Author Illusion24 Posted May 2, 2005 Author Posted May 2, 2005 I limit myself to a single quote: "What else is love but understanding and rejoicing in the fact that another person lives, acts, and experiences otherwise than we do??" -- Friedrich Nietzsche I like that!!
chubachoop Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 Love to me is knowing and accepting a person into your life completely. Its not being able to compromise but comprimising without realising you are comprimising. Its also about trusting 100% and knowing you will never risk hurting him because it would hurt you to see him upset. True love is a combination of friendship, affection and sexual attraction. You want to be a better person because of them, you look up to them and wish you could have certain qualities they have, you are proud when walking at their side and most of all you know they feel exactly the same as you do.
Author Illusion24 Posted May 2, 2005 Author Posted May 2, 2005 Love to me is knowing and accepting a person into your life completely. Its not being able to compromise but comprimising without realising you are comprimising. Its also about trusting 100% and knowing you will never risk hurting him because it would hurt you to see him upset. True love is a combination of friendship, affection and sexual attraction. You want to be a better person because of them, you look up to them and wish you could have certain qualities they have, you are proud when walking at their side and most of all you know they feel exactly the same as you do. Thank you, Maybe what I was looking for you guys have answered. I've forgotten the meaning because I've used that word so many times (but in different ways of course) that I've been lost. I like that definition you gave, it put a smile on my face.
Author Illusion24 Posted May 2, 2005 Author Posted May 2, 2005 You know what's more depressing...When you realize the people you thought really knew you, don't know you at all...It's scary!
HoldOn Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 My ex was also super excessive. He made me feel that love had to be like a total fantasy of obsession and worship. When I realized that true love isn't like that, it was sad because I wanted the fantasy. But in the long run, I am happier because I realize that true love is NOT worship or obsession, it is security, safety and patience.
Author Illusion24 Posted May 2, 2005 Author Posted May 2, 2005 Wow, HoldOn...you're so right, thanx for lifting my spirits...
blind_otter Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn My ex was also super excessive. He made me feel that love had to be like a total fantasy of obsession and worship. When I realized that true love isn't like that, it was sad because I wanted the fantasy. But in the long run, I am happier because I realize that true love is NOT worship or obsession, it is security, safety and patience. That's probably why I've been sour grapes for so long. And why I kept being a glutton for punishment with my exBF. Stupid a**h*** that he was.
HoldOn Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 I used to think that love had to be this all-ecompassing obssessive thing. I thought my ex was some kind of supernatural being that could do NO wrong. Now I realize that we are all human and I can withhold my love from people who don't deserve it. And I can shower it upon people who do.
Author Illusion24 Posted May 2, 2005 Author Posted May 2, 2005 I talked to my ex...he makes me feel horrible...Am I?? For hurting him the way I did...For putting a hole in his heart...?? I'm sooo sorry, don't know what to do to make the pain go away...I'll never forgive myself for hurting him...but I can't live a lie...I'm out!!
HoldOn Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 NSN, I don't know your whole story... but you can't stay with someone you if you don't feel it. That would be more cruel. Stringing them along would be much more cruel. It's the decent thing to do to let someone go when you know it is over.
blind_otter Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 This is why no contact is usually a good idea. Much love to ya, NSN.
Author Illusion24 Posted May 3, 2005 Author Posted May 3, 2005 B_O It's hard but I think that's the best thing I can do...NC!
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