ZA Dater Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Perhaps it would be nice to hear some success stories? Has anyone met someone nice who they actually dated? For my sins I felt lonely and went back and joined something called Elite Singles, met someone remotely interesting but from the off it was wishy washy, eventually today I just asked her if she wanted to meet for coffee. " I am not sure if I want to meet anyone here, don't want to get your hopes up" Typical BS type response, just simply say "I don't want to meet you". That's as an aside, has anyone had any tangible success? Be nice to read a few good stories for a change.
Phoe Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 I met my ex on OLD. He was the first and only man I ever dated off of OLD. Obviously that didn't work out long term, but we clicked well right off the bat and did have a relationship.
Jejangles Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 I have not personally had great success with online dating. I did meet a truly nice guy and dated him for four months last year, but it was never serious, he wasn't in a good place for a relationship. However, many of my friends have, and they are the reason I persist! One friend chatted with a guy for a couple of months via IM and he was the first guy she met from online. Her first impression was he was so quiet and nothing like the funny guy she'd been chatting with, but he is super shy and so she saw potential and kept dating him. They were serious within a few months, engaged within a year and now have two beautiful kids together after about five years of marriage. My cousin went on lots of dates and was ready to give up on online. She met this guy, wasn't sure about him, so went on a couple of other dates then realised the first guy was a winner. They are an amazing match in terms of personality and interests. They got married two years ago and now have a one year old. My other friend went online and had some horror stories! She went out with this guy for a drink, 20 minutes into the date he said he was going to the bathroom, then 5 or so minutes after that the waiter came and said the guy you were with has paid and left... He totally ditched her! Couldn't even make it through one drink. Shortly after that she was ready to get offline and saw this new guy sign up, IM'd him because he was cute to say good luck on this site it's crap. They texted back and forth for a few weeks while he convinced her to meet him, met, almost immediately fell in love, have been together for two years and just had a baby. All of the above happened fairly quickly, which always makes me feel down, because I have been online dating on and off for years now. But one story that makes me feel better is a friend of a friend who went on something like 70 first dates over the course of a few years. She knew what she wanted, finally met this guy, and now they are married and have twins.
40 Fonzarelli Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 I have not personally had great success with online dating. I did meet a truly nice guy and dated him for four months last year, but it was never serious, he wasn't in a good place for a relationship. However, many of my friends have, and they are the reason I persist! One friend chatted with a guy for a couple of months via IM and he was the first guy she met from online. Her first impression was he was so quiet and nothing like the funny guy she'd been chatting with, but he is super shy and so she saw potential and kept dating him. They were serious within a few months, engaged within a year and now have two beautiful kids together after about five years of marriage. My cousin went on lots of dates and was ready to give up on online. She met this guy, wasn't sure about him, so went on a couple of other dates then realised the first guy was a winner. They are an amazing match in terms of personality and interests. They got married two years ago and now have a one year old. My other friend went online and had some horror stories! She went out with this guy for a drink, 20 minutes into the date he said he was going to the bathroom, then 5 or so minutes after that the waiter came and said the guy you were with has paid and left... He totally ditched her! Couldn't even make it through one drink. Shortly after that she was ready to get offline and saw this new guy sign up, IM'd him because he was cute to say good luck on this site it's crap. They texted back and forth for a few weeks while he convinced her to meet him, met, almost immediately fell in love, have been together for two years and just had a baby. All of the above happened fairly quickly, which always makes me feel down, because I have been online dating on and off for years now. But one story that makes me feel better is a friend of a friend who went on something like 70 first dates over the course of a few years. She knew what she wanted, finally met this guy, and now they are married and have twins. Yup. I always remind myself, all it takes is one.
rester Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 I have not done it but reading some of the stories on here makes me less likely to do it in the future, if I need to. I personally only know one couple that met online and had a long-term relationship come out of it. They have been married with children for many years now, and are happy as far as I can tell. When I think about all the other couples that I know and how they met, it seems that the odds are in favor of meeting someone more traditionally and not online. I cannot think of another couple besides the one I already mentioned that met their partner online. Just thought of another one....an old boss of mine. That's two couples.
andie1969 Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 I am currently dating someone I met on Match back in Feb. We dated for about 2 months, he freaked out and ghosted for about a month. Then, sent me an email acknowledging he had been an idiot, etc., so we reconnected mid-May and things have been going great ever since. We only live 4 miles apart, and up until November lived just over a mile apart, but it took OLD to get us to meet.
Author ZA Dater Posted July 6, 2015 Author Posted July 6, 2015 Nice to know others have had some success.
empresario Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Yes. If you do it right. I have posted my strategies in the past. When I've done it I select the women I message very carefully. I usually message 5-10 and get dates from 1-4. If you can read through the B.S. and actually go in with the intent of having a conversation with the lady (as opposed to acting like a horny child like most the men on there) then you have a good shot of getting responses.
CarrieT Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Yes, but it was work. For three years, I worked OLD; hundreds and hundreds of online conversations and over 50 coffee meet-and-greets/first dates. In the beginning, I would get completely invested in a guy who payed even a little attention. I was snookered a few times with scams. I fell for guys I never met in person. Eventually I got wise to the games and grew a thicker skin. But in my 48th year I met a guy, was engaged a year later and married at 50! 1
BluEyeL Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Yes, me too, I met my boyfriend on match, we've been together one year. It took me 18 months and almost 30 first dates. I'm 43 yo now and I have a child, so no female in my 20s. A friend of mine who is 40yo (woman) signed up for match and met her boyfriend within 2 weeks. They're now engaged, after dating for about 1.5 years. My BF's best friend met and married his wife on match as well and that's why my boyfriend tried online dating too.
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