Superman2024 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 For those who have done OLD and also have experience with singles groups, which would be the best for finding a lasting relationship? There seems to be all kinds of issues with the women I encounter on OLD even though they match up great on paper and attend the same type of church I do. There is a huge church about 45 minutes south of me that has a weekly singles group for ages 25-35. Several of the women I communicate with online also attend this church and one I even dated for a little while. I've never been a fan of small groups for some reason and I do better one-on-one, though I did join a young adult group back in the fall. I didn't meet anyone to date though since it was mostly married couples. Is a weekly group like this really much easier or better than doing OLD? I've gotten a little fed up with the games and flakiness of OLD, but I'm wondering if that's just an issue with OLD or what our dating culture has evolved into.
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 I didn't care for OLD. It's too easy to be something you are not on line. Heck I can't really shop for stuff on line so the idea of finding a mate there didn't work for me. I liked the context & the body language cues I got from meeting someone in person. It also avoided the whole awkward 1st meet off OLD when you were supposed to go to a coffee shop, make small talk & nobody knows whether to hug, shake hands, give a cheek kiss or do nothing upon 1st meeting. Saying no thanks after that encounter also hurts more because it is a rejection. Interacting with someone for a few minutes as a singles event, then moving on without exchanging numbers or agreeing to follow up didn't feel as personal / painful to me for some reason, even though the bottom line was the same, I wasn't getting the date.
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