dragonwalker Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 (edited) Hey, So I posted awhile ago about my love life situation which was non existent and I'm 27. Ya, I know, I'm not really sure how it got this point. It's bad as in no experience whatsoever. Anyway, recently I took some steps in the past year to get in much better shape and recently in the last few months I've really noticed some magically boost of confidence I'm not exactly sure from what but I feel like I have a renewed energy to get my love life rolling. I just so happened to enroll in some classes at my local community college to take rereqs for my master's in accounting. There is a girl in my class which I happened to meet at another seminar months before in an information session for this masters in accounting program. She introduced herself again on the first day of class again and we exchanged info the next day in class. This particular class meets every Mon-Thurs for 2 hours. We don't sit together in class because she sits in the back of the class while I sit closer to the front but we walk to our cars together everyday for the past 3 weeks, it's about a 5 minute walk. We've exchanged a few e-mails outside of this time. I think she's attractive and our personalities seem to match up decently especially the emotional and intellectual piece and she laughs at my jokes and things seem to be going well so I got good vibes. So on the last day of class for the week this past Thursday I suggested that we meet outside of class for coffee sometime. She said yes but we realized this weekend will be busy for both so we briefly talked about sometime next weekend because of both of our schedules, the weekend is really the only time. I don't necessarily want to get a play by play of what I should do next but here's where I think it might get a little odd. I haven't communicated with her since that moment but the next time I will see her will be in class and again there will be no free time till the end of the week. Should I try to suggest doing something after? I know she gets up really early for work so I really don't think this is a good idea but it just seems like it will be odd that I'll be so close to her yet so far kind of deal. This might be petty but correct me if I'm wrong but I don't want to sit next to her when we start up class next week because I kind of really do not like sitting further away but yet I don't want her to think I'm giving her the cold shoulder (when I mean further back, there are only 3 rows in the class and I'm sitting in the 2nd while she is right behind me). I think from a confidence perspective I would benefit by continuing to do what I normally do in class. I just feel kind of stuck with our schedules and because this is a course that is condensed into 1 month what normally would take 4 months there is a ton of work to do after class. I'm thinking for now I'll ask her about her schedule this week and plan for something concrete for the weekend like coffee. Given the situation do you people think this seems reasonable? Is there anything else I should consider doing at this point? As a side note, I not only started this course for my education but I actively considered this an opportunity to meet someone so even from the very beginning I did my best while in class to be very aware of my presence and take steps to project confidence whether that was talking to the professor or my classmates. Generally being active and engaged in the class. In fact, I'd say I was trying to hit on another girl in class at the very beginning of the quarter but she let it be known she has a boyfriend so I backed off but I'm sure the girl I asked out saw our friendly banter. At first I thought this might hurt my chances with her but in retrospect it might have helped because it showed that I was willing to be proactive? I don't know if anyone has thoughts on that or something like this in general when you try to pursue 1 person, it fails and you move on but in a small class environment. I'll probably post a separate thread once plans are made about perhaps what I should do on this first meeting. Edited July 4, 2015 by dragonwalker
EgoJoe Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Pick up the phone and call her. Ask her for an early enough coffee date that if it goes well can become dinner which could even transition to a movie or the bar or sex. Continue to do your normal thing in class. Stop over thinking things.
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