unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 (edited) I was talking to an online lady and even setup a time for this weekend. But I tried to talk yesterday and she gives me the silent treatment, so I didn't even bother to send again and just deleted her number, etc. What do some people do to retain attention? Also, saw friends texting ladies and back with pictures, etc. I never exchanged pictures but only went with the pictures already online or check in person. I'm starting to get curious what people really do. Do they like exchange "fiery/cool/hot" photos with each other? Wonder what the other guy did to get her attention. Am I missing out by not giving out photos or getting photos? Do they want to see bicep? I'm totally lost here. Edited July 8, 2015 by unagedtiger
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Photos are important. Moving from OL to IRL sooner rather than later is important. Most people want an actual relationship not an OL pen pal.
Author unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Right, couldn't meet up last weekend because it was holiday, we all already had plans. That's total funny if I have to send my pictures to keep interest until meeting this weekend. Oh well, didn't have a choice. Washington and Jefferson are more important than this silly girl.
Rko28 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 you meet them as soon as you can, if they flak off like that then its usually best to leave them to it. A lot of people dont know when to stop looking for something "better"
xcupid Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Sounds like she wasn't too interested. Best way to keep interest is to stay in daily contact (once a day - not every hour) until you meet. That way you're on her mind. Be imaginative, too. Excite her curiosity about the date - something you've planned but haven't told her about so it makes her look forward to the date with you.
Toodaloo Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 I'm starting to get curious what people really do. Do they like exchange "fiery/cool/hot" photos with each other? If you call pictures of our horses and dogs firey and hot then damn I am such a porn star! I personally am turned OFF by loads of selfies, pictures of any nudity etc before the appropriate time (I.e. after we have been shagging for a few months and used to keep things spicy!) Sometimes people click and first then it just wanes naturally. Its nothing in particular (unless you count the guy that called me "Beautiful Leo Ladypops" last night... Thats a new one on me... Those three little words have made me go from 5/10 interest to 0/10... But that is OK because some other woman will really like that about him.
Gary S Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 You said you had a time set for a date? So what happened, did she cancel?
Author unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 You said you had a time set for a date? So what happened, did she cancel? @xcupid, I just don't feel like texting someone every day. Maybe every 2 or 3 days. I don't feel like giving that much attention in the beginning. @gary s, yes, she just poofed. I texted to see how weekend was and where to meet on weekend.
Toodaloo Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 @xcupid, I just don't feel like texting someone every day. Maybe every 2 or 3 days. I don't feel like giving that much attention in the beginning. @gary s, yes, she just poofed. I texted to see how weekend was and where to meet on weekend. She thinks your half arsed and can't be bothered so has moved on to someone who is. That is what has happened here. She isn't going to waste your time or hers meeting up when your not all that bothered. That is why she has gone poof. Move on. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 I just don't feel like texting someone every day. Maybe every 2 or 3 days. I don't feel like giving that much attention in the beginning. . While I tend to agree with you, in that I have no desire to have daily communications with somebody I don't know well, in this day & age most people want some point of contact daily. It's a communications style & it's about expectations. If the other person doesn't think you are interested they will disappear so as not to waste their own time.
Gary S Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Other than texting, "I'm on the way, be there in 5 min.", the only communication there should be is to set a date - which includes a day, time and place - you did not have all that so you did not even have a date - you call once and set up a complete date - if you get off the phone with missing information, you don't have a date.
kendahke Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 If the other person doesn't think you are interested they will disappear so as not to waste their own time. I agree with this. Just this week, I got an actual message from a real guy, not a catfish (which seems to be the only ones who contact me these days) and we've exchanged emails over the past 4 days. I've been showing interest, but he now seems to be backing off. I can't ascertain if he just wanted to let me know he found my profile amusing and my pictures lovely and that's it. So I'm not going to invest any more of my energy into it. The ball is in his court if he wants to go forward. Meanwhile, another guy popped up on Monday and we're going to meet today after I get off of work. He's showing far more interest than the other guy. First time I've had interest from two men at the same time on OLD. Jeez, I don't know how to act, LOL....
Author unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 If I text by forcing myself everyday, then I get labeled as desperate and overly eager. I'm having trouble maintaining the balance between two extremes. (too much communication or too less). Just screw all this and should ask out the girls that stare at and check me out in public. Screw OLD. Thanks everyone for your thoughtful input! Bless ya'll!
Author unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Other than texting, "I'm on the way, be there in 5 min.", the only communication there should be is to set a date - which includes a day, time and place - you did not have all that so you did not even have a date - you call once and set up a complete date - if you get off the phone with missing information, you don't have a date. We setup date, time and city to meet up at. I said I'll do some research and find some fun spots. Then get back to her with the addresses.
GemmaUK Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 We setup date, time and city to meet up at. I said I'll do some research and find some fun spots. Then get back to her with the addresses. What day last week did you text/say this to her?
Gary S Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 We setup date, time and city to meet up at. I said I'll do some research and find some fun spots. Then get back to her with the addresses. - next time, have that figured out before you call, and have backup ideas too. Women love a man with a plan. Just think of this one as a rehearsal. No problem, you'll be smoother when the next one comes along.
Author unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 What day last week did you text/say this to her? Last Thurs. We both were booked for the holiday weekend. So set it to the following weekend. Which is this weekend.
Author unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 - next time, have that figured out before you call, and have backup ideas too. Women love a man with a plan. Just think of this one as a rehearsal. No problem, you'll be smoother when the next one comes along. Thank you sir. Will do next time.
Author unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 I agree with this. Just this week, I got an actual message from a real guy, not a catfish (which seems to be the only ones who contact me these days) and we've exchanged emails over the past 4 days. I've been showing interest, but he now seems to be backing off. I can't ascertain if he just wanted to let me know he found my profile amusing and my pictures lovely and that's it. So I'm not going to invest any more of my energy into it. The ball is in his court if he wants to go forward. Meanwhile, another guy popped up on Monday and we're going to meet today after I get off of work. He's showing far more interest than the other guy. First time I've had interest from two men at the same time on OLD. Jeez, I don't know how to act, LOL.... Maybe you are cuter than you think. Hallelujah!! Congrats!!
GemmaUK Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 You left it way too late to get back to her. If someone was off to locate venues I would expect to hear back the following day or Sunday at the very latest with a holiday weekend. She thought you had flaked. She has now flaked or she might even be leaving it the same number of days in between texts as you (some people do that). By midweek most folk are already planning their weekend so I expect she has planned something else by now.
Author unagedtiger Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 You left it way too late to get back to her. If someone was off to locate venues I would expect to hear back the following day or Sunday at the very latest with a holiday weekend. She thought you had flaked. She has now flaked or she might even be leaving it the same number of days in between texts as you (some people do that). By midweek most folk are already planning their weekend so I expect she has planned something else by now. Again, this young padwan must strike the perfect balance between two extremes.
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