confused83 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 to keep things short I'm trying to not let this get to me but can't help it I know Facebook isn't important but my previous girlfriends have always put things on there about us. anyway my new relationship I've never been so happy and neither has she. We are crazy about each other but she refuses to put anything on Facebook. I know it makes me sound childish letting it even bother me but it's the fact she's always on their. she will go out with friends and Tag herself in places and upload albums of photos with friends but never ever anything to do with me. her relationship status is blank and when I asked about it all she just said 'people don't need to know' the worry is she also says she prefers to tell people to their face about us so never really mentions me to mates. I've never had a girl who doesn't discuss her bf with friends :/ I feel stupid because we aren't kids. I'm 32 she's 27 but I can't help feeling like it's a big secret. I know she's shy but I kind of fell stupid sometimes because she's so lovey send clingy with me which I love but then on Facebook if I comment on a post of hers she will put no kisses and say something pretty sharp for instance I said I miss you and she said 'I'd miss me' all her friends liked her reply and it made me look stupid then she text me 'love you'. feel like she's embarrassed of me sometimes and I'm not bad looking.
petsrule Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Unfortunately tagging people on facebook is the nature of facebook. I don't bother with it, personally.
cessna Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 You have to remember that deep down facebook is one big popularity contest really. No matter what anyone says, for the majority it's all about showing off your life and getting as much attention as possible.
Redhead14 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 to keep things short I'm trying to not let this get to me but can't help it I know Facebook isn't important but my previous girlfriends have always put things on there about us. anyway my new relationship I've never been so happy and neither has she. We are crazy about each other but she refuses to put anything on Facebook. I know it makes me sound childish letting it even bother me but it's the fact she's always on their. she will go out with friends and Tag herself in places and upload albums of photos with friends but never ever anything to do with me. her relationship status is blank and when I asked about it all she just said 'people don't need to know' the worry is she also says she prefers to tell people to their face about us so never really mentions me to mates. I've never had a girl who doesn't discuss her bf with friends :/ I feel stupid because we aren't kids. I'm 32 she's 27 but I can't help feeling like it's a big secret. I know she's shy but I kind of fell stupid sometimes because she's so lovey send clingy with me which I love but then on Facebook if I comment on a post of hers she will put no kisses and say something pretty sharp for instance I said I miss you and she said 'I'd miss me' all her friends liked her reply and it made me look stupid then she text me 'love you'. feel like she's embarrassed of me sometimes and I'm not bad looking. How long have you been dating her? If its fairly early, a wise woman will not discuss in detail a new boyfriend with her friends. A young girl would, but not necessarily at her age. She won't want to be influenced by her friends who may either be over protective or too encouraging. She wants to be objective. But, if you feel she is keeping you a secret entirely, that's another story. If when she's in a group with you and kinda pushes you away or doesn't acknowledge you much or something like that, that could be a clue. But unless that's happening, you don't really know anything. She could have told her close friends about you, you don't really know do you? FB drama is a killer for a relationship. If she's playing out your relationship on Facebook and getting comments and stuff there and if things go wrong, it's all over Facebook and you and she will have memorialized it for the world. Sure, if it's going well it'll be memorialized too, but who cares? If you have it in person, it's all good. Continue to observe her behavior with you and be in the moment. If she's been consistent with you in person and through personal communication and demonstrating her level of interest clearly enough for your needs, sit with that for a bit. Forget about FB or social media activity. That's her business, not yours.
Author confused83 Posted July 5, 2015 Author Posted July 5, 2015 It's just with me in person she's amazing but always said 'I add other things because we've gone places so I would with you if we went somewhere'. then we went on holiday for the weekend and she added nothing. I was uploading the odd picture and place tag but she added nothing. I don't care about fb but it is making me feel like I'm a huge secret. I don't even tag her because then i feel like it's all me making effort and looks like I'm all over her why she's not bothered. fb never mattered to me but with her it does make me feel stupid that I'd happily tell anyone and she picks and chooses who knows. starting to feel like it's so she can still get attention because she must get 10 inboxes a day on it as she's good looking but she always shows them me. 1 person didn't even realise she wasn't with ex anymore and she said they'd split up but again didn't mention me.
Author confused83 Posted July 5, 2015 Author Posted July 5, 2015 Not sure if it's because she truly doesn't like telling people or because she doesn't want the attention to stop or... she's being shady for another reason
Redhead14 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Not sure if it's because she truly doesn't like telling people or because she doesn't want the attention to stop or... she's being shady for another reason It doesn't matter what she's thinking. You can't know what she's thinking. You're focusing on her and trying to mind-read. Focus on your needs and whether or not she is meeting them. Stay centered and focused on what you know, not about the unknowns. Let her continue to show you on a more "tangible" level what her interest level is. Observe her, not the "cyber world" her or the unknowns.
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