sunglasses Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 Long story short, long term relationship that became long distance recently ended. She said that she started thinking about concerns (like communication issues) and while she was thinking about them and how to describe them, she fell out of love and couldn't get it back. She seems pretty sure right now that those feelings will never come back in the future, but it hasn't been too long so things are still pretty fresh. Does anyone have any experience with this sort of thing? Can anyone better explain to me how this happens, especially if she says she still cares about me, but just isn't "in love"? Does anyone have any experience with being sure about this kind of thing, and then having those feelings come back?
TZilla11 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 It's quite simple to explain actually - she found someone else while you were long distance, just isn't telling you to spare your feelings. NC and move on
Author sunglasses Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 It's quite simple to explain actually - she found someone else while you were long distance, just isn't telling you to spare your feelings. NC and move on I know you might not believe me, but I honestly believe that that's pretty far from the truth. She's a really honest and genuine person, hasn't mentioned anything about another guy even when asked (and frankly isn't the type), and has stated she really wants to stay friends.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Long story short, long term relationship that became long distance recently ended. She said that she started thinking about concerns (like communication issues) and while she was thinking about them and how to describe them, she fell out of love and couldn't get it back. She seems pretty sure right now that those feelings will never come back in the future, but it hasn't been too long so things are still pretty fresh. Does anyone have any experience with this sort of thing? Can anyone better explain to me how this happens, especially if she says she still cares about me, but just isn't "in love"? Does anyone have any experience with being sure about this kind of thing, and then having those feelings come back? Honestly, no. I have also fallen out of love in two previous long-term relationships, in which I'd actually lived with those exes. Sometimes people just outgrow each other and want to explore new things and yes, new romantic partners. While I wish my exes well, we have all since moved on and those "in love" feelings didn't come back The geographic distance probably only compounded any emotional distance she was already feeling. And while there may not be anyone new in the picture, her certainty about staying broken up may suggest she's at least interested in another prospect. Sorry OP, I know you don't want to hear that. But you also cannot entirely rule that out. How was your relationship before it became an LDR? How long have you been together, and how old are you both?
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 With the added distance she realized that proximity was what was holding the relationship together. She probably wanted to date somebody she could see more often. It happens.
Author sunglasses Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 Honestly, no. I have also fallen out of love in two previous long-term relationships, in which I'd actually lived with those exes. Sometimes people just outgrow each other and want to explore new things and yes, new romantic partners. While I wish my exes well, we have all since moved on and those "in love" feelings didn't come back The geographic distance probably only compounded any emotional distance she was already feeling. And while there may not be anyone new in the picture, her certainty about staying broken up may suggest she's at least interested in another prospect. Sorry OP, I know you don't want to hear that. But you also cannot entirely rule that out. How was your relationship before it became an LDR? How long have you been together, and how old are you both? It was great - two and a half years before long distance, and we felt as sure as we could have imagined. We're in our mid to late 20s now.
Author sunglasses Posted July 9, 2015 Author Posted July 9, 2015 And the long distance started 2 years ago.
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