think she googled my we chat username, yxalitis, same as this forum...oops). I had made amends (so I thought) with the other lady I was dating so I rang her, just to talk to someone as I'm feeling a bit down, and my best friend didn't answer the phone. She is drunk, and bursts into tears because I broke her heart! She is sobbing inconsolably about love, life, and how she never wanted to fall in love again...so now I'm feeling like a number 1 jackass bastard. I tell her I'll come over after work the next day to talk....what else can I do? Then I shower and get ready for bed, when the younger FB rings, distraught. "Can you pick me up, I need to stay with you" Her, umm, friend/lover/partner/flatmate is a dom, she's the sub, in a "lesbian but they aren't lesbians" weirdo relationship I've never been able to fathom. Anyway, this girl had enough of abuse, and wanted to get out. So she is in my bed now, while I'm typing this at work (Yeah, I know, but I can hardly concentrate with all this going on in my head!) In retrospect, I think that was my fear with the other lady, who I didn't feel right with, she is independently wealthy, just lives on investments, and would have offered me a wild lifestyle jetting around the world. WTF, am I crazy to pass that up... No, because...I guess I seek normality. Jesus..how do I get back to normal? Edited July 9, 2015 by loveweary11 1
writergal Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Flatmate's home watching TV on the couch Maybe ban yourself from dating for a while and try to spend your time with your buddies and flatmate and doing things that you enjoy? Sounds like you may need a vacation from dating, just so you can find your center. Sounds like psychobabble I know, but it's meant to try to help. 1
loveweary11 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Whoops, better make this post the minimum number of characters. Screw Flanders Screw Flanders Screw Flanders Screw Flanders Screw Flanders Screw Flanders Screw Flanders. 1
writergal Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 (edited) Go out dancing. Bust a move. You'll feel better? Edited July 9, 2015 by writergal
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Go out dancing. Bust a move. You'll feel better? Please never link that again... 2
writergal Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Please never link that again... Haha ok! How about some instead?
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Haha ok! How about some instead? Prefer this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqlsVZ1zxMk Probably my favourite Pink Floyd song, love the way it transitions through stages. I hate the typical (beetles include) song format: Verse Verse Chorus Verse Verse Bridge Solo Chorus Chorus chorus...fade out ..stuff that get regurgitated endlessly
writergal Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Prefer this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqlsVZ1zxMk Probably my favourite Pink Floyd song, love the way it transitions through stages. I hate the typical (beetles include) song format: Verse Verse Chorus Verse Verse Bridge Solo Chorus Chorus chorus...fade out ..stuff that get regurgitated endlessly Ah yes Pink Floyd! Great Band. I like this , Baker Street. Winding your way down on Baker Street Light in your head and dead on your feet Well another crazy day You drink the night away And forget about everything This city desert makes you feel so cold It's got so many people but it's got no...
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Ah yes Pink Floyd! Great Band. I like this , Baker Street. ermahgerd!!! Just looking at my YouTube search results: David Bowie and David Gilmour singing Comfortably Numb! I think I came a little...
writergal Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 ermahgerd!!! Just looking at my YouTube search results: David Bowie and David Gilmour singing Comfortably Numb! I think I came a little... Hahaha! Now that is a duet! Speaking of David Bowie duets... ....and I can't believe Vanilla Ice stole the music bed for his one-hit wonder Ice, Ice Baby. Pfft.
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Hahaha! Now that is a duet! Speaking of David Bowie duets... ....and I can't believe Vanilla Ice stole the music bed for his one-hit wonder Ice, Ice Baby. Pfft. I know what that is without clicking the link Queen and David Bowie Under Pressure The diff is, that song's been played to death for decades, I have NEVER heard the C Numb version before, EVA~! Thanks, this has been a nice distraction, I was going to say this thread got derailed, but in fact these past few posts have made me feel a whole lot better! My Favourite guitarist: 1
Auspecial Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 For twenty years I was mr. normal guy, married, kids, full time office job...just an average Joe. Then for reasons relating to my Childrens' mental well being, I left her. those who are interested can simply search my threads to get detials on all the following... I then rebounded into a relationship with someone obsessed with her ex. After giving her two chances to stop seeing him, I gave up, and moved out, into a shared flat where I immediately started a new relationship with a sexy single mom, but after 9 months, I left her as she couldn't love me the way I needed to be loved..that break up cut me deeply. I rebounded into another relationship with a woman who assured me she only wanted a FWB relationship (She didn't use that term, but that's what it is in a nutshell) She then proceeded to fall head over heals in love with me, and I left her because "I wasn't feeling it" I picked up a couple of casual girls around this time, BOTH are very keen to see me, all the time, they are both very young (28, 30) and despite CLEARLY being FB's, are acting jealous if I cancel a date. I then started dating a Christian woman, happy that at least I had a chance to return to normality... The in ONE DAY this happened. First, the Christian lady just cut all ties to me, blocked all avenues of communication, for reasons I can only hazard a guess (I think she googled my we chat username, yxalitis, same as this forum...oops). I had made amends (so I thought) with the other lady I was dating so I rang her, just to talk to someone as I'm feeling a bit down, and my best friend didn't answer the phone. She is drunk, and bursts into tears because I broke her heart! She is sobbing inconsolably about love, life, and how she never wanted to fall in love again...so now I'm feeling like a number 1 jackass bastard. I tell her I'll come over after work the next day to talk....what else can I do? Then I shower and get ready for bed, when the younger FB rings, distraught. "Can you pick me up, I need to stay with you" Her, umm, friend/lover/partner/flatmate is a dom, she's the sub, in a "lesbian but they aren't lesbians" weirdo relationship I've never been able to fathom. Anyway, this girl had enough of abuse, and wanted to get out. So she is in my bed now, while I'm typing this at work (Yeah, I know, but I can hardly concentrate with all this going on in my head!) In retrospect, I think that was my fear with the other lady, who I didn't feel right with, she is independently wealthy, just lives on investments, and would have offered me a wild lifestyle jetting around the world. WTF, am I crazy to pass that up... No, because...I guess I seek normality. Jesus..how do I get back to normal? Welcome to america in 2015. Not many know how to make it work. The people who barely know, have given up.
Auspecial Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 ermahgerd!!! Just looking at my YouTube search results: David Bowie and David Gilmour singing Comfortably Numb! I think I came a little... Gorgeous, thanks for the link.
Author yxalitis Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Welcome to america in 2015. Not many know how to make it work. The people who barely know, have given up. I'm in Australia...
writergal Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 I'm in Australia... That is Back of Bourke from the U.S., eh? Stop dating those bodgy women. Go have a chokkie and a butcher after work. Or some plonk from the milk bar. You're a right dunnie rat. A real larrikin! Love - give it a burl when you're ready. Right, she'll be! 3
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 OP, Judging by the insightful and spot-on advice you've posted in another thread regarding another guy and his gf, I'd say you have a good head on your shoulders, you're a decent guy and you know what you want in your life - normalcy...and you want that with a normal woman who is emotionally healthy, who leads a basically normal life and who wants the same thing that YOU want. You just have to keep your eyes open for that normal and emotionally stable woman that you seek! Put yourself out there more often, join activity/hobby clubs, go to art festivals or to other places where decent and normal women frequent. Remember: What you think about - You will bring about. Whatever vibe you put out there is what you will GET BACK. Start living your life normally (if you're not doing this already) and engage in normal activities and in a normal way of thinking and feeling. Don't surround yourself with weird or emotionally unstable people whose lives are in disarray...and if necessary, you may have to cut ties permanently with those types of people. Good luck and let us know how things are going in the next few months! .
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 That is Back of Bourke from the U.S., eh? Stop dating those bodgy women. Go have a chokkie and a butcher after work. Or some plonk from the milk bar. You're a right dunnie rat. A real larrikin! Love - give it a burl when you're ready. Right, she'll be! You're so fkn cool, Writergal! .
writergal Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 You're so fkn cool, Writergal! . You're my only fan left BOZG! LOL! So...thank you!!
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