Centrie Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 So I have been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months, but we have been close friends sense the 8th grade. We have both just graduated high school and are going to the same college next year. There is this younger girl he is friends with and I normally am not a jealous person but twice now he has gone out with other friends including her without me she is also always tagging him in stuff on Facebook. I feel excluded but it wasn't as though he planned for it to happen so I just told him it bothered me and didn't make a big deal about it. I had asked him to come to a big party on the 4th with me but he said he couldn't because of work. He latter found out he didn't have work but instead of going to the party with me he invited two of his buddies over to play video games. I was angry and drank to much at the party. I texted him while drunk and said some very mean things about him always putting his friends first and stuff. After I sent the messages he told me I was drunk and to go to bed before I said something I would regret. I agreed but I couldn't sleep so I went on Facebook. I saw that he had been tagged once again by this other girl and I blew a fuse over it. I angrily texted him again about hoe hurt I was that so much of his Facebook was filled with things she had tagged him in. We argued but I immediately realized how wrong I was to snap and tried to apologies but we ended up going to bed mad at eachother. The next day I reached out and he ignored me. He has now ignored me for about 4 days and I am scared he will break up with me. Before our fight he was suppose to come over to my house twice that week, Monday and Wednesday. Monday came two days after the fight so when he didn't respond to my good morning message I assumed he was still to angry to see me. I went to a friends house instead. Latter that night he messaged me that he was upset that I had gone to my friends without asking him if he was still coming over. He still seemed angry so we didn't speak long. I have sense sent him a few messages that he has ignored. I asked if he would come over Wednesday still so we could try and work things out. He didn't reply. I am upset and have asked him if he still loves me and if he was going to break up with me but still he does not even read the messages. I don't know what to do
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Take a deep breath. Unfortunately, my prediction for the future is that as soon as you get to college & both of your worlds open up, your HS romance may not survive the transition. the process may already be starting. If you are not of legal drinking age, stop drinking, or at least cut down. Learn this lesson fast: once you pick up a drink put down your phone. the only think you should do with your phone after you have consumed alcohol is call a cab or Uber if you don't have a pre-arranged sober ride home.
Author Centrie Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Thanks for the advice. This was a family thing and the very first time I have ever drank. I was in safe hands. It's a hard thing to accept but you are probably right
mg101 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Donnivain is right. In the short term though, don't contact him anymore. Guys need to calm down and come to their own realizations. He'll be in touch. And when he does, don't ask about whether he still loves you, will dump you, etc. You're making it about more than it was initially about. Remain calm. Just explain what hurt your feelings and stop there.
xcupid Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 There is nothing more you can do. He has to work this through in his own mind, now. If he contacts you then it's time for a *face to face* with him to sort things out. And no more alcohol, okay?
PogoStick Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Ok here's the best advice. End it now. Your relationship sucks. You're both immature. It's too bad he didn't spend the 4th with you but he has every right to want to spend it however he pleases, with his buddies. It's also stupid to blame him for what OTHER people are doing on facebook. It's great that you tried to apologize but now he's being an immature jerk too. This is such a blessing. End this relationship now and put your high school immaturity in the grave. Going to the same school is a problem. Seriously, end this forever. Don't keep talking to him at the new school. It will drag you down. You have enough time to get over it this summer and have a whole new world, with cool guys to get to know in the fall.
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