IronZ Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Friday was another good date, we went for a nice walk and ended the night with a few drinks, again we got on well and there's was something there. A little kiss at the end of the night and we went our separate ways. I had some pretty devastating family news last week so needed to attend to that this weekend, I to.d her this and she was so lovely about it, said to call her anytime if I needed to talk. When I got home on Friday I decided to hide my profile on pof, I do get a few messages on there and decided I don't want my head turned so god myself, I noticed she was online so thought Id text again thanking for a nice night and making she she got home ok, I said I'd taken myself off for many reasons and one of them was that I'm not a multi dater but didn't expect her to do the same its just me and my personal belief. She replied saying I could talk to any girl if I wanted, then said she's really attracted to me and can see herself liking me more and more the more often we meet. All fine but my friend who's also on POF has said that she's constantly online and has been since Friday night. No biggy especially after 2 dates but something to watch out for. Haven't used PoF but I do have OKC and I have the phone app. I'll just say that often someone might appear online just because the app is open. Or it could be that she's just on there checking her messages (women get messaged a lot on dating sites). It may not mean she's seeing anyone else or even interested in anyone else. For now since this is a new thing I would let that go especially since she told you she liked you. Keep seeing her a couple more times and when you're ready to make her your gf you can politely (and rightfully) ask her to stop checking her options since you'll be exclusive.
wizer Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 it's not a big issue for me, I took mine down because I know from past experiences the grass is always greener syndrome could kick in. Grass is greener syndrome? Seriously you've known her for about a week. It's way too soon to pull your profile, and for the reasons you give it's absurd. Grass hasn't even had time to germinate yet.
Author Rko28 Posted July 6, 2015 Author Posted July 6, 2015 Grass is greener syndrome? Seriously you've known her for about a week. It's way too soon to pull your profile, and for the reasons you give it's absurd. Grass hasn't even had time to germinate yet. In the past ive got to known someone a bit then someone else has messaged and ive put my attention to them, and then it happens again and you just keep on looking for someone better and better each time. Then comes the point where you think, "jeez, I wish I had seen such and such a bit more" I like her and for me I only date one at a time mainly, although I am tempted to meet this other girl still. If nothing happens then ill put my profile back up. Its no biggy for me at all.
wizer Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 I like her and for me I only date one at a time mainly, although I am tempted to meet this other girl still. If nothing happens then ill put my profile back up. Its no biggy for me at all. Dating one woman at a time is a waste of time. Take it from someone who's been there. You're going to have a lot more bad dates than good ones. When it comes to online dating, putting all your eggs in one basket doesn't make a lot of sense.
Author Rko28 Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 It seems like my initial doubts were right. We havent talked much these past few days at all since our date friday. She knew I had a pretty crappy saturday with my bad family news so text to say good luck with it which was sweet, I replied saying thank you what have you got planned this weekend and had no reply. Sunday i got back and thought id just touch base, hey hows your weekend been, im back now, no reply. Monday - Heard nothing All this was very unusual, like I said, she usualy replies pretty quick albeit not deep replies. She had read the messages too. Last night I decided to question, I asked if everything was ok and I got the "sorry my phones been playing up, im getting a new one xx" i said not to worry even though I thought it was odd and asked if she would like to do anything thursday night, she replied with "i cant sorry im busy next few weeks now xx" Ive been here before, I know the signs, when you're not in to someone but not got the bottle to tell them or holding on to them for a fall back. I said ok maybe see you soon then and that i didnt think she was that interested. Her reply was "what makes you think that, ive not given you any reason to think im not" - nicely worded, she hasnt admitted shes not interested but hasnt said she is either, id say shes quite clever. I replied saying its just a gut feeling and had no reply back. Another time waster on OLD shocker. Going out with this other girl tomorrow now, had enough of miss broken phone girl.
Lansing Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Wow, so flakey. All the sudden busy for the next few weeks while she spends all day on POF. This girl sounds like she has no life and just is out there getting attention from guys on POF. These kind of stories make me not even want to bother with dating in general but in particular even trying online dating again. 1
Author Rko28 Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Wow, so flakey. All the sudden busy for the next few weeks while she spends all day on POF. This girl sounds like she has no life and just is out there getting attention from guys on POF. These kind of stories make me not even want to bother with dating in general but in particular even trying online dating again. Same here my friend, same here. What makes it worse was her asking if I had time for a relationship the other week because I had made plans before even meeting her. If she was more legit like, hey I want to see you but just so you know im going to be busy these next couple of weeks then that wouldve been fine, but it was very blunt. Without going in to too much detail, on saturday I went to say goodbye to my aunt whos been suffering from a terminal illness. She hasnt even asked how I am after it or how it went so I think youre absolutley right, shes in it for herself and attention. A real shame as she seemed genuine and said shes always honest with people and wouldnt waste their time if she didnt like them in a romantic way.
lj.cc Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Hey everyone, long time no speak. Since I last posted not much has gone on in the dating world, ive remained on pof, spoke to a few but for some reason got nervous about meeting them and made excuses. Last week I man'd up and went out with a girl, we had literally only been talking on pof for 4 days, she messaged first and tbh I didnt expect much from it, shes a beautiful looking girl but seemed, im sorry to say this, a bit boring over text. I mean she replies to texts, asks questions but sometimes gives one word answers etc. Anyway, I thought id go, break the ice and remind me what dating was. She was the opposite of her texts, talkative, funny, smart and we had a great time, plus she was even more beautiful in real life. She always said that she would be 100% honest if she was interested after our date, when we were leaving she said she would love to see me again and we had a quick kiss. things were good. Our next date wasnt concrete, I was out of town last weekend and said when she suggetsed sunday that I might be late back so for her to make plans and we can do it another night. I sensed she was a bit irked about this but they were plans that i had before meeting her. I specifically asked her to let me know when she was free. Monday night she said she had a boring night and had nothign to do, this was about 10:00pm, I said she should've said she was free as we couldve gone on date 2, she agreed, I then asked when she was free next and she said she didnt know. Tuesday night came and I like to plan my week so i text asking again, any idea when you might be free next, her reply was "tomorrow xxx" I asked if she wanted to go out and she said "yeah xxx" I replied saying good job I asked as it mightve been another monday situation. I got the impression here she wasnt THAT interested. The above was sent over whatsapp and i saw it was delivered but she didnt read it, worried i was nagging about seeing her I left it to see if she would reply. 7pm yesterday she replied saying "yeah xxx" in response to my last text. She said she had a headache and had been sleeping, apolgised for late reply. I asked if she was interedted as I felt as if I was chasing her asking to see her again, this is when she went a bit wacko, she said she was the one doing the chasing, that id let her down sunday and hadnt text her all day to make plans last night. I was a bit taken a back, ok maybe I shouldve text yesterday but I was mildly annoyed she didnt seem to be making an effort, I also said I made no plans on sunday to see her and even said for her to make plans. we talked some more and she said shes used to be being let down by men and wasnt surprised by it. we sorted it out and agreeed to meet tomorrow. Lookign back im wondering if im getting involved with some massive red flags here or if indeed I was to blame? Ive also been speaking to another girl on pof who i might be meeting next week for the first time, im just not sure if i should or not? RED FLAG! If they start off bitching, times that by a million down the road.
xcupid Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Sometimes you just have to put it out there and ask a woman what they're looking for and whether they have time for a relationship. She seems flakey at best and so-so interested. Maybe playing a little hard-to-get, too. But then it's early stages in getting to know each other altho her actions don't seem to match what she's telling you. If she was interested in you she'd tell you why she's busy in the next few weeks and keep in touch with you somehow. She can email you if her phone is acting up. My gut feeling is that you'll go crazy chasing her. So you have to decide whether she's worth that or whether to move on to someone else.
Author Rko28 Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Sometimes you just have to put it out there and ask a woman what they're looking for and whether they have time for a relationship. She seems flakey at best and so-so interested. Maybe playing a little hard-to-get, too. But then it's early stages in getting to know each other altho her actions don't seem to match what she's telling you. If she was interested in you she'd tell you why she's busy in the next few weeks and keep in touch with you somehow. She can email you if her phone is acting up. My gut feeling is that you'll go crazy chasing her. So you have to decide whether she's worth that or whether to move on to someone else. She wants a relationship, isn't on the site for anything else and has told me a few times that she's serious about finding a nice guy to become her bf on it. I've cut my losses with her, if she wants me she knows where to find me and possibly I'd think about meeting her again. I think we all know she's probably met someone else "better" than me on it. Her loss
Author Rko28 Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 haha im going back over my threads. wow this girl was a fruit loop. Shortly after this liek a day or 2 after she sent me a snapchat of her and another man on the beach. Wasnt bothered at all but deleted her off snapchat. A month down the line I saw on facebook that she got engaged to someone and they are expecting a baby. She wanted everything yesterday it seems.
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