Desert70 Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 (edited) I've known this man, who is 5 years younger than me since September of last year. We met at the school where his children attend, but due to professionalism we tried not to talk about us until May 2015, end of school year. Both of us are divorced and have children. We've been talking and texting on a daily basis since then, and went out for dinner two days ago. This first dinner together and our conversation were wonderful. We talked about our families for hours. Here's my confusion: During our conversation he said that he's not really trying to look for another woman, which lead me to believe that all he needs is a good friend. Later that night he continued texting and insinuated that he really wants to spend the night with me. Then he called me and asked me to come over to his place, which of course I didn't do. Last night he asked me again, but called me and told me that he really wants to be intimate with me, but is afraid to lose my friendship because he really appreciates me. I'm confused as to what exactly he wants from me. If all he wants is a good friend that's fine with me, but don't ask me to come over and spend the night. I've been divorced for 5 years and never dated after that. I like him, but I'm not desperate, and wouln't like to get hurt. Edited July 2, 2015 by Desert70 Spelling
WhatYouWantToHear Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 He wants a sex buddy. You only get hurt when expectations aren't realistic or someone lies. If you can accept this type of relationship go for it.
54JA Posted July 3, 2015 Posted July 3, 2015 I think he made it pretty clear. Even though he did not say the pieces together in a single setting, the gist of it is that he just wants a physical intimacy without being in a relationship. If someone sees you as a relationship material, he would not say "I am not looking for a relationship." Everything is up to you now.
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