Sweets1919 Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 Thanks to all of you for your great words this past week. It is a bit scary going back to being single, but I would rather be happy and single and regain control of my life than be stuck with a liar who makes me sad. Are there really quality single men out there at the age of 30-35??? We hear so much about guys with baggage, issues, addictions, violence, infidelity etc.....I wonder how many "good ones" are really out there and are available. I am proud of myself for ending this immediately (after I gave him the second chance last Fall). My previous bf and I were "on/off" for three years...each time I thought he would change, grow, realize how much he loves me and give me everything I want and deserve. I learned from that that "people show you who they are and you have to believe them"....so I am out of this one with a little disappointment, but with excitement for my future with someone who can be the man that I want to give my heart to. Any tips for meeting a man who is single who has morals and integrity??? Or just leave it to chance?
yuv Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 This is worded in a very off-putting way, although I totally understand you don't mean it that way. As if men over 30 and single hasn't got any morals! (Again, I know you didn't mean it to sound that way -- I'm having a chuckle.) But in all seriousness, morals are the very reason I wanted to post. BTW, I'm 34. The idea behind this post is this: you might meet someone that you'd like to date but you decide not to because he seems unappealing for whatever reason morally...... When I was 32, I met the woman who would later become my wife. She heard that I was dating two women, and about to enter into a relationship with a third. My wife-to-be became friends with me, but vowed to steer clear of any romantic involvement. What kind of guy gets involved with three women? Here's what was going on that she wasn't aware of: when I was 32, I was in a relationship with a 32 year old who wanted an open relationship. Her marriage had just ended and she wanted to be open to dating other men. I agreed. I was also in a relationship with a 23 year old. She had been really hurt after a bf in college, whom she was exclusive with for all four years, dumped her unceremoniously. She vowed that she wouldn't be in an exclusive relationship again until she'd played the field, and so she also wanted to be open to dating other men. I agreed. (As an aside, of course these two had a problem with the fact that I was seeing another person and they weren't.) So these two relationships were dying on the vine. The 32 year old was hitting the online dating sites really hard; I was her rebound. The 23 year old was a party girl who by her own admission gave impossibly mixed signals. The third was a female friend of mine who I went on a two week vacation with -- we were pals nonsexually -- but she was calling me at work, hence the third name in the mix. I told this woman everything when she asked one day. She'd assumed I was a Rovin' Romeo, and was surprised to hear that I didn't like open relationships but agreed to them because these two women made it a condition of dating them, was surprised to hear that these were coming to an end, and was surprised to find out that the third woman was only quite literally a friend. I broke it off with the two and started a relationship with this woman, and we are happy with each other... But that wouldn't have happened if she hadn't asked me for the whole sordid story.
Marshbear Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 Are there really quality single men out there at the age of 30-35??? We hear so much about guys with baggage, issues, addictions, violence, infidelity etc.....I wonder how many "good ones" are really out there and are available. I happen to be a quality 31 year old single male. I have no kids and no I am not weird or perverted. I have not found the right women for me. Are there any quality single women out there between 28 and 35?????
Author Sweets1919 Posted May 2, 2005 Author Posted May 2, 2005 I guess it just takes patience and knowing when to end the relationships that arent' giving us what we want.
RecordProducer Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 Try the dating sites. Then you won't be limited strictly to your area.
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