dragonwalker Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 So recently I've decided to be a bit bold and I've asked a few girls out. I met this girl in question a few months ago at an information session about a master's program at a school. She was the only other person at this information session and we chatted a bit after the information session. I was attracted to her when we first met but for one reason or another I didn't act at all on it. Come a few months later she ends up in the prerequisite class at my local community college. I didn't realize at first but after class she came up to me and said hi. I was glad that she was in the class. It's an evening course and our professor mentioned something about always walking with another person back to the car which gave me the perfect opportunity to walk with her. From that day forward we walked together to our cars about 5 minutes. It's a 4 day a week class and by the end of the 3rd week I suggested as confidently as I could that we should meet for coffee and mentioned the coming weekend. In retrospect this was bad timing as it was July 4 weekend. She immediately accepted but said that weekend was not good and maybe next weekend. We agreed and parted ways. Come Monday I ask about her schedule this week and she says pretty busy but mentioned possibly Sunday but said she would tell me later in the week. Today comes around and I don't mention anything and she mentions that this Sunday is bad because a friend will be in town and she will be spending time with her. During the week is tough as she works early and I work later and we both have class right after. She suggests the following week and I tell her about my schedule and plans and leave Sunday open again which she seems to like the timing. Question is do you think if she was really interested she would have tried to make the meeting a greater priority? I haven't communicated outside of our walks aside from a few e-mails that were class related. I'm just really not sure.
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 No. I think her friend being in town is a rare occurrence which takes priority over you who she sees 4x per week. At this point you are only some classmate who walks her to her car. She may have no idea that you like her. You call this a meeting not a date so what is she supposed to think when you aren't being clear?
Author dragonwalker Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 That's interesting you mentioned that she may not be clear that what I was asking her out it was for a date. I did not use the word date but if I recall I said, "It's been good talking to you, I think it would be great if we met outside of class for coffee sometime...how about this weekend." Generally speaking, should I have tried to have been more direct? I just thought under the circumstances she would think that I was interested in her more than just friends. What else could I do if my intentions were to vague? I'm thinking when we do set a date I'll ask to pick her up so maybe that will give more of the I'm asking her out vibe, not sure.
smackie9 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Stop asking. If she mentions being available or freed up then ask her out again....if not, she was just pacifying you with excuses in hopes you would get the hint she isn't interested.......it's just the way it is, don't expect a direct no from anyone.
Lansing Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 A good sign is her telling you that Sunday doesn' t work without you having to ask about Sunday. I think you were fine the way you asked her out. People on this board often say "ask her out on a date and make it clear it is a date". I find it odd to ask someone using the word "date". In reality, I think it puts pressure on the girl too and can make it awkward
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