ptopes Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 I actually wanted some input on why my ex has been acting the way he has. He broke up with me about 3 months ago after dating for 1 year claiming he no longer loved me because we truly did fight a lot. I was confused on his lack of feelings because it came out of nowhere, but it is what it is. We didn't speak for about two months, but then we did meet up at a bar because we had mutual friends so we were bound to meet up again. Anyway, I was the first one to say hi, and we talk fine. We of course only see each other in public gatherings. During one of the nights he was at a bar with me and my friends, my guy friend I brought with me kissed me, and I guess my ex was watching us and he seemed surprised/angry, which makes me only slightly confused because he told me he doesn't have feelings for me. And then, I went to a party last night with a few of my girl friends. My ex was there and I saw him look at me from the corner of my eye but he didn't say anything. I walked into the kitchen where he was and made a general remark of how I couldn't eat since I was so full and he immediately jumped in to talk and said "oh yeah you're too full? That's crazy" or something. He was only there for like 30 or 45 minutes until he had to leave, but the entire time he would be jumping into remarks I would make by just saying something about my remark. I would occasionally respond to him. But like, one of my friends was telling me how my ex kept on looking at me as if he was trying to keep my attention. I'm just so confused because I feel like he wouldn't have to jump into every opportunity to make a remark if he didn't care about me romantically. I still obviously care about him, and I have moved on from our breakup, just not his excuse of why he ended the relationship. He's been sleeping with some girl that's engaged and he acts like a drunken fool in public settings which at times makes me feel like he hasn't moved on to better things.
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 You didn't say his age but he sounds immature. Like what I'm going through now, I guess we're always curious about our ex's lives and their new partners. 3 months isn't very long and I'm sure he still thinks about you romantically. Men don't communicate as well as women do. So that's a part of the reason he's acting that way.
Author ptopes Posted July 6, 2015 Author Posted July 6, 2015 Yeah, he's 23 and I'm about to turn 22 in a week. He by far is not the most mature guy out there. He wasn't mature enough to properly handle confrontations which was one of the reasons we fought so much. I do partially want him back, but not the way he is right now.
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 He doesn't want you back but he's upset by the idea of you moving on. In that sense he's a but jealous but you should not mistake jealousy for a desire to reconcile. 1
dumbass2 Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Agree 100% with d0nnivain It's normal, but in an immature way. Happens a lot. They don't want you, but they don't want to see you with someone else. Again, it's selfish and immature. You should try and steer clear the best you can and you shouldn't have contact with him and you wont be able to just be friends right now. He'll do the same thing in person again or if he doesn't see you in a while, I wouldn't be surprised if he contacts you. Preferably, he would like to be able to move on and be happy with someone before you do.
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