I broke no contact after 8 months to wish my ex a happy birthday

[Ouchouchouch]

Probably a dumb decision on my part. But, I'm glad that I did it. I thought that it wouldn't matter to me if I got a response or not, but I guess I'm more vulnerable than I thought. I texted my ex and said "happy birthday, I hope you're doing great", and got flat out ignored. We were together for four years. The breakup was sudden and I didn't fight it. When we broke up, I instantly went into no contact. The only time I heard from him since was 3 days after he broke up with me to wish me a happy birthday. I ignored that text. Maybe this is his revenge, either way I feel like he made a conscious decision to ignore me, just like I chose to ignore him. However, the difference is that 8 months have passed and its not fresh. I don't want a relationship, but am pained that we can't be civil after pouring four years of love and energy into each other. Have I really become so expendable that I'm not worth a text?

[mightycpa]

This is probably more about an ounce of prevention. Like, for him, it isn't broke now, so why fix it...

[aloneinaz]

This is why so many suggest you never break NC. Look what it's doing to you. You're frustrated now that after all you shared during those years, he can't be civil enough to reply to you nice gesture.

 

 

It's really hard. I know. These exes were once such a huge part of our daily lives and we share everything w/them. Then the R/S ends and they become strangers to us.. Life at times has a sick sense of humor!

 

 

Don't sweat it.. Maybe seeing that text from you rattled him a bit and he didn't want to go down that road again.

[Learningtowalkagain]

My ex texted me happy fathers day. I only knew it was her because I know her phone number (I deleted her info and text message history, you should definitely do the same). I told her thanks because I hold no ill will towards her. Sounds like he's a dick and you're better off without him.

[candie13]

so let's assume he would answer. a nice dry, polite "thank you". what would that change? Would that not still make you feel like shyte? would you not still have that bitter taste fully exploding in the back of your throat?

 

First year after the BU, everyone's messed up. and you wanna know what the best part is? You don't even know it.

 

so you fcked up, sending that text. Not the end of the world. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and go back to NC. you'll survive.

[SycamoreCircle]

You did it. Now pull on your dunce cap and go sit in the corner.