rmuscle Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 (edited) Broke up with my gf of 5 1/2 years. I couldn't take it anymore. Supported her dream Of becoming a figure pro for 5 years. I paid 100% of everything: flights, hotels, food, supplements, cloths, gifts, vacations for 5 years. Probably over $25k. What did she do when she finally reach her goal? Gave thanks to everyone under the sun. Not the ONE person who was truly responsible. I could have put her on the spot and blew up her in instagram telling the real untold story of how she truly got her pro card. But why be petty. She used me. She needed me a million times. I was there a million times. You know how hard it is to support someone dream financially for 5 years 100%? It's extremely hard because they're broke. I gave my heart and kindness to her. I loved her. I needed her recently because I reached an hardship in my life, and she back down from it. Made me feel like ****. She never loved me....why bother. Why try anymore. Why hope. Why do anything but leave. I ended it. Edited July 7, 2015 by rmuscle mid spell words
Tayla Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 it took you 5 years? Somewhere along the way there were pay offs for you to remain. Review that and come to terms with it. On a complete side note, adults need to pay for their own dreams and aspirations. Otherwise all they are doing is mooching. I have zero regard for her using your money or emotions to further her ambition. I'd send her an invoice or at the very least write it up come income tax time so she gets taxed for the funds used for her "pro" career.
Author rmuscle Posted July 7, 2015 Author Posted July 7, 2015 Tayla. Yes, it took.me 5 years. What can I say I loved her. No pay offs for me. You do not make a lot of money in bodybuilding. Besides it wasn't really about the money. It's more of when I needed her. The point is I needed her recently and she back down from it. Made me realize she doesn't have my back through thick n thin. I don't need that in my life. I feel anger and resentment that's why I'm here. We was arguing a lot because of the money supporting her. I was tired and run to the ground. All she was doing was training and dieting. I was not getting affection, love, and attention It just got worst and worst over the years....
Tayla Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 my pardons, perhaps i can help you understand, relationships carry payoffs healthy and unhealthy ones. Surely you had some. Here were some I can recall, I stayed with abuser because on his good days , he was remorseful and treated me kindly (hint payoff). I stayed because the guy needed a caretaker and I just couldn't abandon a sick person ( payoff i got to come off as the saint ... although i wasn't!) . See, those are payoffs... I gander to guess yours might have been to show what a swell bf you were to her. Then get ired that she didnt grovel when it was time to give true graditude? The reality is each of you had an unwritten agreement... and understanding and somewhere along the way , one of you got wise. You left her. And so it goes.
TZilla11 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 You can't buy someones affection OP, she was never that into you, you just happened to be an excellent provider of money and affection. Its hard to accept but you'll get through it and move on, and find someone else who will appreciate all you do. Just take it as a lesson learned, never try to buy someone's love.
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 (edited) Unhealthy people like to be around others who give back a positive and attractive reflection that the first person can then use as their own personality. Sounds like you may have been doing this. I'll wager you really liked being seen and associated with her. I suggest looking deeply into why you did stick around for so long. Because if I am right, and you don't address it, you will just find another host to mirror the way you want others to perceive you. Time to get right with your own, true reflection!!! Lastly, "taking care" and "care-taking" are two very different things. You were care-taking in the RS. And I'd be very cautious to not repeat that behavior if I were you. It doesn't work well for the caretaker as you have discovered!! Edited July 8, 2015 by mtnbiker3000
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