udelgirl Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 quick recap: so i "poked" this guy on a matrimonial website, he "poked" me back, i decided to pay some money to get his e-mail address, mailed him, and haven't heard back from him... is this a sign he's not interested? how long does one usually wait to hear back an email response? my email was sorta long, telling him about myself, but hey it's a matrimonial website and i guess those sites attract more serious guys...? might have i scared him off with the long email? or maybe he took a second look at my picture and re-thought it through? ahhh other possibilities? he looks really nice, and seems so too, i know there are many guys out there but TRUST me i have spent my fair share looking (killed many hours with my girls, lol!) and he seems just right, in my criteria.
HotCaliGirl Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 It's possible that your email was too long and either he didn't read it or thought you were too much too soon. Why don't you send him a second email, couple sentences to say hi and that you'd like to hear back from him if he's inerested...
ConfusedInOC Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 See, hearing so many stories like this makes me want to never use an online dating service. I tried once about 4 years ago and never conversed with anyone that didn't have some kind of major issue (drinking, drugs, etc.)
HotCaliGirl Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 Well, I wouldn't rule out an entire method for meeting people. Sometimes people you meet in person are also messed up and have issues. They don't wear a t-shirt saying "I'm in rehab for drug addiction" or "I abused my last girlfriend" etc. I know at least 4 people who met/married from meeting online, and I've met a few interesting people I've made friends from online...you just never know, have to weed through em.
amerikajin Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 There's really not much difference between meeting someone online and meeting them in a bar or at the supermarket. There's a lot of stigma attached to online dating but only because a lot of people who use the sites do tend to be perhaps too shy to meet someone face to face. But online dating can be just another way to meet people. What I would not do is date someone online and start revealing too much about yourself early on. If a person looks attractive and if they appear to be somewhat interesting, use email to set up the date, and it's better to get in a phone call if possible (again, just to set up the date) and then get to know each other in person. Never reveal important information about yourself until you actually feel comfortable with that person.
moimeme Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 he looks really nice, and seems so too, i know there are many guys out there but TRUST me i have spent my fair share looking (killed many hours with my girls, lol!) and he seems just right, in my criteria. I hope the at the end of your post means you realize it's impossible to make such a judgement from a picture and a couple of lines in a profile. I agree with the others - you can meet as many duds IRL as you can online. Fact is that it's unlikely that there'd be thousands of people you'd be compatible with so the more you can meet and the more ways you can use to meet people, the more likely it will be that you meet someone who'll be a good match.
WalkingTall Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 Online dating is something that I have tried and feel that it is a great way to get a sense of who the person is. I do understand that just as in R/L, people can be deceptive but I find that I got to know a person intellectually more than if I met them in person and my first impression was based solely on looks. I do prefer the person they are moreso than what they look like, so online dating is something that has worked for me in the past. And yes, there are people that have issues, or are deceptive, but overall I would say I have had great experiences with it.
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