Thermals Posted July 3, 2015 Posted July 3, 2015 I'm looking for fellow perfectionists to share their dating experiences. Has your personality trait affected the way you look at your partner(s) in terms of their behaviors, physical attractiveness, etc.?
d0nnivain Posted July 3, 2015 Posted July 3, 2015 No. I only apply my perfectionism to myself & beat myself up over the slightest mistakes I am very forgiving & understanding regarding others. 3
guest569 Posted July 3, 2015 Posted July 3, 2015 I'm critical of myself, my work and strive for perfection in my team and things like having balance and order.. but with dating, it doesn't come into it at all because its all about a feeling. If i really like or love someone then i accept them as they are because thats why I love them!
TheBathWater Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 (edited) I'm looking for fellow perfectionists to share their dating experiences. Has your personality trait affected the way you look at your partner(s) in terms of their behaviors, physical attractiveness, etc.? For me, it's hard to determine where the line is drawn between my perfectionism and justified reason. For example, if I send a message to someone on OLD, and the response I get asks no questions (like I did), does not share their first name (like I did), and is one or two unthoughtful sentences, I write them off and don't bother anymore - regardless of how 'hot' she is. I might interpret it as a sign of entitlement, bratty behavior, poor communication skills, etc... things that some others might say are unfair to judge someone on. And while there may be some truth to that, I do believe in my heart of hearts that the person I'm meant to connect with would give me something to work with. How much of that is the result of my perfectionist personality and how much is actually astute observation? I guess it depends on your perspective. I am highly educated and feel most people lack self-awareness or any real ability to communicate (I blame culture more than I do people themselves). Typically, whenever I encounter someone else intelligent, they respond to me in a particular thoughtful way. Maybe a better way to categorize me then would not be as a perfectionist, but rather as someone who discriminates against those he perceives as uneducated and/or lacking in emotional intelligence. Edited July 4, 2015 by TunaInTheBrine
Redhead14 Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 If you spend your dating life looking for someone who is perfect and think you've found one, they won't have found the same thing.
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