Witcharoo Posted July 3, 2015 Posted July 3, 2015 So to my group of friends I am the one everyone comes to for advice about just about everything and I get updates on all aspects of their life's including their sex life's. My partner and I have been together for a year now and he was my first love, my first everything and he has disabilities that mean that he strain himself too much or it effects his mobility for couple of days afterwards which had never bothered me till lately. All my friends keep texting me tell me that they've just had sex three times in the last hour or that she made him cum 4 times in one session or that he made her orgasm 4 times in the morning and I'm lucky to get it even once or twice a day when I get to see him which isn't often because of my work, plus we live quite far away from each other and now I'm just left feeling like I'm missing out on some vital experience or something because he's all I have ever known. When we do get to have sex it's fantastic, intense and he always makes sure that he satisfies all my needs and I hate that I feel this way and I would never cheat on him but it makes me wonder what sex would be like with someone like my friends partners and I feel guilty as hell for even thinking about it because I know it's not his fault and he would if he could because I've spoken to him about it before. The whole suituation is making me feel really rubbish about myself, but I cant really tell my friends to stop talking about their sex lifes to me because I'm the only person who they can talk to about it but lately it's just been getting me down and I just dont know what to do about it all now. Any advice would be great thanks.
d0nnivain Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 People lie about sex all the time, especially the ones who brag. Your sex life is probably better than theirs because you love your partner. If you want to try to bring more spice or passion into your relationship work with your partner to do that but don't just dump that person seeking somebody else. 2
acrosstheuniverse Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Haha what kind of friends are those that text you with super intimate details about their sex lives? We used to do that kinda thing in our teens when we had just starting out with sex but as a mature adult that's just not something you do. You might talk about it with a close friend once in a while but you don't finish a morning of passionate lovemaking and pick up your phone to report to your uninterested friend how many orgasms you had. Weird. They're bragging so clearly feel they have something to prove, that alone should tell you that things aren't as great as they're making out. Even if they were, if you're happy with your own sex life, that's all that matters. Having sex every day is quite frequent for a relationship a year old! Count yourself lucky. And maybe when your friends text you again, reply and let them know you're rather not hear the intimate details cos it makes you feel uncomfortable to be privy to the specific details of their sex life when you socialise with them and see their partner. 3
preraph Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Your friends are making it up as they go along. They wouldn't feel the need to broadcast their fabulous sex lives if their relationships were the least bit fulfilling. You've got to stop comparing yourself to them. You have a very good sex life and it's as good as anybody else's. If these b**ches are doing it three times in one hour, they're not doing it right and they're not satisfied. Don't share your sex life with them. Just tell them you love your man and you're very happy with the way things are. When they talk about the details of their own, tell them "TMI." 1
sandylee1 Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 This level of discussion is not what mature adults do. Your sex life is good , you have a steady BF, be satisfied with what you have before you do something silly and loose it all. There's no reason you can't experiment with your BF and take things up a notch, but don't do it because of what your friends are saying. 1
DaisyBug Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 (edited) I'm lucky to get it even once or twice a day When we do get to have sex it's fantastic, intense and he always makes sure that he satisfies all my needs. You don't know how lucky you are. Edited July 5, 2015 by DaisyBug 1
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