mustangsally Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 can someone tell me how to let go? My ex broke up with me about 3 months ago for very little reason. It was all VERY, VERY confusing (I have some posts in other forums about it). Anyway, he apparently has a new girlfriend now and has had one for the past 2 months or so. I assume they are just peachy kean and in love (even though I was his first love and our relationship was literally PERFECT)....his away messages have alternated between acting as though he's going to kill himself to saying "Goodnight sweetheart!" I was doing okay recently. I found out i had a serious illness (he broke up with me because of the symptoms of my illness really...angry that i was "too tired to do anything") but I'm doing much better. Things were looking up. Until recently. He IMed a friend...not a mutual friend, but MY friend and was not received very warmly from her, so he ended the conversation. He came to my house, a 20 minute drive out of the way, to give me something very insignificant I had left at his house several months ago. I was doing 100% fine until then. Now I just...get so angry with him. I get so angry that he replaced me within like 3 weeks with some girl he had known for several years....she was just waiting to swoop in on him and he fell for it I guess. He was my first love. And everyone says "Think of the bad in the relationship and WHY you broke up." There was no bad in the relationship. And I DON'T know why we broke up. I haven't talked to him in two months. I wasn't there when he brought the item to my house and did not thank him for it. He seems to be doing great and in "love" with this new girl...although the influx of away messages to her have just suddenly started as I decided not to thank him for the return of the item. Could be purely coincidental, I don't know. I feel like nothing. Like i meant nothing and he never thinks about me. Like I'm just disposable. And I HAVE asked him for answers several times. He would not answer me and gave me some BS excuses like "Oh...well i've been afraid of you leaving me for someone else." and "You'll find someone better than me." But no REAL answer. And I don't think he left me FOR this new girl because we did get back together for a bit after the break. I then told him I had started seeing someone new (I had but it was broken off) 4 days after our split and he complained that he didn't have anyone yet and how it was so soon of me. But alas, a couple of weeks later, he and this girl are together! And I'm finding it near impossible to cope and move on. I've put up a front that I've moved on. I've put up a front to him that I'm seeing someone else. But....I'm not fooling myself like...at all. I don't know what to do or how to get over it.
moon Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I totally know that damning feeling when you get dumped AND they march off happily to a new relationship. That's what happened to me. But the only info I have about my ex is inside my head, because I don't contact him. We broke up six months ago and we dated around three years, knew him for four. I still hurt here and there too. The thing that has been the hardest to get over is that my ex seems to go out with girls that all look alike and I have met one of his other exes and his current (maybe--not sure if they are still together) girlfriend and we all have the same features and certain similar personality traits. But we definately all look alike. Isn't that weird? I have never dated a guy that looked even remotely similar to the last one. I mean of course I might see personality traits that are similar, but never looks. All my exes ex girlfriends look the SAME!!!! Too weird. That's when it really hurts. Anyway, good luck to you. It's natual to feel hurt over something like that. Time and more time puts the memory further back in your mind.
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