suggielover Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Is it possible to be in love with 2 people at the same time? I am married to a great guy but I am still in love with a guy that Ive known for almost 10 years... this other guy and I have been trying to be together forever (so it seems) but either Im with someone or he is. Timing was always wrong between us two. Now Im married and things are always going wrong in my relationship with my husband.... I dont know if I want to stay with him or try to see where me and the other guy stand. Im not a cheater so Id never do anything with him while Im married... Im just so confused... please help me...
BrotherAaron Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Right now, think about your marriage, and forget about this other guy. In the context of your life right now, he doesn't matter. If things don't work out between you and your husband, don't let another person be the reason. Someday down the road if you are no longer with your husband and you want to explore things with this man, that's the time. For now, if you can't be around this man without it interrupting your marriage, you need to be away from him. And, for the record, it sounds like you're infatuated with this other guy, not truly in love. It doesn't sound like you have a real history beyond mutual attraction. Don't let your problems with your husband give you an excuse to be looking elsewhere already. They might be short-term and worked out, but you've got to put forth the effort to work them out. Focus on what you have, and stop giving yourself an emotional escape.
Marshbear Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Is it possible to be in love with 2 people at the same time? I don't think so. I really can't see how you can equally love two people. You might like some things about both but love requires an emotional and physical connection. You want to be with them so much it hurts. You really can't want to be with two people equally. Do you think you are really in love with this other guy or is it because your dreaming about what could have happened , if only things worked out, between the two or you? Usually the fantasy is much more pleasing than the reality. You say your H is a great guy but you still love your old flame. Do you have no passion for your H? Only you can decide if you love him and I would decide that before you give up and go after the ex. If you were free things might not work out as you plan with him. Think it over...
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