samw Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Hey, I have wrote a long story previously but didn't get much reply and need help for the suffering I am feeling. I will keep it short. We had a big travelling trip coming up. We broke up a month and a half ago. I put her down in a fight we had. Was going through alot of family issues. Anyways, I begged and pleaded for 2 weeks. The first week I drove up 2 times (3 hour drive). First time she was gone, went up after a few days; her brother allowed me in to deliver her flowers, a bear and a hand written letter. I got to talk to her in person. She said she didn't love me anymore. I asked how in a matter of 5 days? She said she had been thinking day and night and her gut says it is right. I pretty much said to give me another chance, and I don't break promises. I have changed. Truthfully by then I hadn't by then. She also said she is still debating the trip. It is a over a grand ticket for her. ALOT of money. I asked her if she wants me stop fighting for her. then I will. She sounded unsure, but said just stop fighting for a few weeks. I left her alone for a week and just said one text : hope you have a good day. Then after that week I said; hey the trip is coming up, can we talk on phone about it. To sum it up, she said she is not going and don't call her, and blocked my house number. We texted still, and I came off little needy again saying do i not deserve a call? and also asked if she had moved on so fast. She said not to worry about her life and told me to move on. I said okay you lead me on and it wasn't cool, i did what you asked to give you some space and to let you think about the decision. She said thats fine sorry for misunderstanding, have a nice trip. I ended it with have a good summer. TRIP IS GONE. got some money for refund. She didn't even care to ask if there she gets back anything. I sent her E transfer of it. She still didn't accept it?? Been about 6 days now. Been no contact for 36 days. I fixed myself in that time. No more the same guy. She unfollowed me off instagram to not see my face smiling I guess lol. I put up happy pics. I just have her on as facebook friends. How long do I do no contact? Till she contacts me or what? I have tried to move on and see other girls. It didn't feel right. I am making steps of change, but I see that happiness is where the heart lies. My birthday went by this week, without her saying anything either. She hates me that much? She won't take her own money either.
Emily Broke Up Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Hey, She made it clear she doesn't love you and that it's over. Don't even think about what's next, she said what she said and there's nothing you can do about it. Accept it now, and move on. It's the only thing you can do. She probably didn't write on your birthday to not lead you on. She must know how strong your feelings are and doesn't want to open a can of worms. If you're not ready to date, don't date. Posting happy pictures of you can make you look desperate if you're not really happy. So what you should do is to take a trip, do something new, get really busy, the busiest you can get, and wait for time to heal the wound. What's next is about you, and only you ok? Take care of yourself. 1
na49 Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Your "break" may have become a "breakup" sadly. She doesn't seem to be on the same page with you on the relationship. If she's telling you to move on, that should tell you everything you need to know.
AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Hi. What did you say to put her down. Some things are unforgivable and end up being the last straw.
aloneinaz Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 We all screw up in relationships. Clearly, you did as well. You apologized and went above and beyond telling her how bad you feel. You've learned from it. Now, you need to STOP contacting her and move forward w/your life. There's no further reason to as she was crystal clear about her feelings. The longer you have no contact w/her, the sooner it will be easier to accept the outcome. If she ended it over this one fight, chances are very strong that she maybe wasn't very happy overall and this fight gave her the chance to say enough. Start dating when you feel you're ready. You didn't mention how long you dated her. Someone will come along and maybe you'll be a much better fit.
mightycpa Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 What's next is to realize that you don't change that much in 36 days. Eventually, someone will get a better version of you. If you don't want to go through this again, make sure it is a much better version.
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 How long have you been together? How old are you both?
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