Bradt Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 I posted a very long story before.Anyway me and ex-gf of 7 years broke up.I went n/c and are still on n/c after about 8-9 weeks. In the mean time I met another awesome girl.We been hanging out for two weeks now.We got serious a bit too fast The thing is my ex were toxic, always tantrums and arguements.I felt worthless and unappreciated with her.She never did anything for me in the last 5years.Not even on my birthdays. This new girl is so amazing.I know it's new love and it will calm down.But she's chilled. Plus she even bought me beer while she was working and I were visiting her parents. I know this might seem small,but my ex drained me financially and wouldn't spend any money on me.Her main priority was clothes and make-up etc..It felt weard for me that a girl buy ME something.I'm crazy over this girl(it is not a rebound,I know what a rebound girl is.I had a couple in my life). I know I moved on even my co-workers tell me I look much happier. But why sometimes do I think of my ex with another guy.It don't even hurt me anymore.I somehow wish I can just see her with the guy she left me for.Its just that final piece of the puzzle then I'm done. I just needed to let you guys know.N/C is the best way to clear your head and to move forward.It will be hard in the begining but hang in there.Someone else will see your worth. In n/c I joined a gym,saw a pstchologist,read a ton of bu articles and a book.I worked on myself and love found me again.
takeashotforme Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 You still think of her because it's only been about two months. Mine left me in febuary and I still think of her every sec of the day and I been in nc for months. But yesterday was my bday and she waited til the end of the night to wish me a happy bday and now I miss her even more. Your lucky You found someone new. But you still think of your ex is because you're probably not over her yet.
Author Bradt Posted July 7, 2015 Author Posted July 7, 2015 Yeah im not 100% over her.But she left me and I don't have to feel guilty about the bu.What helped me was going out a lot.Meeting new people,making new friends.Gym did wonders,especially hitting a punching bag.I been suicidal for a while.I suggest focus on the bad things of your relationship. Tell yourself its over everytime you feel down.Cry if you must.I spent days crying,even in the toilets at work.Some days I forced myself to cry because at first my crying felt like I lost control of my body.I went into fits(shaking).Then I started feeling good while crying,and even better after crying.I still cry once in a while but with a smile knowing I dont have someone in my life that only focus on my bad side.I started talking to girls I find attractive.And even if they didn't give me their numbers it didnt break me.I had the mind-set."she can say yes or no,and if I don't try then its already a no". An ex is an ex for a reason,don't beat yourself up.Try and focus on things you like doing and couldn't do when your ex was around.I know it sound cliche,thats what I thought,but I did it anyway.And it really does work.Listen to new music when you feeling lonely,and do something like cleaning your place.rearange your stuff if you stay alone.You now in control of your happiness.All the best man
loveiswar101 Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 Awesome, sounds like things are on the up. It's not heaps of time since your b/u it seems and it's natural to still be thinking of her, it will pass. Enjoy your time with your new girl, use what you've learn't from previous relationships and above all take it slow, it not a race. Good luck,
takeashotforme Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 Yeah im not 100% over her.But she left me and I don't have to feel guilty about the bu.What helped me was going out a lot.Meeting new people,making new friends.Gym did wonders,especially hitting a punching bag.I been suicidal for a while.I suggest focus on the bad things of your relationship. Tell yourself its over everytime you feel down.Cry if you must.I spent days crying,even in the toilets at work.Some days I forced myself to cry because at first my crying felt like I lost control of my body.I went into fits(shaking).Then I started feeling good while crying,and even better after crying.I still cry once in a while but with a smile knowing I dont have someone in my life that only focus on my bad side.I started talking to girls I find attractive.And even if they didn't give me their numbers it didnt break me.I had the mind-set."she can say yes or no,and if I don't try then its already a no". An ex is an ex for a reason,don't beat yourself up.Try and focus on things you like doing and couldn't do when your ex was around.I know it sound cliche,thats what I thought,but I did it anyway.And it really does work.Listen to new music when you feeling lonely,and do something like cleaning your place.rearange your stuff if you stay alone.You now in control of your happiness.All the best man Yea. I did almost most of the things you mention. I got a new hair cut. Bought hella **** for myself. Work out and got lean and even lost 10 pounds. Go out every week. Hung out with new people. But I still haven't got my conference back yet cause I haven't try to hit on any girl yet. I'm in the process of selling my house. So hoping by next fall or winter I can start fresh. I was strong and conferdance and had my **** together. But the break up was out of the blue and I did not see it coming and it broke me and after 5 or 6 months I'm still picking up the pieces. But I'm glade to hear you made it out. I'm gonna keep trying to move forward myself.
Author Bradt Posted July 7, 2015 Author Posted July 7, 2015 Thanks,I am feeling happy.I know its a short time for moving on from a 7year relationship.But she broke up with me so many times,I kinda got used to it.And if you have time to read my bu story,you will realize that the bu was for the best. I am taking "full advantage" of the way I feel.I know its a short time to be with someone and plan a future,but it feels great to have someone that respect,appreciate and just smile at me.
Author Bradt Posted July 7, 2015 Author Posted July 7, 2015 You will make it as long as you keep going forward.It would have taken me a long time if I was in a good relationship. I feel for you.But if you look back now then you would realize that you have become much sronger.Just try and not think too much of your ex. Like I said,try and chat to random woman even if you not attracted to them.It will start putting that confidence back.And don't feel down if a girl/woman brush you off. I started getting mine back at the stores.Trust me I had no self condidence.My ex told me that I was a terrible person that will never get another gf,she even offered to help me find another gf before she dumped me. It is possible and the efford you made thus far shows that you are making progress.Don't be in a rush,and don't expect things to happen everywhere you go. Love sometimes find "us". And when it does you will back and think "why the hell did I spend so much time thinking about this". Theres something I read online that gave me a huge boost. It read... 'I don't care about people that don't want to be in my life anymore....I lost people that meant the world to me and I'm still doing just fine'
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