unbeknown Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Hey all So I went on a first date with a girl last night. Everything went really well. Kissed at the end and had a good feeling I'd be seeing her again. Then today I get a message off her saying whilst she did want to see me again she has found out that I dated her friend from Uni and it would weird her out so she no longer wishes to see me. To put it in perspective I dated this girl in question for maybe 3 months tops (we did sleep together once, which now I'm incredibly regretting). She lives and works on the other side of the country (300+ miles away). I ended it because we weren't a match. And it was 2, nearly 3 years ago and I have no intentions in a million years of ever rekindling anything EVER. I'd completely forgot she even existed until this to be completely honest. I don't have her number or as a friend on any social media - I have no idea how she has found out :/ Is this in any way salvageable or shall I just leave it be. It is what it is? Everyone has a history and I never once imagined this tiny little thing would come back and bite me. I understand everyone is entitled to a view but this just feels really small fry for 2 adults, or am I being unreasonable? It would be a shame to waste an opportunity which could turn in to something great. Cheers all, appreciate any advice.
Survivor12 Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Girl code. Just because you barely remember her friend doesn't mean that her friend feels/felt the same about you.
Author unbeknown Posted July 6, 2015 Author Posted July 6, 2015 Girl code. Just because you barely remember her friend doesn't mean that her friend feels/felt the same about you. It sucks a bit becasue I do distinctly remember leaving on good terms with the girl she mentioned. We've even hung out as friends after me ending it. Maybe she always held a grudge secretly though Just seems really childish that she'd ruin something in my life now for what happened 3 years ago and we no longer even stay in touch.
elaine567 Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Not childish, practical. Leads to all sorts of issues, To some women it is just slightly icky, to go where your friend has been before. Mental images - not good.. Comparison, am I better in bed, prettier, more fun, etc. than her? Loyalty whose side do I take? My bf or my friend. She says she hates him, do I want to lose her friendship over this? Questions. She said he was a loser, and went on and on about his bad points when they split, do I want to go out with a loser? Infidelity - If we all meet up will I have to watch my back in case they resume where they left off?
kendahke Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 (edited) Hey all So I went on a first date with a girl last night. Everything went really well. Kissed at the end and had a good feeling I'd be seeing her again. Then today I get a message off her saying whilst she did want to see me again she has found out that I dated her friend from Uni and it would weird her out so she no longer wishes to see me. To put it in perspective I dated this girl in question for maybe 3 months tops (we did sleep together once, which now I'm incredibly regretting). She lives and works on the other side of the country (300+ miles away). I ended it because we weren't a match. And it was 2, nearly 3 years ago and I have no intentions in a million years of ever rekindling anything EVER. I'd completely forgot she even existed until this to be completely honest. I don't have her number or as a friend on any social media - I have no idea how she has found out :/ Is this in any way salvageable or shall I just leave it be. It is what it is? Everyone has a history and I never once imagined this tiny little thing would come back and bite me. I understand everyone is entitled to a view but this just feels really small fry for 2 adults, or am I being unreasonable? It would be a shame to waste an opportunity which could turn in to something great. Cheers all, appreciate any advice. She found out because apparently, she and the girl in question are closer than you think or a mutual friend of theirs alerted her to this. No. Just move on. Her friend knows what you look like naked. You know what she looks like naked. This is done. She has made that choice and doesn't want to be involved. Perhaps she's just not pressed to be in a relationship. Edited July 6, 2015 by kendahke
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