ZA Dater Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 I have learnt many things through my attempts to date people and below is my take, with some humour. : if they don't like you in 5 minutes they wont ever like you. : you will get stood up : people don't look like their pictures. : the ugliest person imaginable will find you attractive : the best person you meet keeps you awake at night, cursing when you are the looser you are. : you CANNOT woo people, they either like you are they don't. : you need to be a sheep and do what everyone else does, females find that hugely attractive. : if you have $ or good looks anything is gettable. : being a good guy puts you at the back of the line. : don't spent too much on first dates : do got to a movie for a first date : conform, its vitally important : never try to hold a persons hand on the first date : if you leaves the table to go to the restroom, there is a 60% chance she wont come back : its a cynical world and guys will never understand what a female wants. Ultimately you will be wowed but just at that point there will be something horrendously wrong with you which means you are good for nothing, not even a friend. Honesty is an optional extra when meeting people, an extra seldom found. Most people are the same but the truly extraordinary ones are truly special, find one of those, just for a time and you will realise how good it can be. Signing off: Mr Cynical.
wizer Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Wow you're bitter. Your attitude and low expectations probably cost you more dates than any other single factor. Some of your points are well taken, most are completely off base. I've been known to hold hands on a first date, that means we're connecting, and it often leads to more dates. I've never had a woman go to the bathroom and not return, that's just rude. For someone to do that, she's gotta be in a pretty bad way, or the guy she's with is some sort of scary freak. A movie is a poor choice for a first date or any date in the early stages because those early dates are opportunities to learn to know one another not learn about the lives of fictitious people on a screen. Do what everyone else does because women like that? I can't even begin to wrap my head around what you could possibly mean by that. I mean, yes to some extent we need to conform to societal norms but everyone is unique and different, to try to be like everyone else is to be a follower, and that is not attractive. Guys may never fully understand what a woman wants, but we can get close enough so that we can be successful with women and make them happy.
Vintage79 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Hmm - conform and be generic - that's really going to work for you bud. Pair that with attempting to avoid physical contact (holding hands), giving up after 5 minutes, and expecting that they will walk out on you if you go the restroom - you sound totally fun...
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