dragonwalker Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 I'm curious and I'm just trying to put things in perspective to see how attractive or not my life situation could be to a girl I may be interested in dating. I know this varies from each person but I wanted to get perspective from people mainly woman about how they might see someone in my position. Right now I'm 27. I graduated from college at 22. I've had a job since I graduated at a large company, I earn about $55,000 year in the Los Angeles area. I drive a 09' Honda Civic. I live in a house with room mates (like 7 other people). It's not as bad as you think and it works out quite nicely. This allows me to save quite a bit of money which I'm trying to save to buy my own place one day. I'm very good with managing money as I happen to work in the financial sector. I live quite modestly and my chief goal is saving although I do spend money and I don't act like a miser. I'm currently taking some college courses to work toward a masters. I definitely live a good deal below my means and I sometimes think the outward appearance of my life may be off putting to anyone I might want to seek in a relationship. My main concern is not having my own place. Is this an important factor when women judge people at my age? I mean right now I'm paying about $490 for the room I have. A studio or 1 bedroom nearby would be about $1100-$1200 minimum and financially it makes more sense to me to live with more people not connected by a combined lease than 1 or 2 people I must rely on every month to also pay the rent as I've seen how fickle people can be with money and being in control of my finances is very important to me. Of course I have to admit I am a little embarrassed when I need to tell people where and with how many people I live but I try to tell myself it's for a good reason and it's allowed me to save a lot of money to eventually put a very healthy down payment for a place. I'm just not sure how much my practical side could hurt my love life.
Eggplant Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 You have nothing to be embarrassed about. Why should you waste money on your own place when it's just you? You sound responsible.
Toodaloo Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 If you were a bum, sat on your backside twiddling your thumbs and moaning, living with your Mum then you can be embarrassed. In your situation you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Some people house share because they don't want to live on their own... they like company... Just saying! Stop putting yourself down. 1
DaisyBug Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Wow, you are very sensible! An equally sensible woman would love that and know that, early in life, you do have to make some sacrifices sometimes to get where you're going. You sound like quite the catch. 3
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 As long as you have your own room with a door that locks it wouldn't bother me. Roommates are fine. Unless it's a giant house 7 seems like a lot but I would never condemn somebody to having to live alone. It's lonely. 2
katiegrl Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Wow, you are very sensible! An equally sensible woman would love that and know that, early in life, you do have to make some sacrifices sometimes to get where you're going. You sound like quite the catch. Agree with Daisy. You are 27, not 40. Your situation is typical of a man your age, planning for the future, saving for your own home, furthering your education.....all while working and making a good salary! Don't feel embarrassed..... feel proud! You're doing great! One thing though....when you meet and date women, DO NOT make excuses or feel you need to justify your situation (car, living situation, etc). THAT could be a turn off and speaks to your insecurity about it. No excuses, no justifications......feel proud about what you have accomplished up to this point ....and what you are working towards accomplishing! 1
darkbloom Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 It wouldn't turn me off as long as you weren't apologetic about it. Be confident. You have sound reasons for your living arrangements and you sound like you have your head on straight. 1
MoreAmore Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 I prefer practical! It would turn me off if a guy was living beyond his means. Especially if you're saving money and the house doesn't have any weird restrictions on having guests, I don't think you have to worry about it. (I did date one guy when I was younger who rented a room from a family and he couldn't have female company. We had to rely on my place every time even when we were out closer to his place. That was not especially arousing.)
Vintage79 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 It will certainly be a turn-off for some women, but there will be plenty that are perfectly fine/happy/comfortable with it. The women that would struggle with it, you'll likely have other challenges with anyway. The key, don't seem embarassed about it, or make a big deal about it - lack of confidence is a turn off for many women.
Gary S Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 The golddiggers will leave you alone, it's not a problem. 2
RainDown Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 I would date you. It's rare to find a 27 year old man with his head on straight and who has goals in life and a plan to get there. Own it and be proud of it. 1
smackie9 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Yes it is an issue with women from the LA area. It's a plastic/phony bologna society that desirability is based on what you have. It's all about image even at 27. Your lifestyle is unsuitable for the area you live in period. Either you join then or you move.
smackie9 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 The golddiggers will leave you alone, it's not a problem. I agree with this^^^^ this might be the reason why dating is so limited lol.
Versacehottie Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 You just have to "own" it. Good decisions for you based on your values and priorities. This will be in line with the right girl. Being that it does lean a little more to the practical end, make sure you show girls you are interested in your fun side as well. You should be fine.
smackie9 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 In other words, it's gonna take time to fine a girl that shares your values.
preraph Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 It wouldn't bother me unless there was a woman there I didn't trust or it was always one big party with girls hanging around, which sounds likely.
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