tangotango Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Hi All, My birthday tomorrow - My first in 7 years without my girlfriend. Now over 2 months post break up (she broke with me). I had some dialogue yesterday with her by text, asked if she thinks about us to which she said yes - of course she does. She said she was planning on sending me a text but she got busy so did not bother???? Why tell me then..?? I told her I miss her a lot and things are not the same. She said she did not know what to say... I asked if she ever wondered what things would be like if we worked on our differences and did things properly? She come back saying we were too far gone and that we had both become lazy - too lazy to change. She still feels like she made the right decision in walking out. In the end I replied - I have always agreed you did the right thing, as I couldn't see the wood for the trees and I needed to change my ways (too much work etc). I also asked her that if she was thinking of wishing me happy birthday tomorrow - not to bother as it will be too painful for me to take as I will likely be on my own all day now. I put my feelings first for a change - why did I feel bad 20 minutes later for putting that???? She never come back to me - I did not expect her to. I can't help thinking I might have upset her as she would have wanted to say happy birthday but I do not want to spend the day alone and upset... thoughts guys?
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Tomorrow is going to be hard. You will feel all sorts of things, most of them not so great. However, you need to let go of her & remember that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Next year will be better. 1
dumbass2 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 From the sounds of things if you got a "happy birthday" from her it would just be fake. She doesn't care about you that way any more and you're not just friends, you are ex romantic partners. I know you would like to hear that from her because to you it would show that she still cares. I'm sure she still has feelings for you (it's only natural) and cared during the relationship, but that is over. Bottom line is that she is no longer with you, by her decision, and has given no indication that she wants to be again, so best to try to start distancing yourself and implementing NC for you to heal. Please do this. Find something, anything, to plan to do for tomorrow. I don't care if it is going to the mall and walking around for a few hours. Do not stay in your house and dwell on things, especially tomorrow. Find something to do. Do you have any friends that you can ask to go do something with or at least talk too? Do you have any hobbies or interest? 1
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