Ineptitude Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 (edited) So a little about me first is probably necessary. I am a 28 year old woman. I have had 3 relationships spanning about 7 years of my life. All of them I met online and were long distance relationships ( closed distance with 2. ) I am very introverted and have social anxiety and consequently I am socially inept. Dating is weird and awkward and confusing for me. It's been 6 months since my last relationship ended and I have chosen to use the internet in my search for a partner. I have been seeing this one guy for about 2 weeks now. Before we met up we both discussed what we were "looking for." We've seen each other 3 times and the last time we did end up having sex. He had said that day that he would like to go out on Tuesday night and maybe stay the night since we both have Wednesdays off. He also mentioned that we wouldn't be able to do that if it ends up that he has to work because his work would be closed for the holiday. He got a text before he left about how they did in fact need him to work that day. So he left and we never made plans to see each other again. Now, he texted me the day after and asked about how my day was going, we texted a little here and there the next couple of days but never made any plans to see each other. On Wednesday I texted him that I would like to see each other again. He asked when I was free and I told him. He too has social anxiety (something he mentioned to me before i mentioned it to him) and we had talked about how I've never really dated before so it was all new for me. So when I sent a text letting him know I was sorry if i overstepped that dating is new to me and if he wasn't interested that was fine as well. I told him I didn't want to come off too strong and chase him off or something lol (NOT my finest moment here.) Anyway, he texted back "Lol. Don't worry. I want to go out again!" and then explained that his job is demanding and exhausting and it's hard to make plans for days that he works. Which was something I already knew about from previous conversations. Anyway, we ended up making plans for this coming Tuesday like we had intended to do last week and that's the last I heard from him. He hasn't gotten in touch with me at all since Wednesday night. He really does seem like a nice genuine guy but if he was truly interested wouldn't he touch base with me in some way? I just don't want to waste my time and so I'm looking for some opinions. Edited July 5, 2015 by Ineptitude
hoully81 Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 It seems you are worried if he likes you or not since he has not got in touch with you. I understand your concern and its normal. There could be many reasons why he has not got in touch with you. Many men see texting and chatting on the phone as a tool to set dates and thats it. He could be very busy and just does not have the time to really have a meaningful conversation. Look at it on the bright side. It sounds like his next free time he is going to spend with you. Use that time you are with him to get to know him and allow him to get to know you. I too have social anxiety so I prefer going to places with just my partner rather then a club or a party or something. I suggest if its killing you to talk to him maybe send him a short text on something funny that has happened in your day to day life just to see if you can get a response as you never know he may be sitting on the other side of the phone thinking this girl must not like me because she never sends me a text or calls. Since you guys have plans you could also give a suggestion on something to do when you guys are together. If it is something that will cost money I suggest you offer to pay for it too. Good luck
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 He may have had plans over the long 4th of July weekend & didn't have time to contact you over the holiday or he didn't want to bother you. See if he calls today. If not, you call him to confirm for tomorrow. Yes, that is bold & it will be tough for you to do given your issues but one of two things will happen: he'll be thrilled to hear from you or you will learn that it wasn't meant to be. Even the later is better then worrying or worse taking the time to go wherever you were supposed to meet him only to be stood up.
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