BiancaRura Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I have a bit of a problem... well not so much me as my husband has this problem.... My husband was in a relationship with this chick a few years back and it produced a son.... she didnt want him in this childs life as he went back to his (ex) wife after he found out she was psycho. He didnt know she was a mental case, even had 18 shock treatments. Her mom told him after the baby was concieved. 18 months after their son was born, the mom called to tell my husband that thier son died of SIDS. My husband was heart broken, he has always wanted a son. (THIS WAS 3 1/2 YEARS AGO) Now comes the tricky part..... We get a letter in the mail today saying she's sueing for back child support for these last 3-4 years. His parents got an anon letter last night saying that Noah has been alive this whole time. I say we fight for custody since his mom is PSYCHO!!! but my husband says that her other babys daddy tried and she turned over custody to HER extremely rich parents and we cant afford to fight them for years in court. He also said that no judge would give us custody since Noah doesnt know his dad, even though the mom said he had passed on. We need some serious help here.... what should we do?
quankanne Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 set up an appointment with a lawyer immediately and find out what your husband/s rights are as the boy's natural father. Ask the lawyer if it would help getting sworn statements from anyone and everyone who knows about this child "dying" of SIDS three years ago. My immediate thought is if she can all of a sudden demand child support, then your husband has access to a child he thought was dead!
Author BiancaRura Posted May 3, 2005 Author Posted May 3, 2005 Thank you... Im contacting a lawyer tomorrow afternoon..... We already left a message with the agency that his ex went through for the child support... they are suppose to call here by Friday...
worriedmom Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 There HAS to be something legally your husband can do!! There is no way he should have to pay back child support for a child SHE told him had died!! Not to mention the pain and suffering your husband went through all because she's playing some messed up head games! I think he should be able to sue HER for the psychiatric help him and his son will probably need!!(I know I would need help!) It is absolutely NOT HIS FAULT that he doesn't know his son, it's all on her! He WOULD know him, if she weren't psycho! That's just BS because money should have nothing to do with justice!! There's got to be some kind of legal aide for Dads out there, and if it takes years, your husband can use those years to get to know his son finally I will pray for you guys! Your husband has been terribly wronged, and she should have to pay!! Not with money necessarily, but custody of their son. Obviously you already know if she's that messed up to do something SO cruel, she has to be no good for your husbands little boy! Good luck to you guys! Hang in there and follow your heart
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Does your husband have proof that she told him he died? He said she said crap doesn't work to well in court. If you can prove that his ex's mother said his son was dead tan your golden. If not that I'm afraid seems like she's got him. But you can still fight for custody. When your H hear this he should have asked for a death certificate. otherwise its not a valid statement from his Ex's mother. Good luck.
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