lostboyfromsouth Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 When me and my ex broke up (She dumped me) she said we'll meet in a month to talk. Well its 2 days to the big 'meeting day' and a lot of good things have happened to me. I broke no contact to message her saying; "Hey, sorry for contacting you but i just feel like meeting up wouldn't be a good idea unless you think that we could work on our relationship to make it better, stronger, to move forward, forget the past, wipe the slate clean and have a happy healthy future together. I really still feel its possible. So much has changed lately. I think it'd be a good idea to talk. Ive really missed having you around but meeting up just to say goodbye doesn't seem right. If you want to talk about our relationship then let me know and ill still meet you. Id like to see you. Im doing great and a lot of amazing things are happening right now but i wish i could share whats going on with you because its pretty awesome. I still love you. I do hope we can work this out. Either way let me know. All my love Oli. xxx" So anyway i sent her this text and she did reply by saying; "i can see where your coming from and it sounds like your really happy. I'd still like to meet saturday if thats ok with you? I hear you have a new job now? Thats exciting. Its lovely to hear from you and all my love too xxx' Ok so this got me a bit confused by thinking well she didn't really mention anything i said? anyway a couple of short messages later she put '"Too talk about like you said about a happy healthy future" I then replied with "That sounds cool but I'm wondering if that involves me with you" She put "Well i hope so, lets meet up on saturday, I'm sure we have a lot to catch up on, is 7 still ok?" I put " Well if you still want to work on our relationship then yeah thats cool, Let me know" She put "Okey well then its settled. Alright 7 it is xxx" This was yesterday and we've had no contact again all day and probably won't till saturday.. My real question is, is this a good sign? Does it seem she wants to take me back? Or do you think she just wants to meet to see how my life going but she just wants to be friends? She didn't really give a true answer. Should i even turn up? Or should i text her saying "are we going to get back together saturday? Because if were just meeting to talk and become 'friends' then i don't want too.." NEED SOME HELP! LET ME KNOW WHAT YOUR GUYS THINK!!
aloneinaz Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 Listen, PICK UP THE PHONE and call her. Too much can be lost thru text. Pin her down for clarity about what this meet is all about. YOU tell her that you only want to met if it has the potential to get you two back together. Now.. question whether you really want to reconcile? Why did she dump you the first time? What's going to keep her from doing it again? Not much could have changed in only a month. Solid relationships that last NEVER include a break or break up. EVER.. You need to decide if you want to risk round two of being dumped again. Right now, SHE feels like she has all the power over you and is pulling your strings. Most women lose respect for guys in cases like this.
mightycpa Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 I'm afraid that your uncertainty is caused because of TOO MANY WORDS. A better text would have probably been: Hey, our meeting date is coming up, and I've been thinking. If you want to meet to talk about getting back together, I'm all for it. But if you want to talk about anything else, I'm going to skip it. Not replying will tell me all I need to know. Oh well, too late for that. It almost sounds like she wants you in her multi-level-marketing health products downline. She's being pretty coy, and that's not a good sign. I don't know that you have much choice. It's like she's going to make an announcement or something.
frigginlost Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 When me and my ex broke up (She dumped me) she said we'll meet in a month to talk. Well its 2 days to the big 'meeting day' and a lot of good things have happened to me. I broke no contact to message her saying; "Hey, sorry for contacting you but i just feel like meeting up wouldn't be a good idea unless you think that we could work on our relationship to make it better, stronger, to move forward, forget the past, wipe the slate clean and have a happy healthy future together. I really still feel its possible. So much has changed lately. I think it'd be a good idea to talk. Ive really missed having you around but meeting up just to say goodbye doesn't seem right. If you want to talk about our relationship then let me know and ill still meet you. Id like to see you. Im doing great and a lot of amazing things are happening right now but i wish i could share whats going on with you because its pretty awesome. I still love you. I do hope we can work this out. Either way let me know. All my love Oli. xxx" So anyway i sent her this text and she did reply by saying; "i can see where your coming from and it sounds like your really happy. I'd still like to meet saturday if thats ok with you? I hear you have a new job now? Thats exciting. Its lovely to hear from you and all my love too xxx' Ok so this got me a bit confused by thinking well she didn't really mention anything i said? anyway a couple of short messages later she put '"Too talk about like you said about a happy healthy future" I then replied with "That sounds cool but I'm wondering if that involves me with you" She put "Well i hope so, lets meet up on saturday, I'm sure we have a lot to catch up on, is 7 still ok?" I put " Well if you still want to work on our relationship then yeah thats cool, Let me know" She put "Okey well then its settled. Alright 7 it is xxx" This was yesterday and we've had no contact again all day and probably won't till saturday.. My real question is, is this a good sign? Does it seem she wants to take me back? Or do you think she just wants to meet to see how my life going but she just wants to be friends? She didn't really give a true answer. Should i even turn up? Or should i text her saying "are we going to get back together saturday? Because if were just meeting to talk and become 'friends' then i don't want too.." NEED SOME HELP! LET ME KNOW WHAT YOUR GUYS THINK!! Really? Does she need to draw you a map? She is either: a) wanting to work things out. or b) one of the most cruel women to walk the face of the earth. If it's "b", you're better off... I once asked a girl out through a text. You know what she sent in a reply? A smiley face. That screwed with me for hours. I finally sent a text and said that sounds like a pass, so no problem, enjoy the rest of your day. She immediately fired back a text "OMG it meant YES!" Sometimes texting can cause all kinds of mis-read things....
ravfour4 Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 If anything you shouldn't meet up because you're scared. If you weren't you wouldn't have asked her if it was about you two 3 times! She read your first text (which was a bit long winded) and said she'd like to meet up, then you made her clarify twice that it was about working on you 2. You were a bit clingy and she still said yes! Good sign, but the fear you showed as not. Will you be able to stay calm and confident even if things aren't amazing right off the bat? I'd say 65% chance she wants to sincerely reconcile, 35% chance she just what's to see you and catch up because she still cares about you and wants to hear what you're up to.
Clarence_Boddicker Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 You're stuck now. Just go, but be prepared for all the usual bs. Let her talk at first. It should be pretty clear what her intent is.
Chi townD Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 Yeah dude, she's deflecting all the really important issues you tried to get her to commit to. .i.e. only talking about working things out Never once did she agree to it. I wouldn't expect a good outcome from this. I think she might want to make a last ditch effort to Friend zone you.
54JA Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 It's hard to tell. The texts sounds really polite. I don't know her so I don't know if this is how she usually texts people. I don't think you will be able to resist not going, especially when she made it sound like she's open to reconciliation. Even if you can resist and cancel the meet up this time, you are probably going to end up have a lot more questions in a a few days down the road and end up contacting her later. I know I would. That would seem more desperate then. It's better to go now.
lolablue17 Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 Well, you made the cake. your only condition was "to talk about getting back together". Well, she agreed, and the conversation can go like this: You: Well i want to get back together. She: But i don't. There you go... She promised to only "talk" with you about it, she is not committed to decide about it. I suggest, if you don't want to make a fool of yourself, stop making conditions or terms, and grow balls. If you want to meet her do it without childish conditions. If you don't - Just say No!
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