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The Red Flags They Use To Determine If A Woman Is A Loser.

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We never seem to talk about what makes a woman a loser and what to look for . Also in my family my aunts and female cousins have some sociopath in them. I also read Venus The Dark Side : The Female Sociopath how to spot one.

 

Well back to the red flags that make a woman a loser . What do you think I think there right on IMO.

 

Also I think there are more than fair IMO and I am going to use them when I get back into the dating game.

 

 

 

  1. A REAL man? Aren’t all men real?

A woman who begins a sentence with “A real man would….”

 

 

2. This is super annoying

“If you loved me you’d…”

 

 

3. Keyword: Girls

Girls that verbally abuse their SO in public

Girls that try to embarrass guys that hit on them

Girls that use sex to make people like them

Girls that need to snoop

Girls with multiple baby daddies

Girls that need the group to make decisions for them

 

4. Gold diggers

Girls in their upper-20s and 30s that still only ever apply to part time jobs and spend the rest of the time partying despite being completely qualified and capable of landing a proper 9-5 with good pay and benefits while still complaining how they never have money for stuff. And in almost every case they are looking for a guy with solid career and good income (who they will complain can’t come out partying all the time) to sweep them up.

 

 

5. Constant hate

I’d even throw in girls that use the word, “haters” in a, “serious” tone. Using it in a joke is fine though.

 

 

6. This is not good

I know a girl that can only go 1-3 months between boyfriends. She doesn’t know how to be independent and self-sustaining, both mentally and physically.

 

 

7. That’s not going to fly

Obese and tries shaming me into finding her attractive.

 

 

8. Bad attitude

A “what can you do for me?” attitude.

Not being able to hold up their end of the conversation, or basically sitting there and expecting to be entertained.

 

 

Their living space looks like complete ****. I’m not a neat-freak by any stretch of the imagination, but if your room still looks like it does when you were 15 you need to reevaluate your life.

 

 

A basic general lack of self-awareness, or just an inability to recognize that their actions have consequences.

 

 

Being comfortable and casual is one thing, but showing up to a date in pajama bottoms is weapons-grade loser.

 

 

Using the pussy pass.

 

 

Proclaiming how much she gets along with her “friends” while tearing them down behind their backs.

 

 

Using sex as means to get attention.

 

 

Placing their sense of self-worth an getting attention from men.

 

 

Crying feminism when it benefits them, crying misogyny when it doesn’t.

 

 

Talking too much about their exes.

 

 

Perpetual victimhood.

 

 

Proclamations of “I don’t like drama.”

 

 

A general inability to take “no” for an answer.

 

 

Performing mental backflips in order to rationalize bad decision making in hindsight.

 

 

Being “proud” of their inability to handle basic food preparation or lack of domestic skills.

 

 

Wondering why they feel like **** all the time when their diet consists of mostly Cliff bars, flavored vodka, and Vitamin Water.

 

 

A lack of self discipline.

 

 

A preoccupation with what celebrities are doing with their lives.

 

9. Princess syndrome

 

Expects everyone else to carry her through life. Aka daddy’s little princess.

Complains about things and shows no interest in changing them.

Being 20+ and acting like 16.

 

10. Leeches

 

A random girl that approaches insisting that I should buy her and her friends drinks. Sorry, if that’s what you’re going to lead with, you’re probably not very interesting as a person and are a money pilfering leech. I don’t buy girls that aren’t my SO/friends drinks, anyways.

 

 

Women with awfully negative personalities and then blame all of the men around them for their single status. You want to know why you’re single? Because few men want someone who is a complete drag to be around 99.999% of the time.

 

11. It’s going to get ugly real fast

 

For me its a woman who’s only existence seems to be with you. She has no life outside you.

 

12. That’s not fair to guys

 

Women who, when a man finds them attractive but she doesn’t find him attractive, automatically labels him ‘creepy.’

 

13. A hollow shell

 

Women creating drama and whoring for attention when they’re older than 16

 

 

Women constantly complaining about how all the men they date are *******s

 

 

Women doing nothing with their lives, only existing through their trophy husband

 

 

Women who always present themselves as victims to justify their incapacity at being successful and interesting

 

 

Women having a huge amount of interest in reality TV and celebrities life

 

 

Women who only listen/watch the movies/music that the radio/TV feeds them. (Passive attitude with culture and information)

 

14. You’re their life support

 

If their parents pay all their bills and keep them up in a lavish lifestyle. I don’t want to become her next support.

 

15. Drama, drama, drama

 

Girls who say they don’t have many female friends because they cause drama. Almost invariably, it means they cause a **** load of drama but can’t take it when dished out to them.

 

16. No future

 

No job/career – my biggest red flag.

 

17. Awful, awful, awful

 

Women who are cowardly and overly dependent on others but think that acting like a bitch makes them “strong and independent”.

 

 

Women who treat every guy they don’t know like he must be some sort of creep even if he’s done nothing to justify it.

 

18. Making stupid-ass excuses

 

Women who use that obnoxious (and possibly misattributed) Marilyn Monroe quote about “handling them at their worst,” usually as a way to excuse their deplorable behavior and their unwillingness/inability to do something about it.

 

19. Super judgemental

 

Being super judgemental about people makes them a loser to me. Especially if it’s a snap judgement, or based of some preconceived notion.

 

 

If a girls on a high horse about everything and can do no wrong, she might as well have loser stamped on her forehead.

 

20. Not a good sign

 

A girl who has a new set of girlfriends about every six months to a year. You know that girl is going to end up being a big meanie with low self-esteem.

 

21. Major red flag here

 

“I have a long series of ex-boyfriends were *******s, abusive, alcoholics, etc…”

 

Only constant in your relationships is you.

 

21 Men Identify The Red Flags They Use To Determine If A Woman Is A ?Loser? | Thought Catalog

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Ouch.

 

Actually I appreciate you putting specifics and that helps me connect dots with some of the past men I have dated. Guys who have weird bullet point lists and continually shoot their own dating lives down because they are too rigid.

 

Can you please make a list that describes what you do want, in a positive light???

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Krieger Established Member

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Ouch.

 

Actually I appreciate you putting specifics and that helps me connect dots with some of the past men I have dated. Guys who have weird bullet point lists and continually shoot their own dating lives down because they are too rigid.

 

Can you please make a list that describes what you do want, in a positive light???

 

Well to be fair if she has too many red flags than no thanks .

 

I am like china in that I have a one child policy . :p:laugh: Not interested in dating a woman with multiple baby daddy's. she has to be in a long term relationship and it did not work out or the guy died .

 

If a woman told me she wanted a child just to have one or she wanted to be loved I am running for the hills.

 

What do I want in a GF?

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Ouch.

 

Can you please make a list that describes what you do want, in a positive light???

 

 

  • Will not date a woman bigger than me it weird IMO
  • A woman that wants to build a family together
  • would make a good mother
  • has goals and dreams of her own
  • likes the outdoors and a adventurous spirit
  • makes me want to be a better man but not change me as a man.
  • understand that I have emotions and are in touch with them
  • just a female that understands me

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yxalitis Established Member

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Wow, Krieger...

 

You got some issues boy.

Almost of of those are gender neutral, but you've focused this piece on woman alone.

You seem like an egotistical, misogynistic user.

 

But...that's just me, I'm sure woman find you delightful...

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Krieger Established Member

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Wow, Krieger...

 

You got some issues boy.

Almost of of those are gender neutral, but you've focused this piece on woman alone.

You seem like an egotistical, misogynistic user.

 

But...that's just me, I'm sure woman find you delightful...

 

Seeing that i am interested in dating woman why would I care what men do?

 

What woman cant be losers?

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Krieger Established Member

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I see noting wrong with picking a top 5 of this list and making them deal breakers.

 

For me having 2.3.4.5.6.7 kids with different men the biggest Red flag to me . Next to talking crap about people when there not a round but being all nice to there face. Followed by cant keep a job or does not want to work. Than i am her everything and her life she has no interest of her own. Lastly NO goals in life and OK staying at a dead end job when she can do better.

SammySammy Established Member

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So woman are never losers? In your world Casey Anthony mother of the year? :rolleyes::rolleyes:

 

How come no one get my post is it me? I do not think it is .

 

People must be stupid if you think one thing on this list other than multiple baby daddy's will make me run for the hills.

 

Also never said all woman or taking about all woman .

 

In a way, you did. It's very difficult to find a woman who doesn't do at least one thing on that list.

 

Interesting list though. I agree with several things on it.

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Krieger Established Member

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In a way, you did. It's very difficult to find a woman who doesn't do at least one thing on that list.

 

Interesting list though. I agree with several things on it.

 

 

Sorry if i did not make it clear if she has too many red flags run away . A few is OK no one is perfect but there are somethings I will not stand for.

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Never call a woman a "loser" of you ever hope to get in her pants.

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It's a long, but good list to keep in mind.

 

I seem to attract plenty of girls with things that can be found on this list. :lmao:

 

I don't see anything wrong with using these ideas as a caution before getting serious with someone.

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Women have standards and that is good but men have a right to our standards as well. Having them does not mean we are misogynists. This article is also a response to one written about men so if this is misogynist the original one is misandrist.

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That is an AWESOME list. And very true because in this day and age, a lot of 'girls' are like that.

 

To be honest, it is very difficult to find a proper intelligent drama-free woman. When you do find one, please count your blessings and treasure her!

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  • Will not date a woman bigger than me it weird IMO
  • A woman that wants to build a family together
  • would make a good mother
  • has goals and dreams of her own
  • likes the outdoors and a adventurous spirit
  • makes me want to be a better man but not change me as a man.
  • understand that I have emotions and are in touch with them
  • just a female that understands me

 

I think it is extremely important to be aware of what you want in a woman and in your future relationship. I also think it's extremely important to be aware of what your dealbreakers are. Doing this exercise is actually part of working on yourself and it will help you pick potential partners and weed those unsuitable out.

 

As for how women who do this or that are losers... that's a bit immature, judgmental and actually shows that you may have a thing against them... unfortunately, that attitude is quite repelling and might spook women off. You cannot attract partners of the opposite sex if deep down inside you nurture spiteful feelings towards all of the opposite sex human beings... work on releasing those negative feelings, they are poisonous. Women can smell them off of men.

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Krieger I have meant to tell you lately. Your energy is SO spiky! You need to relax a little bit.

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Women have standards and that is good but men have a right to our standards as well. Having them does not mean we are misogynists. This article is also a response to one written about men so if this is misogynist the original one is misandrist.

 

Having standards is critical. You have to determine what is acceptable and what is unacceptable.

 

Whenever you see a group of people with problems - whether it's a business, sports team, family or a couple - it's usually because someone's standards are too low or the consequences for breaking the standards are not being enforced. People tend to rise to the level of expectation set by the standards. If you're willing to accept poor behavior, your chances being treated poorly rise tremendously.

 

It's important for men and women to have standards. Important to enforce those standards quickly and consistently. I think our lives and relationships would be much better if more of us wouldn't tolerate the breaking of certain ground rules. We would learn to be more caring and considerate of each other. More productive and proactive in terms of building our relationships.

 

Or end up alone.

 

The list just can't be too long, mean-spirited or petty.

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Krieger Established Member

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It's a long, but good list to keep in mind.

 

I seem to attract plenty of girls with things that can be found on this list. :lmao:

 

I don't see anything wrong with using these ideas as a caution before getting serious with someone.

 

 

I do not get why people are so upset?

 

All I know is I need to avoid woman like Jodi Arias at all cost.

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Never call a woman a "loser" of you ever hope to get in her pants.

 

 

I think not getting in her pants is the goal.

Robert Z Established Member

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It's a long, but good list to keep in mind.

 

I seem to attract plenty of girls with things that can be found on this list. :lmao:

 

I don't see anything wrong with using these ideas as a caution before getting serious with someone.

 

 

Control issues

Entitlement issues

Sex issues

 

 

That about sums it up for me. But price can be a factor as well! :laugh:

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Krieger Established Member

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Wow I did thick this would get so much blow back . Sorry lady's you cant do no wrong and can do anything to a guy and it is his fault . :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

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I do not get why people are so upset?

 

its not the list or the standards ---- its calling ANY person a LOSER for not meeting YOUR standards.

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Wow I did thick this would get so much blow back . Sorry lady's you cant do no wrong and can do anything to a guy and it is his fault . :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

 

You've essentially describe most girls on your list. Not an insult to the ladies but a lot of that is typical woman behavior. Woman are suppose to have bad attitudes because you're the man you're her stone. You're suppose to help her keep her feelings at bay

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I think it is good to know up front what our dealbreakers are.

 

And yes, both men and women should have standards.

 

I'm not sure anyone can get an accurate picture of how many of those someone truly has or does not have in a couple of dates, though, which seems to be the modern dating goal: go on 2 dates, over-analyze every inhale and exhale, and summarily dismiss or fall in love immediately.

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  • Will not date a woman bigger than me it weird IMO
  • A woman that wants to build a family together
  • would make a good mother
  • has goals and dreams of her own
  • likes the outdoors and a adventurous spirit
  • makes me want to be a better man but not change me as a man.
  • understand that I have emotions and are in touch with them
  • just a female that understands me

 

 

Thanks, thats much less painful to read!

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candie13 Established Member

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having standards and dealbreakers is always great. I think where most people have issues (me included) is in setting healthy barriers and defending them in a constructive manner.

 

oh, and also picking a partner who has a genuine similar interest in you and similar goals to yours as far as your RS is concerned is key - if either one is compromising because of sex, looks, money, success, then that RS is a gonner.

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