writingmachine Posted July 3, 2015 Posted July 3, 2015 I recently reconnected with a friend from high school that I lost touch with for about a year. Last summer I ran into him at his work and said we should hang out sometime. That never happened, but this summer I thought of him again and sent him a message asking him to hang out again, which he accepted. For the past three weeks we've been getting together a few days a week. The first couple of times were innocent, getting something to eat and then a movie at my place or his place as friends. By the third time we got together I realized I had feelings for him and vice verse. Things also recently got physical. If things continue to go well, I definitely want to bring up the possibility of a relationship, but there are a few things that concern me: 1. He goes to college about 5 hours away. We have both have been in long lasting, about 1.5 years for him and almost 2 years for me, long distance relationships and know that for both of us it's doable, but I'm also aware of the strain that can come with being apart. 2. We're both still in college, but this coming year is my last and it will only be his junior year. He's a pre-med student, which means two more years of undergrad and then med school. I don't want to jump too far into the future, but he will be in school for a while, which I'm okay with, but it could also cause a strain. 3. I'm not sure if we're on the same page, but this most likely is just in my head and me being neurotic. He's definitely interested in more than just physical aspects and we have a lot of the same interests and discuss them while we're together. Knowing the kind of guy is was/is I don't think he's just interested in having a good time, but people can change and there's a small chance I could be wrong. 4. There's a three year age difference between us. I'm 23 and he's 20. I'm not usually the type to think age difference matters, but I guess because we were friends in high school and in many of the same activities where I was a mentor to him, I felt off about us. Now I'm getting over it. So there's the jist of the situation. I know I should have a talk with him in the next couple of weeks about where this is going, if anywhere, but I don't want to bring it up too early and ruin a good thing if he doesn't feel the same way. I'll be extremely upset, but I'd understand. Where do I go from here? Should I just see where things go and see if the discussion about a relationship comes up on it's own?
Carla B Posted July 3, 2015 Posted July 3, 2015 Situations like that are tricky. If I were you I would take it one day at a time because you dont know what he is thinking. Or if you are a more of a blunt person you could just ask instead of trying to read inbetween the lines. Looks like though he is more interested in having fun but I could be wrong.
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