amerikajin Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 I am not in any way trying to trample on anyone's spiritual beliefs, but in my opinion, spiritual beliefs have absolutely NOTHING to do with sex. Unfortunately, a lot of Christian fundamentalists (sorry, that's been my experience over the years) have decided to make sex a spiritual issue. Sex is sex. It's a biological necessity. None of us would be here without it. And you know what, it feels pretty frickin' good, too, regardless of what results from a session of intercourse. I totally think that the Europeans have a much more balanced and mature view of what sex is than do a lot of Americans who like to go around piously preaching to anyone who'll listen about the virtues of abstenance. The virtue to be learned here isn't that sex is bad and that it should be saved for your special partner; rather, it's that you should take responsibility for your sexual behavior. Make sure you're on the same page emotionally. Wear a condom. Take the pill. And be prepared just in case the unexpected happens - and by being prepared I'm not necessarily advocating abortion; I'm saying make sure that you and your partner have agreed to work together in case she does get pregnant. It may very well mean carrying the baby to term and putting it up for adoption, or carrying it to term and keeping him/her. Whatever. Just be responsible for what you do - that's my definition of sexual ethics. But I agree with curlyIam. There is such a thing as sexual compatibility, particularly if one person really feels the need for intimacy. If the partner doesn't feel that same need, then you have an imbalance of intimacy, and one lover feels shortchanged, while the other feels pressured into doing something that may make him/her feel uncomfortable.
alphamale Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by amerikajin I totally think that the Europeans have a much more balanced and mature view of what sex is than do a lot of Americans Amen brother! Remember that the U.S. is an extremely puritanical society.
Naive Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by jen03 If so, how is it possible? How do gals or guys lasso their partner into a commitment without first having sex with them? (sorry for the post on your thread aliya, I was browsing and accidently postd on yours!) When someone truly loves you it does not have to be only about sex and they are willing to wait. You can lasso them by being yourself and making him fall in love you know!
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