Tiredofhurting77 Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 I finally reached 24 hours of no contact with this guy. I have been trying for days to stop contacting him. I need support and it's so stupid how hard I'm struggling to release attachment with a guy a barely know. My choice of men in the past had been horrible so I gave it a rest for over a year. Well earlier this year I met a guy and said well we can be friends...what's the harm? He had all the right qualities I wanted in a partner, something deep down told me I shouldn't do it but I went against my gut. Things were fine until we slept together and he start telling me he wanted to be exclusive. I started developing feelings and he pulled back. The texting, calling, visits, slowed down and he said he thinks it was best that we be friends. Even though we were friends the texting, calling, visits increased again. But when I showed any type of affection he said no we are just friends. It hurts because I want things back to the way they were. I tried to buy his affection by buying things for him. (I know not good) When I bought things he would treat me nice momentarily. When I made mistakes he made me feel bad about myself. I started drinking again to ease the pain of rejection then I would drunk dial him and taking Xanax (which is prescribed but still) daily is not good. I ran into a friend of his the other day and he told me I should move on. He didn't go into much detail of why but he said I was going to get hurt just like he hurt his ex. I confront the guy about what his friend said and he never responded. So here I am at 24 hours of no contact. It hurts. I have moments where I want to call him or text but it won't help only set me back especially when he doesn't respond. I woke up this morning in so much pain but I can do this!
Happines Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 I been in no contact for a month now so honestly trust me it gets better I broke up with my boyfriend of two years because he kissed a other girl didn't treat me too nice and it was obvious that he was not invested in relationship as much as I was..after I left he promised he will do all it takes to make it work and will even seek doctors help however he continued behaving exactly the same so I told him that it's clear he doesn't care for me so we should not speak anymore...in the beginning oh my god j could not sleep could not eat could barely get to work because I loved him so much and I could not believe how he was acting...after one week of no contact I think he started seeing someone else already...I have not spoken to him or seen him for a month and to b honest he doesn't look bothered at all so I believe that no matter how many times he told me about his love he never really showed me and if he really loved me he would of made it work like he said he will...well he did non of it and believe me when I tell u u will b glad after a month u cut all the contacts U will still b a bit sad but u will feel so much better so much stronger and happier When the guy loves u he doesn't play games he doesn't manipulate u neither does he hurt In my and ur case it's clear that these guys are both worth it So try ur best to smile
aloneinaz Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 I finally reached 24 hours of no contact with this guy. I have been trying for days to stop contacting him. I need support and it's so stupid how hard I'm struggling to release attachment with a guy a barely know. My choice of men in the past had been horrible so I gave it a rest for over a year. Well earlier this year I met a guy and said well we can be friends...what's the harm? He had all the right qualities I wanted in a partner, something deep down told me I shouldn't do it but I went against my gut. Things were fine until we slept together and he start telling me he wanted to be exclusive. I started developing feelings and he pulled back. The texting, calling, visits, slowed down and he said he thinks it was best that we be friends. Even though we were friends the texting, calling, visits increased again. But when I showed any type of affection he said no we are just friends. It hurts because I want things back to the way they were. I tried to buy his affection by buying things for him. (I know not good) When I bought things he would treat me nice momentarily. When I made mistakes he made me feel bad about myself. I started drinking again to ease the pain of rejection then I would drunk dial him and taking Xanax (which is prescribed but still) daily is not good. I ran into a friend of his the other day and he told me I should move on. He didn't go into much detail of why but he said I was going to get hurt just like he hurt his ex. I confront the guy about what his friend said and he never responded. So here I am at 24 hours of no contact. It hurts. I have moments where I want to call him or text but it won't help only set me back especially when he doesn't respond. I woke up this morning in so much pain but I can do this! Please be very careful with mixing alcohol and benzo's (Xanax). They kill people dead all the time. Think Heath Ledger. That's a very dangerous combo there. Whitney Houston mixed Xanax and alcohol, among other things when she drowned. You need to simply move on. NC is for good, not a set time frame. He's made his intensions clear and is now ignoring you. Pls take the hint. You'll be fine and you'll move on quicker when you stay NC.
Author Tiredofhurting77 Posted July 4, 2015 Author Posted July 4, 2015 Thank you both I needed to hear that!
guest569 Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 I remember that struggle well, trying so hard each day to avoid contacting him. Then it became more about fighting weekly and monthly urges to contact him. Now it's been a few months so far, and 8 months before that, 4 months before that. Each time gets longer. I get very depressed at times but there are highs as well now and it becomes a lot easier as you go. You will fight with yourself to create all sorts of reasons for contacting him just remember that none of them are valid and the longer you go without contact, the stronger you will be.
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